Yeah, that is why SHODAN is the likeable one :D.
/s
But for real, offering an alien creature kindness where your agenda is different (or at least indifferent to that creature) is a very inhuman thing to do when you look at us on average.
If humanity would pilot an AI like that it would act like SHODAN (we do act like SHODAN to other creatures of meat and bone ... well, 'other' somehow very much includes other humans too).