OMFG 😭
The first time my dad called me that...I nearly cried. Only to immediately go back to the old way of calling me 🙃
Oh well. He tries...

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[–] [S] 18 points 1 day ago (4 children)

Yeah, it's just...throughout my childhood, he kept telling me how he'd always unconditionally support me, no matter who I grew up to be. He's known for more than a year now. He's paying for my SRS for fuck's sake. He's supportive. And yet...he still struggles with it so much. It hurts.

But I guess I get it. I mean, he is sponsoring my life-changing surgery and to be clear, I'm nothing but grateful. I should shut up, I'm just a spoiled brat anyway...

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  • [–] 6 points 1 day ago

    It doesn't make it okay or excuse a single iota of missing effort but it's not that surprising.

    If your father is anything like my friends who are parents then you have probably been one of his favourite topics of conversation for as long as you have been alive.

    One thing I just didn't get until getting older is that my friends mention their kids and what they have been up to in at least every conversation, which means their names and pronouns have been said a lot and have worn a deep groove into the parent's automatic though processes.

    Don't let it slide and correcting him; you deserve to be referred to in the way you choose, but also try not to let his words hurt you any more than you have to.

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