I'm an arachnophobe when I just walked through her web and don't know where the fuck she is. From a distance, though, I'm all 'Wow, what a wonderful creature!'

The spider spinning a web in front of my door is an asshole. The one eating things inside my house is a bro. The one guarding my rose bush is beautiful.

If you're spider-curious, take a look at Travis McEnery. If you think your an arachnophobe, check him out too; exposure therapy worked for Chill and youtube is a safe distance from the spiders.

What a homophobe is afraid of is gay men treating them the way they treat women.

Consider a usage other than "fear". Think of something hydrophobic. Do you really think that an inanimate surface is afraid of water?

I don't think it's technically incorrect, I think folks have been taught an overly narrow usage of the suffix.

So its not entirely just a stereotype. They have done studies on it, and it holds remarkably true. I'll see if I can find one of them for you.

Edited to add a link to the study: Homophobia study

Nah, openly gay homosexuals aren't bigoted, it's only the ones in denial.

It's not blaming homosexuals in general; it's blaming specifically those homosexuals who help uphold systems of oppression. It's the same as women who uphold sexism or pickme minorities. They're using the oppression of others as a shield against their own oppression instead of joining the fight for equality.

Look for telltale signs in your marriage like:

• does it spin a web
• does it love you
• does it walk on the ceiling

If any of these are true you might be married to a human.

Do people ever run screaming from the room when he enters it?

Secretly gay/bisexual. Closeted. Self-hating, spreading their hate. Trying to cling onto a precarious hold on the straight lifestyle, they want to eliminate "temptation". Dudes, it's only tempting if you're already bi.

At least on the right it seems that way, with the Republican convention regularly crashing grindr.

It's also a way to tell gay people "really, this is your fault"

I've said before that the projection arguement is just used too often. Yes some of them are probably in denial about their own preferences but I would say that the vast majority are just awful people.

I think transphobics tend to have a greater chance of being trans than homophobics have been gay, possibly because homophobia is looked down on by society, (at least in the West) in a way that maybe transphobia isn't quite as much. There are countries that have legalised gay marriage, but not hormone therapy, which is just bizarre.

Definitely true, but when it comes to the most extreme homophobes, there's no hatred like self-hatred.

I think that homophobes are jealous of gays. Jealous and envious to the point of hate. I think that homophobes span the entire human range of desires but at some point the thing that they desire the most was denied to them because it is "evil". And they just can't fucking handle the idea of gay/trans/ect out there just doing what they desire and not being punished for it. I think for many of them, homosexual and bisexual desires are definitely the issue, but there's plenty of straight homophobes with desires that they have been told is evil. And then there's the plenty who actually want truly evil shit.
But you are correct, it's not just closeted gays hating on themselves, it just happens that those seem to be the ones that seem to be the most vocal and visible.

they dint say All homophobes are gay, its just alot of them. the most outspoken ones tend to be the ones in the closet, or the ones that act very strangely around the notion of being gay. for the latter, i saw a video of a bodybuilder who was Hiding his face with a surgical mask(way before pandemic), everyone commented how he afraid of being gay, eventhough he showing off his body.(which is wierd in itself, because asians are pretty conservative as well)

This study kind of illustrates it may be true. It's not a huge sample size, but its difficult to deny there is at least a significant correlation.

Statistically speaking though...

This guy?

Because apparently he had spiders in his ancestry. Most other people don't have spiders in their ancestry which is why he was so weird.