Posts like this are slowly curing my internalized transphobia. You look awesome!

I'm super envious for your style! (And body, you're lucky with that one!)

And it feels horrible what you now tell your relatives have done with you. It's entirely unfounded. What did your cousin think of your style?

You look amazing, so jealous. Hope it goes well

Girl, you l need a good strong hug more often. I'm a straight cis black man that grew up as the token black kid in a conservative town. So I understand that anxious energy when you know everyone is going to be looking at you. Build your community and sanctuary so you can face the world whenever you are ready. Don't let others dictate your outcomes.

I hate reading this edit because I came to say how absolutely gorgeous you look, and you do.

The hardest part may be releasing yourself from the need for validation from them. I’m a cis dude and haven’t experienced an ounce of the challenges you have, so my perspective may be off the mark but I hope you can see yourself as this stranger sees you and not as the people who can’t help but load you down with their baggage.

You. Are. Gorgeous. You deserve happiness as your gorgeous self.

I’ll probably just end it when I get back.

Nah, don’t do that

Kick some ass, Queen!

And then I saw a comment and went to read yours… Fuck 'em. It'll hurt, but you don't need people who don't accept you. Some dumbass on the internet (me) accepts you and you can find people IRL who do as well. I promise.

Hell yeah, you go girl!

She told me that most trans people have 0 family support while I have full support, which is true. I just sit and whine while others have it way worse.

Thats gross, same thinking as "well i dont beat you the way my parents beat me" or "some kids dont even have clothes to wear, be happy with your 8 yr old outfits"

Like yeah sure, maybe lots of trans people have 0 family (thats me) DOES NOT MEAN your feelings are any less real or valid.

It sucks cause it sounds like your mom is supportive in the best way she knows how. But still you can have these feelings and you should be able to express them.

Its like my therapist says, intent vs impact. People far too often focus on the intent of what theyre saying to others but rarely think about the impact of saying it. I can tell you that impact is more important, regardless of someones intent. If im making any sense lol

Youre so so pretty btw, dont let them get you too down sis. Youre amazing and beautiful the way you are, no matter what ❤️

have fun you look great :) love that top

Looking absolutely stunning! I'm super jelly! Sorry it turned south so quickly, that is truly awful to hear. I hope you feel better, we are here for you in good times and bad. hugs

♡♡♡Nissa♡♡♡

I hope you get lots of nice compliments

Talk to someone, anyone, before you hurt yourself. I’m not a pro but I can listen and I PMed you my number.

Hey please don't hurt yourself!

Don't minimise yourself, just because other people have it worse doesn't mean you can't feel bad! As others have said you should probably get some community to help you. We care, but unfortunately we can't really be physically there for you. I'm not very good at this but I can listen if you want.

You look great, girl. Really. I'm glad your mum supports you, but it sounds like there's a lot of people around who don't. Also, she could support you more.

It's hard to keep the negativity of people in your family from affecting your mind, even if you know they're wrong. I deal with that by not hanging around people who aren't kind, but I know that's a luxury not everyone has. And my family mostly are kind.

However, it will get better, because you will make it through this, and find people who love and appreciate you for who you are. Found family is still family.

I believe in you. You're brave, this post is proof of that. You have good fashion sense too, your look is actually really great.

Hold your head up high, you are a beautiful person and you deserve respect, and you deserve to wear fun clothes, or whatever clothes you want, without being shamed for it! It's your body. Remember that. You own yourself. Nobody else.

Wishing you luck you're looking awesome :3

Sounds like you don’t have full support to me and you know it. My family is toxic as hell and if I had the option I’d never see them again. Hope you figure out what you want and go for it as long as you have the opportunity.

Good luck and all the best.

Keep us updated!

FFS

what does FFS mean?

I wish I'd seen this sooner. You deserve so much more than half-assed conditional support. You are gorgeous and I hope one day that you can look in the mirror and see the beautiful woman the rest of us see.

Chiming in just to express my support, long with the other commenters.

It seems that you've at least found a tupportive and minful community here. I wish you to find one IRL too if that's not already the case. A good community really helps being well, happy, and attenuating anxiety.

I also wish that your family learn to identify and avoid hurtful acts and words.

In other words, I wish you conditions that help being at least safe and happy.

(Again, sorry if my message is clumsy.)

woaaaaaaah such girlllll mrrrrrreeaowww, waoaoooaoaooaoaooaoaoaoaoaoo

Nobody ever feels perfect in their own bodies, getting stuck in the feedback loop of not accepting and tweaking just ends up becoming a halting problem. When do you stop? What is good enough? I think your mom might be on to something there and just didn't know how to say it.

The trick is to just tell yourself you look great every time you see yourself. Find something you like and ignore literally everything else, just focus on that. Eventually you start to see more that you like than what you don't, even if nothing changes.

It's fucking hard.

It's so fucking hard to say I like the way this looks when I hate so much of the rest, but eventually I started to just hate less and less of what I saw.

You look great. Getting into your head just ends up putting you right back into that feedback loop so change the feedback loop and that's all mental, not physical.