what father is so disengaged from their kids that they wouldn't want to spend more time with them, given the option?

Boomers, you said it yourself. Being a stay at home dad was unheard of and seen as emasculating. So silly.

To be fair, some people aren't great at being a homemaker--it's a particular passion and skill set and it's not for everyone. But blindly drawing that distinction on gender lines is definitely a boomer thing.

Had an older guy at work who had four kids, and when it came up in conversation, he proudly noted that he had never changed a diaper. Told him that I'd be mortified to admit I was such a useless dad.

I'm sitting here cuddling with my infant son and I never want to go back to work. I'll have to (so will my wife), and I hate that for both of us. But I definitely don't want to.

Tbh, I don't want to be any kind of dad.

You’d think so, but they’ve done studies and there tends to be more marital issues in families where the woman makes more of, or all of, the money.

Personally I agree that it shouldn’t be defined along gender lines. We don’t have kids, but my husband is way better with babies and children than I am. It would make much more sense (if we could afford it) for me to work and him to stay home. But it seems that, society-wise, we have a long way to go.

I literally dream of this.

Yeah, I turn down invitations to go out after my nighttime board meetings if it means I get home in time to put my kids to bed. I take them to school in the morning and pick them up just about every day. Sometimes they get on every single one of my nerves, but I love being home with them, playing with them, making dinners that they complain about and it makes my blood boil. It's all part of the package. The whole idea of the silent workaholic dad is just crazy to me. I want to be the one who takes them to the park.

I have a hard time with this. I'm a teacher, love my job, and genuinely think its important. But I hate that I have to spend so much time away from my kids and even when Im home I end up spending hours planning, grading, etc.

Just kinda sucks.

I mean I hate kids but I like money. $12M is honestly about $11.7M past that inflection point though.

Counterpoint: I took some months off work when my first one was born. And I hated it. I felt that all my value was as “baby-sustaining-machine”, the highest mental skill requested any given day was loading a laundry load and it was very socially isolating (not many people available during working hours for socializing). At the same time, it was stressful being constantly the only one in charge. I was relieved to drop them at daycare and get back to work.

Now that they are of early school age, I enjoy spending time with them, but I also find it taxing. I know I wouldn’t be a good parent if I were to do it 24/7. But I am glad to spend every non-school moments together.

Word. Spending time with them is the real prize.

Just hire a nanny too and go get milk from the store.

Damned amateur.

I’d get a more ergonomic vacuum cleaner though.

I would do this and develop a drinking problem.

Like, a bigger drinking problem.

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Yeah! I'm even encouraging my wife to put herself out there more and ask for promotions.

Naw that's just rent in LA.

You don't stay rich, by spending it all.

I assumed that’s only the summer uniform.

Oh man, that's $33k/year :( When dealing with any genie or monkey paw, always specify which currency you want the money to be in!

People feel weird about it, but it's perfectly fine.

My wife doesn't work a paying job, we don't have kids, but in almost every conversation when I'm meeting someone when they ask what my wife does and I tell them, they always follow it up with like, "Oh does she work from home?" or "Oh, does she sell stuff online?"

It often breaks their brain that she doesn't work a paid job.

Great job if you can get it!

Finally somebody is asking the right questions!

Also dose this require to roleplay being an adult?

She won the lottery and took the annuity.

Yeah, because bro was working full time on sculpting those arms.

I've taken less work than I could, making less money (still fortunate to make what I make), because I get to see my kids more. Kids are also a huge pain in the ass sometimes, and so I won't leave my wife with more of a burden than I have myself. We're a team, and we're a family. When they get older and more independent, maybe I'll put the hammer down and make more money, but right now I have the perfect balance and I wouldn't want it any other way.

Unfortunately, probably gonna have to go bash Nazis eventually.

But it's a lot of money