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[–] 29 points 6 months ago (1 child)

The people who affected me the most did it in such way that I am grateful they are no longer part of my life. Can't thank myself enough for cutting any ties with them.

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  • [–] 5 points 6 months ago

    Yeah, the question is framed poorly. Not all effects on one’s life are good.

    Also, with the (possible) exception of kids who grow up in the foster system, I would argue your parents have the largest effect on your life, good or bad. Whether you recognize it or not.

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  • [–] 13 points 6 months ago (4 children)

    Occasionally I’ll tell my wife thanks for marrying me. I’m a very gratitude-heavy sort of person. If I’m grateful, they’ll know it.

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  • [–] 6 points 6 months ago (3 children)

    Unless they have a matching personality, showing a lot of gratitude can easily turn unattractive to most people, because it often comes from a position of insecurity... Have a sense of measure even for gratitude is what I'm saying (but this is very much like a patient advising the doctor, because I'm very gratitude-heavy myself).

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  • [–] 3 points 6 months ago (2 children)

    Wait wait wait, hold on a second, are you explaining to me, how to interact with my own wife? The one I’ve been married to for ten years?

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  • [–] 7 points 6 months ago

    Ah, no, just giving a glimpse of my own very subjective perspective, based on a relationship where the language of gratitude was decidedly a one-sided affair: neither appreciated nor reciprocated by the other.

    I obviously don't know your situation, knew even less before you mentioned ten years, and know less still about the situation of other people reading this conversation, so this was a general comment. We can sometimes miss the fact that other people have completely different interpretations of things that seem almost axiomatic to us.

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  • [–] 7 points 6 months ago

    I once wrote 90 % of a thank you letter to a school teacher who

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  • [–] 5 points 6 months ago (1 child)

    Why would I thank my abusers?

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  • [–] 2 points 6 months ago

    Why would I thank them? They ruined my life

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  • [–] 2 points 6 months ago

    A few years ago I gushed in a DM to a dj/YouTuber who is the foundation of my music taste. I watched a ton of his hip-hop sample breakdowns when I was a kid

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  • [–] 2 points 6 months ago

    My ex wife subjected me to over a decade of emotional, verbal, physical, and sexual abuse. I spent our entire marriage feeling trapped, that I had to hold it together “for the sake of the kids,” and that I had no alternatives. Eventually I imploded, ended up institutionalized, and she used the situation to convince every one of her friends and mine that she was the victim.

    If I had the chance today, I’d thank her with several applications of a crowbar to her temple.

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  • [–] 2 points 6 months ago

    Every day, in my prayers.

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  • [–] 1 point 6 months ago

    No way I am thanking Trump as the person who affected me the most.

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  • [–] 1 point 6 months ago

    Mr. Rogers died 23 years ago, unfortunately.

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  • [–] 1 point 6 months ago

    I thank my husband dozens of times per day, and vice versa

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  • [–] [S] -1 points 6 months ago

    I never ask questions like this until I am satisfied with my own answer.

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  • [–] 0 points 6 months ago

    I thank him every day

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  • [–] 0 points 6 months ago

    Yesterday. And almost every day

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