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[+] 117 points 7 months ago (15 children)
  • [–] 58 points 7 months ago (8 children)

    Doesn't even need to be a particularly shitty name. All that's necessary is the individual feels strongly enough about not being called their deadname.

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  • [+] 28 points 7 months ago (7 children)
  • [–] 14 points 7 months ago (6 children)

    Irish names can be tough. Ive only text chatted with an online friend (This was early 2000 so voice chat wasnt common outside of raiding/coop games), and that meant that Ive trained in the completely wrong pronounciation of Siobhan (Im swedish) which made it weird when I met her and needed to retrain my brain.

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  • [+] 12 points 7 months ago (5 children)
  • [–] 5 points 7 months ago (4 children)

    I think I know the right way to say the name you replied to, but how the hell pronounce the one you wrote?

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  • [+] 6 points 7 months ago (3 children)
  • [–] 4 points 7 months ago (2 children)

    That kinda tracks, actually, from the little I've studied the Irish language. Trying to understand it from the English alphabet can't help, though, right?

    For sure don't know how that's supposed to be said, but I'd bet they just go by Izzy.

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  • [–] 14 points 7 months ago

    Some parents really pick the shittiest names imaginable for their offspring and no one should blame the latter for changing them legally.

    One day all those girls who were named Khaleesi are gonna absolutely fill up the cemetery of deadnames.

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  • [–] 33 points 7 months ago (2 children)

    I was told the term comes from your dead name being what they put on your tombstone. The name you'd be unwillingly known as after you died. The erasure of trans lives by transphobic family members. I don't think its wrong to use it outside of that context but it would be bad to lose that history.

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  • [–] 16 points 7 months ago (3 children)

    Twitter has a deadname. It's the one case where I recommend using it.

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  • [–] 16 points 7 months ago

    Fuck Reddit and Fuck Spez.

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  • [–] 4 points 7 months ago

    Earliest sign of me being trans was that I hated my name, and would always use an alias whenever possible πŸ˜…

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