The thing is, if you're autistic it's super easy to find out who's neurodivergent - it's everyone you've ever vibed with.

If you're not, you probably already wanted to stop talking to me.

The game ended years ago: https://xkcd.com/391/

You won. Congratulations.

Oh fuck you too. I didn't finish reading the comment and wouldn't have lost if it wasn't for your comment

My friend was like that. He had a lot of friends who were girls, and the way that he handled that was by putting us all in the "friend" box (he was bi, so he did the same for guys, but given that most guys are straight, that wasn't as necessary). It was a great method until he ended up hooking up with his best friend — it was a surprise to no-one but him. He walked around looking shellshocked for a week.

This reminds me of this scene from Tommy Boy

tl;dw - Tommy Boy is trying to sell auto parts to save his family's business. He gets all stressed out in sales meetings but is able to talk a surly waitress into getting him some chicken wings because the chicken wings don't matter.

So the next time you're talking to a cute lady just remember: Chicken wings.

Hormone driven anxiety. You don't actually like those women. You haven't spoken to them so you don't know if you like them. You horny them.

Jerk off before you leave the house. It'll help.

How can you know you're not interested without having a conversation? Try shifting your focus to having a pleasant conversation, even if that leads to nothing. Not that that is easy all the time but if you're chatting on a dating app or something it should be doable since it's not exactly real time. If it's in real life just own up to it by saying you're nervous.

Stop talking to women as if you're trying to get into their underwear. Speak to them like someone you want to be friends with and if there's interest both ways something might happen and it might not happen and that's OK because you made a friend.

I get so nervous and overthink that I stop functioning

Otherwise known as being a human. Some people more socially anxious than others, but having social interactions helps a lot. Just don't try to have social interactions for a goal, so to speak. Talk to people about stuff you all interested in, and you will be surprised how quickly the awkwardness melts.

So, I can't really explain how to do this, but for me the way I overcame that was talking myself into not being interested in them first so I could manage a conversation and get to know them more and from there whatever happens, happens. Obviously you don't do this long term because you end up with that friendzone/girlfriendzone situation that makes people feel used but if you're just getting to know someone initially I think it's fine. It's also allowed me to filter some out when I learned more about their personality and realized I didn't like them as much as I thought I did or they made it clear they weren't into me like that.

The way I see it some people are the type to fall in love head over heels and it gives them the gutso to tell the loved ones how they feel , which can work by the way (everybody enjoys feeling that kind of love). The drawback is often that the type of people that burn that bright runs out of fuel quite soon.

I'm not saying one is better than the other just different strokes for different folks.

may I have the name of your list (so I can remember it of course)?

I'll have to give it a try sometime

All the Finns I know are delightfully weird.

Oh, I've met one of those, I call her Mom.

I should visit new Jersey one day, see what all the hype is about

Yes! Every time I see someone making NJ the butt of a joke, I feel the need to reply with a love letter to New Jersey, because it's legit awesome and I love it 🤍

"DEATH BY SNU-SNU!"