I’ll tell you a secret. If you just show up and do things without fucking up most of the time, they’ll never know you’re an imposter. Like fools, they’ll attribute your mistakes to human error and not being incompetent. Just because you show up reliably and do halfway decent work the majority of the time. The absolute imbeciles.
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I had imposter syndrome a lot in my career.
It got so bad that eventually one of my superiors had to sit me down over beers and give me some very straight talk.
He said that a whole host of people have imposter syndrome in our profession. The thing is, when you have no idea what to do, act decisively and just do something. It MIGHT be 100% absolutely the wrong thing to do, but at least there's a chance that you might blunder into a situation you can solve, while delay due to hesitation is DEFINITELY 100% absolutely the wrong thing to do.
Plot twist, you're a nuclear submarine captain.
Close, naval engineer.
We had a class at my university talking about Imposter Syndrome that spent the whole class telling us that 'everybody feels it' and therefore it must be OK.
In my head I spent the time thinking "yeah, but they just have imposter syndrome, whereas I'm actually an impostor".
Its easy to break out of imposter syndrome, just look at how many idiots there are in politics
Joke is on all of you. I know I'm shit, I just don't care.
For some reason, I keep getting promotions and better jobs after I get fired from the last one. I am living the dream, failing up up and away!
I just asked stupid question on a meeting for half an hour about things I should know. Before that, I got shitty with some people because they wouldn't do what I told them. I didn't get into the game to be a dick, but the sad reality is that once you piss all over the drapes a few times, people will just let you do whatever.
I'll be putting that to the ultimate test soon. Performance evaluations are coming and I can start handing out money. If I can demand more for my staff and hand it out effectively, then I can pretty much do anything. That's the one thing that I've not been able to crack yet. If I can buy my employees loyalty (or facade thereof) then I'm golden.
Remember kids, being an asshole works!
i cried and had a breakdown when I got my PhD, had no idea what the fuck was wrong with them that they thought I deserved it.
One of my colleges says he has the Imposter Syndrome. I wish he did, at least 10% of it.
Dude is rude as hell, confidentally incorrect, steals people's ideas to present as his own, interrupter, and does the thing where he states the obvious wasting everyone's time as if he's teaching everyone else. He is an expert at optics, he is often working on 10 things, all unfinished, and would still nose into other people's work.
I dunno what to call it. Maybe plain old "Insecurity".
This somehow worked for him though, he's weak technically but he is the "Scrum" guy so he's promoted to lead level.
Imposter syndrome is a backwards way of discrediting the people responsible for picking. Youre implicitly saying that their competency in picking the right person, that their people skills, are not up to scratch, as you succesfully decieved them.
Thinkin about it like this has helped me curb my own tendency for this a lot, because usually the gatekeepers know more about the thing than i do.
Its a 'trust the experts' kind of vibe
Have you seen the state of HR our society?
Like they could do their jobs and profite every one but 99 % of them want to control people and justify their position of power by complicated useless tasks that are not what HR is actually about.
I talk like that all the time about my employers. "Somehow I tricked into thinking I know what I'm doing and now I sorta do."
It hit me when sir Anthony Hopkins said he suffered from imposter syndrome.
One of my favorite stories is that Anthony Hopkins landed a role, so he went out to find the book that it was based on. Couldn't find it anywhere, everywhere he went it was sold out. While waiting for his train home he finds the exact book sitting on a subway bench. What're the odds?
Fast forward to when he's on set and he finally gets to meet the author. Author mentions that even he doesn't have a copy of his own novel, he had lent it to a friend who had lost it years ago. Full of his own notes too. Well guess who had found that exact copy sitting on a bench? Hopkins.
Wild to get that kinda nod from the universe and still doubt whether you're where you're supposed to be.
My imposter syndrome was suddenly cured yesterday.
For six months I watched my supervisor chase after another coworker. Everywhere she went, boss guy was right there. I thought they had to be working on some project together, so I wisely kept my nose out of it. He's in his mid 40's and had been at the company for years and years. He is also married. So is she. They're both too old and smart to act like idiot teenagers.
Well I was incorrect. Bossmang got canned out of nowhere, co-worker left some weeks before. They were fooling around, I don't know (or care) to what extent. Two marriages ruined, two careers ruined, but my imposter syndrome is gone because I know there is no way I'm that fucking stupid.
i have reverse imposter syndrome. i'm painfully aware of other people's incompetence and wonder how the fuck are they making that much money.
I can't be good enough to have imposter syndrome. I am clearly on the peak of the Dunning-Kruger curve.
What is it called when you notice how incompetent everyone is and you throw your hands up and stop trying to do better or worry about being incompetent yourself?
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