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[–] 123 points 4 days ago (26 children)

I have a name that can be for boys or girls. For some reason, most people assume it's a girl's name and act accordingly.

When I was a kid, my parents signed me up for basketball. Someone thought it was a mistake for a person with my name to be on the boys team and moved me to the girls team, without telling me or my parents. I will never forget the embarrassment when I showed up to the first practice. I quit on the spot and didn't play basketball after that.

I like specifying the pronouns.

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  • [–] 65 points 4 days ago (13 children)

    We as a society treat children like shit.

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  • [–] 27 points 4 days ago (4 children)

    Yea but have you met children??

    /s

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  • [–] 20 points 4 days ago (3 children)

    The problem is that we refuse to take responsibility for brats and treat nervous kids like shit instead. And they can't even speak up cuz they're kids.

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  • [–] 1 point 4 days ago (2 children)

    I don't know who 'we' is, but it does happen 100,000x on smaller scales with shitty parents. I'm sure it'd be a different story if 90% of adults wouldn't get in trouble for parenting someone else's kids these days to make up for the shitty parents.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 day ago (1 child)

    It's not just parents. Schools play a huge role as well.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 day ago*

    Eh. Schools are directly beholden to laws regulating how much anyone can have input on a child. All of the helicopter parents are directly fucking over school staff for disciplining the trouble students who have no idea what authority even means, let alone what police can do to them should they start to genuinely fuck around.

    We should both understand how the autistic and otherwise socially aware and perhaps anxious children behave. They might see segregation. They might see quite a lot of chiding asshole teachers, but so long as we allow words to be spoken and shared in honesty, they should have a navigable time through the scholastic system.

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  • [–] 11 points 4 days ago* (5 children)

    And it's a problem nobody cares about, because if you're a kid, no one listens to you because you're subhuman and beneath consideration, and if as an adult you support kids being people, you're accused of being a pedophile.

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  • [–] 1 point 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

    It feels like it's turning though. Or maybe that's just in my circle.. You're describing an authoritarian parenting style. "Because I said so"

    That's how my wife and I grew up, more or less. Naturally, it put us both off. Our parents were not bad people, and have certainly come around with age. But they settled for certain bad patterns at times because they didn't know an alternative, or one wasn't culturally acceptable, only for "other" types of people - many reasons. They were also much younger, just barely adults themselves, and still not quite escaped from the gravity of their parents ideas.

    But we think differently. There are still rules. We haven't swung full permissive. That's just as bad. But the "why" behind them matters. Understanding when how and why one would break them also matters. We are building a full-on person. There are many many different things you need to shepherd them through, starting with the very lowest level basics an adult doesn't have to think about for themselves.

    Like how to poop.For real, we had to create the conditions for them to realize how to literally let poop out of their body. Which I guess is not always an automatic thing at first? It took a few days with ours, lots of belly massages, and strapping them to this weird vibratey cushion thing that was strangely effective

    We want them to understand how things work. You have to be there all the time to build a really strong bond. They need a solid foundation of love, safety and stability for them to do as well as you want them to. You have to have the ability to see things through their eyes.

    And that's just it. We're not egoic 20-year-olds. We're mid-thirty-somethings. We had a nice long time to get to know our adult selves a bit. We have now started to feel time passing and we know this is not forever. We want them to be better than we are, because they'll be here long after we're gone.

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  • [–] 2 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

    Adults as well.

    Children should be taught how the world works. Dont lie to them about the nature of the world. If you dont like what we have to teach the children, maybe you shouldn't be having them.

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  • [–] 9 points 4 days ago (1 child)

    My name could me male or female too. When i was little i had long-ish hair and a high pitched voice. A lot of strangers always assumed i was a girl. In hindsight i don't care and it never really mattered, but i still remember how annoying that was for me. Ironically tho, later i always played in a woman's team (like volleyball, tgat was like 90% women) because they were nicer to be around with than dudes.

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  • [–] -3 points 4 days ago (4 children)

    I feel like most gender neutral names are single sex leaning so I can kinda understand the confusion

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  • [–] 4 points 4 days ago (2 children)

    Or how about people just stop making assumptions?

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  • [–] 21 points 4 days ago (9 children)

    I have already reported to the local mosque so we can implement the mandatory sharia law

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  • [–] [S] 14 points 4 days ago (4 children)
  • [–] 1 point 4 days ago (1 child)

    I told my wife islam is really pro feminist, so we're converting from atheism. At least that's what the Muslim women say on interviews while they're completely covered and they all seem to have a nervous tick where they look off stage anytime they talk.

    She seems to think it's not true! Sounds like she needs her first lesson in Islam.

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  • [–] 6 points 4 days ago

    I'm not so sure. I think they might need Americans to come civilize their countries by bombing their families and killing their children. Sure, some women will be killed in the process, but it's all in the name of feminism. And yeah, we might take some oil and resources while we're there, but surely we deserve a bit of compensation for carrying on the White Man's Burden.

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  • [–] 42 points 4 days ago* (2 children)

    Some may even identify as We/Won

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  • [–] 4 points 4 days ago

    Unfortunately apt picture choice.

    We have not won anything yet and need to keep pushing or we're all getting a repeat of the police/ICE militarization, abortion bans, labor suppresion and genocide which was his administration.

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  • [–] 59 points 4 days ago (3 children)

    I’m a public sector employee, and when shit started going down about pronouns in emails, I added more pronouns to my emails.

    Do not obey in advance, there are more of us than there are of them ❤️‍🩹

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  • [–] 14 points 4 days ago (2 children)

    Mine are still on full display. What's the worst that can happen? I get written up?

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  • [–] 18 points 4 days ago

    Excuse me for a moment while I take this obviously serious post very seriously.

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  • [–] 14 points 3 days ago (1 child)

    "Sharia Law is now in effect, report to your nearest abortion clinic where immigrants will administer your mandatory hormone therapy and distribute vegan sack lunches."

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  • [–] 10 points 4 days ago (2 children)

    Glad my work didn't actually delete all of the DEI stuff we were told to. We just hid it.

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  • [–] 24 points 4 days ago

    I can attest, my children just got back from school today and they already had gender re-assigment surgery.

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  • [–] 47 points 4 days ago* (31 children)

    A bunch of anti-trans ballot initiatives passed and a bunch of transphobic dems got elected.

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  • [+] -15 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (28 children)

    I didn't see any anti-trans ballot initiatives; there were a few school sports initiatives, and trans can still compete whenever they'd like.

    They just don't get to pick their team. Like everybody else.

    p.s. I've already been banned in another unrelated sub for this very post. Always remember, if you tell the truth, keep one foot in the stirrup! I forgive you, person

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  • [–] 38 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (4 children)

    here's one.

    if you can't see how "forced genital inspections" is blatantly anti-trans i'm not really sure how to help you. this is going to result in the tiny number of transgender girls in sports being kicked or shamed off their teams, while simultaneously making things very uncomfortable for all the cis girls who will also be forced to undergo regular genital inspections. and for what?

    the fact that these passed, in supposedly "woke" states, is not only awful in and of itself, but also sets a terrifying precedent for things to come.

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  • [–] 4 points 4 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

    Just to prevent misinformation, this hasn't passed yet. It's still to close to call, and King County, the most progressive county with the most people, have only had half their votes counted. The rest of the counties also have 25-50% of their votes left to count. And late-counted votes are usually from mail-in votes, which past years show are primarily Democrat votes in Washington.

    Still, way closer than I would have liked to see

    *Update: It passed 🙁

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  • [+] -9 points 4 days ago (2 children)

    "opponents of the initiative say..."

    yeah, people say a lot of things. but sex can be tested using a cheek swab.

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  • [–] 6 points 4 days ago (1 child)

    But it won't, because if that's what anyone involved with this was actually worried about then they would be doing that already during a regular physical exam during which they already take a cheek swab. That doesn't need a referendum.

    This is about trans exclusion and making schoolgirls flip up their skirts for coach. There is no explanation for it that can suggest otherwise.

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  • [–] 2 points 4 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

    Initiative 638 is a 2026 ballot initiative proposing the amendment of Washington state law. The initiative would require students participating in K-12 sports to submit medical documentation that verifies their "biological sex" as female. This would prohibit transgender girls from competing in school athletic activities intended for females, and would require healthcare providers to verify a student's biological sex to determine eligibility. -Wikipedia

    Does the text of Initiative 638 mention genital checks? It appears to be about making participation in sports based on sex, which may only involve a cheek swab to determine. there is enough fear going around without worrying about things the initiative doesn't say

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  • [–] 21 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

    And this logic is exactly the same as forcing us to use the men's changing rooms, the men's bathrooms, and sending us to men's prison. The goal is to eradicate us.

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  • [–] 22 points 4 days ago (1 child)

    My state passed a ballot measure defining sex as whatever appears on your birth certificate. Not only anti-trans, but ignores intersex people or anyone with an error on their certificate.

    Note how they always ignore intersex people, because acknowledging their existence is incompatible with a ridiculous binary worldview

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  • [–] 3 points 4 days ago

    There was an episode of King of the Hill that's loosely about this, although on the flip side.

    The state fucks up and puts F as Hank's sex on his DL, and he has to jump through massive hoops to get it fixed.

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  • [–] 26 points 4 days ago (17 children)

    Go away with your weird, annoying passive aggressive conservative bullshit.

    I like reality, where trans women can play sports fairly with cis women because every study that relies on measurements (like real grown ups use) shows that trans women should absolutely compete on the womens and trans mens on the mens.

    But for me, it's deeper than that because frankly enbies deserve to play a game. You're lame for defending stupid sports scholarships and the entire "school sports ecosystem". These are all childrens games. The fact you talk with so much vitriol about trans people because of a game shows you have USELESS priorities.

    Trans rights are human rights.

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  • [+] -6 points 4 days ago (16 children)

    Unfortunately women athletes disagree with you

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  • [–] 12 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (5 children)

    Who? That one swimmer who tied for 5th and threw a tempter tantrum that she had to share her 5th place finish with someone?

    I'm willing to bet my house it isn't the majority of all female athletes.

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  • [–] -3 points 4 days ago (4 children)

    How about the one that had her skull fractured by a trans MMA fighter?

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  • [–] 6 points 3 days ago (2 children)

    Someone got a head injury in MMA and are blaming their opponent being trans?

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  • [–] -2 points 3 days ago (1 child)

    Yes. Once she was outed nobody would fight her anymore though. Extremely unfair as men have much bigger wrists, heads, hands etc. So important in fighting.

    Similar things happened in weightlifting up here in Canada. A guy was such if seeing everybody lose to a trans champion so he declared himself a woman and shattered the current record by over 220 kg.

    Regardless of you thinking people can skip genders that's only mentally. We just aren't the same physically. So many differences that hormones won't remove

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  • [–] 4 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

    So if she got a head injury from a cis fighter, it would be okay? Because that happens literally every other time.

    Extremely unfair as men have much bigger wrists, heads, hands etc. So important in fighting.

    I love how easily you just throw out such ignorant and hateful bullshit. I bet you're also comfortable dropping the N word in casual conversation.

    Regardless of you thinking people can skip genders that’s only mentally.

    I should ask my trans girlfriend who is smaller and lighter than all her female football teammates how much her being a "man" gives her an advantage. Not to mention if she was naked in front of you, you'd have no idea she was trans.

    Fuck right off with your bullshit you fucking bigot.

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  • [–] 7 points 4 days ago (2 children)

    You speak for all women athletes?

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  • [–] -2 points 4 days ago (1 child)

    Do you? You're assuming they have no problem with it.

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  • [–] 1 point 3 days ago

    Unfortunately women athletes disagree with you

    Pretty sure you were attempting to speak for all women a few hours ago. Guess you aren't familiar with this kind of push back when you crawl out from your fucking hole in the wall and encounter real life other people and not your bot laden incel movement.

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  • [–] 6 points 4 days ago (2 children)

    Plenty of people disagree with plenty of things. I don't care about some popularity contest, I care about what is factually morally correct. Trans people deserve to play sports in an environment that's as fair as it is for anyone else.

    IMO all the stakes should be lowered and everything should just be coed.

    But since we can't have nice things then yeah the science says that taking feminizing HRT evens the playing field between cis and trans women. I didn't make the rules, cis people did, but now that those rules validate and grace trans people with respect for their gender cis folk want to change things. Not to actually be fair but to humiliate trans people. It's so hurtful, cynical and transparently hateful

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  • [–] -2 points 4 days ago (1 child)

    Science definitely does not say that these drugs make people equal. They don't change your physical bone structure. Your center of gravity. Thickness of your skull or your hands.

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  • [–] 2 points 3 days ago

    Josh Allen is one of the biggest bodies at the QB position in the NFL. He's built like a linebacker, runs like a running back, and throws better than the majority of the QBs in the NFL. He's a cis man. So because he can flick the ball 60 yards, truck a corner without getting hurt, hurdles linebackers, and can do everything most of the QBs cannot do... By your logic he has a physical advantage over every other QB in the NFL so he should be banned.

    Just own up to your bigotry, you piece of shit. Don't try and sugar coat it... Just admit you're a bigoted, insecure asshole who is lashing out because the world is moving on without you and you're fucking terrified of it. It must feel horrible watching society move on without you, and no one would care if you just vanished tomorrow. Your life is a complete waste of a soul and that must suck so bad.

    I'd feel bad for you, but... You know... The bigotry and stuff...

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  • [–] 4 points 3 days ago (3 children)

    Hey, hey! I'm a woman athlete, and I think you should stfu. Trans rights are human rights.

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  • [–] 0 points 3 days ago (2 children)

    First woman I've met who supports it. Out of curiosity you would be okay entering competitions where you have no chance of winning?

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  • [–] 3 points 3 days ago

    Out of curiosity you would be okay entering competitions where you have no chance of winning?

    Have you ever competed in sports ever in your life? What a fucking loser statement this is. I've also entered tournaments where I know I'll never come first, but I show up to compete and see how well I can do and try to get better for the next one.

    Holy fuck you are just a dumb motherfucker.

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  • [–] 2 points 3 days ago

    Sure, I do it all the time. Turns out, volleyball has a real advantage for height. Should we ban all women over 6ft from playing volleyball? Being that tall is inherently unfeminine. Or maybe we should just ban any women who are too good at sports? Women are supposed to be gentle and soft, not aggressive! Get those aggressive, competative, manly women outta here.

    The situation you're talking about is rare enough to be negligible compared to the number of people excluded from women in sports communities for no reason. And honestly, for the VAST majority of athletes, playing sports is about community and inclusion, not accolades.

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  • [–] 6 points 4 days ago

    We're a culture that has influential athletes advertise gambling apps to kids on social media. I 100% guarantee these policies aren't about the sanctity of sports nor protecting the children. It's definitely other values that are driving people to fight this hard to legislate trans people.

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  • [–] 15 points 4 days ago (3 children)

    >Democrats win the midterms in historic landslide

    >Texas turns Blue

    >Supply of cute, athletic, tan, blue eyed femboys/transgirls goes through the roof

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  • [–] 7 points 4 days ago (1 child)

    What if I like being occasionally misgendered?

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  • [–] 8 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

    It puts the pronouns in the emails or else it gets the Republicans again.

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  • [–] 7 points 4 days ago (1 child)

    Josh Turek ran ads that said he supported blocking Medicaid funding going to gender-affirming care for transgender Iowans.

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    Cpt, It, dr, I accept any.

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