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[–] 1 point 1 year ago

You're on Lemmy, so I'm assuming you're of a geeky mentality. If so, a local hackspace/hackerspace/makerspace would be a good bet.

On paper, my local one is a communal collection of tools we can all use. In practice however, it's an excellent social group for fellow weirdos. We just also have some really fun toys to use, when we need them.

https://wiki.hackerspaces.org/List_of_Hacker_Spaces

It's not fully inclusive of all of them, but a good starting point.

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  • [+] 17 points 1 year ago (2 children)
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    This is correct, but, imo, incomplete.

    The fact is, some of these groups kind of suck. Maybe they're cliquish. Or maybe they are all dicks, or are judgemental about people who arent in the group. Or maybe they just aren't your vibe for whatever reason.

    If you are trying to make friends, I think the advise shouldn't be "join a hobby or club for something you're interested in" but "try out every hobby or club for everything you might be interested in"!

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  • [–] 26 points 1 year ago (3 children)

    Board games. Either just standard board games and chat while you play, or something like wavelength, that's a question, or herd mentality to actually get to know people through the game.

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    On the other side, I notice that when I'm meeting up with friends, we sometimes get focused so much on the game, that we don't really talk anymore about things going on in our lives. Sometimes that's good, but if you are a person that finds it difficult to talk and focus on a game at the same time, it can be kinda frustrating.

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  • [–] 4 points 1 year ago

    Yes, I've met a bunch of interesting people through board games, and one of them is one of my closest friends now! Facebook and Meetup are the top ways to connect, though I try to also promote the lowly, nonprofit GameNight.host whenever I can.

    Anyway, Hard to Get is another, solid cooperative discussion game: it's like Codenames, except everyone is on the same team that's trying to pare the grid down to just the 1 assassin word; the clue giver gives highly restricted, awkward/irrelevant clues about it versus all the rest.

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  • [–] 12 points 1 year ago

    Walking around in the early evening and stopping wherever people are gathering.

    I was just popping out for salad greens, and ran across a group of young people having a picnic on the sidewalk. They had way too much food and were offering to share it with everyone who passed by. I wasn't hungry but I sat down and joined the picnic anyway. Great people! I stayed for over half an hour and I'm so glad I did.

    And this isn't a one-off. This is how I met my wife, too, sixteen years ago. You gotta be open to spontaneous experiences.

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  • [–] 10 points 1 year ago (5 children)

    Rock climbing, go to your local climbing gym (if you have one) and take an intro class and then go hang out once you understand the basics. It’s such a welcoming community and people are really friendly and helpful towards beginners. Gyms also have new climber nights depending on the gym and those are great chances to meet people.

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  • [–] 4 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    Yeah, except that it's $20 per visit. Ridiculous.

    The membership at my local is still $60/mo (and is about to increase) so it's not much better.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    Lots of gyms have need-based discounts, or will hire you to work, like, 2 shifts per month in return for a free membership. If you already have friends at the gym, they can often give you a guest pass. And some gyms give out free days for meetup groups, or classes that happen at the gym.

    Unfortunately, more and more we are in the age of the corporate climbing gym, where they jack up prices but brag about "diversity". The grungy old gyms where a lot of the real community building in climbing happened are slowly fading away.

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  • [–] 8 points 1 year ago

    Team sports

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  • [–] 7 points 1 year ago

    Playing pool.

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  • [–] 6 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    That depends on what your interests and hobbies are.

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  • [–] 5 points 1 year ago

    Volunteering or similar work, like lending a hand at small local theater or sports events. Depending on the work they might involve some downtime when you can chat with others and get to know them.

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  • [–] 5 points 1 year ago

    Another one I have not read in this thread yet: seek out (or organize) activities in your neighbourhood.

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    Fighting games. There's a reason the FGC still puts so much emphasis on offline play. Go to your locals, go to majors, don't just sit there playing ranked at home!

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  • [–] 4 points 1 year ago

    Larping works great for me.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 year ago (3 children)

    Great question! I use Meetup and Bumble BFF. I'm old though...

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    Meetup used to be great, but seems to be enshittifying more with every passing day.

    Are there good alternatives or other ways to find groups to join?

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  • [–] 3 points 1 year ago*

    Go to meetup.com, look for subjects you're interested in, and find a local meetup to join. Can be almost anything - wine tasting, board games, gardening, whatever. Pretty much any hobby or professional interest. I met my D&D game group that way before COVID and we're still playing weekly. There are even meetups just to hang out in a group.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 year ago

    Board Games!

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  • [–] 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

    You could try DND open play events at hobby shops.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago

    Libraries tend to have bulletin boards filled with upcoming community events. Plus then you're already at the library so you can grab a book or a movie or something too

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago

    I've never gone to one but I have a friend that highly recommends fuck up nights (https://en.fuckupnights.com/).

    Apparently it's a group that like meets up and like tells each other how they fucked up at work/in life/whatever. Kind of works like a support group but also helps to develop public speaking in a super judgement free environment.

    Not totally my cup of tea but it sounds super interesting.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago

    Chess, book clubs, group running.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago

    Dancing. There could be many different styles - see what seems interesting for you.

    Boardgame events.

    Sporty/exercise events (like, walk with others from X to Y).

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  • [–] -2 points 1 year ago

    War (crimes) you'll be bonded for live threw trauma

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