Ah, no, just giving a glimpse of my own very subjective perspective, based on a relationship where the language of gratitude was decidedly a one-sided affair: neither appreciated nor reciprocated by the other.

I obviously don't know your situation, knew even less before you mentioned ten years, and know less still about the situation of other people reading this conversation, so this was a general comment. We can sometimes miss the fact that other people have completely different interpretations of things that seem almost axiomatic to us.

Sounds like you're not married to a psychopath. Congratulations!