Only predators go around thinking about attacking someone in a restroom. They're self reporting, and we need to publicly call them out for it.

My dad used to call it 'talking to god on the big white telephone'

I’m not in public bathrooms or at parties all that often cuz I’m a nerdy homebody. But I’m the transwoman who has pads in my purse that I don’t need just in case someone else does. With pain relieving medication, of course.

I keep a heating pad with me in the trunk of my car in case someone at work needs it. Got to save someone’s day about three times with it!

Extra hair ties and scrunchies, safety pins, gum, and so much more in my purse at all times.

Now I keep a few sewing supplies in my purse just in case someone tears a hole in their clothes. Learned how to sew during COVID19

Ladies I fucking got you, because I know you got me. Have cried in a few bathrooms and been comforted. So many compliments on my hair. When I’m doing makeup nobody stares or makes me feel embarrassed. We’re sisters no matter where we are.

Do you know whom I want to share the bathroom win? Nobody! Because I want to poop in peace and solitude! 😭

Besides that, I'd rather have all the trans people in the world there than one single hypocrite pedo enabler "christian".

You always need a few women at the bar that understand the importance of being the mom, and once I left my "drunken shitshow" stage that I was in early in transition I started leaning into the bar mom role when it's needed. Someone's gotta keep an eye on the wasted girl's drink. Someone's gotta offer a hand. And sometimes someone's gotta distract the way too drunk girl while someone else pours out her drink because she probably shouldn't have been served that one. Someone's gotta listen to the girl going through some shit, because the booze won't help, but community can (though be aware some of these people have way too big of issues and will try to latch on in a destructive way, learn to establish and maintain boundaries).

I don't do it that often, because the gay bars I go to don't need it that much, but I take pride in the fact that I do it. And baby trans folks especially need someone like that.

It's bizarre to think that in some ways, discrimination and prejudice have been getting worse in our society

and we keep getting gentrified 😭

How does one even know if they're sharing a bathroom with a trans person? This looks like a toupee fallacy.

I'm not in public bathrooms or at parties all that often cuz I'm a nerdy homebody. But I'm the transwoman who has pads in my purse that I don't need just in case someone else does. With pain relieving medication, of course.

I keep a heating pad with me in the trunk of my car in case someone at work needs it. Got to save someone's day about three times with it!

Extra hair ties and scrunchies, safety pins, gum, and so much more in my purse at all times.

Now I keep a few sewing supplies in my purse just in case someone tears a hole in their clothes. Learned how to sew during COVID19

Ladies I fucking got you, because I know you got me. Have cried in a few bathrooms and been comforted. So many compliments on my hair. When I'm doing makeup nobody stares or makes me feel embarrassed. We're sisters no matter where we are.

The cis women in the 80s that were afraid of trans women and drag queens may have been victims of abuse of cis men, and those homophobic and misogynistic cis men pushing fear and hate as propaganda.

Or like the transphobia not differentiating creepy ass pervy rapist cis men from trans women, putting us in the same category.

Like when people blame all animals for either past trauma or all dogs that even look remotely like the breed of the dog from your trauma.

Like I seriously question if there was EVER a justified fear of non-passing trans women in women's restrooms. Because at this point, it seems like it was cis men the whole time and all of this has ALWAYS been unjustified scapegoating by fearmongering us.

Which then begs the question of why cis people aren't also blaming cis men,along with cis women? Gender segregation is not a solution for sexual abuse. In fact, there is overwhelming amounts of evidence that it's explicitly counterproductive and causatively results in abuse and bigotry.