OMFG 😭
The first time my dad called me that...I nearly cried. Only to immediately go back to the old way of calling me 🙃
Oh well. He tries...

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[–] 26 points 1 day ago (11 children)

Only fair for many to code Your persona as old deadname self, swapping, going against lifetime habits, it's not easy for our families and friends to swap that. Have to give them time, if only they trying, it's awesome.

Gz on having friends in them.

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  • [–] [S] 18 points 1 day ago (4 children)

    Yeah, it's just...throughout my childhood, he kept telling me how he'd always unconditionally support me, no matter who I grew up to be. He's known for more than a year now. He's paying for my SRS for fuck's sake. He's supportive. And yet...he still struggles with it so much. It hurts.

    But I guess I get it. I mean, he is sponsoring my life-changing surgery and to be clear, I'm nothing but grateful. I should shut up, I'm just a spoiled brat anyway...

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  • [–] 6 points 1 day ago

    It doesn't make it okay or excuse a single iota of missing effort but it's not that surprising.

    If your father is anything like my friends who are parents then you have probably been one of his favourite topics of conversation for as long as you have been alive.

    One thing I just didn't get until getting older is that my friends mention their kids and what they have been up to in at least every conversation, which means their names and pronouns have been said a lot and have worn a deep groove into the parent's automatic though processes.

    Don't let it slide and correcting him; you deserve to be referred to in the way you choose, but also try not to let his words hurt you any more than you have to.

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  • [–] 9 points 1 day ago (5 children)

    Man I have a hard enough time remembering people's names, if someone changes names and gender on me im gonna die

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  • [–] 8 points 1 day ago (2 children)

    Man Yourself. I'm a fox

    If someone changes names daily, well, it may be messy. Most of us do big change once per life, picking own name... it's not exactly our faults, our parents gave us wrong one (even if based on their best wishes).

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  • [–] 4 points 1 day ago (1 child)

    Do you have a source for these blobfoxes

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  • [–] 6 points 1 day ago*

    Happens :3c

    vectors to make https://github.com/adri326/blobfox

    https://web.archive.org/web/20211115174913/https://www.feuerfuchs.dev/en/projects/blobfox-emojis/ PNG, regular and flip versions at bottom of the page.

    Some lemmy front interface-instances have them installed on, and can be summoned by typing ":blobfox", and magic popup comes in. That's how I've discovered them and felt in wuv with.

    blobfox, blobfoxbox

    PS. to be clear, I'm not the maker of them, just found, love, and post.

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  • [–] 4 points 1 day ago

    Yeah... i barely remembers names as is. The few times someones changed their name on me be it because of transitioning or just for legal reasons i just stright tell them the best they are getting out of me is possibly odd and indirect noises as my brain fries trying to figure out how names work.

    Over all it works well enough. Tho the smell of burnt toast isn't great.

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  • [–] 5 points 1 day ago

    Now to do the voice and make all the sweaty gamers rage.

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  • [–] 5 points 1 day ago

    Congratulations! I'm so happy for you!

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  • [–] 4 points 1 day ago

    Stop smoking it reduces your daughter's estrogen uptake.

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