It's really hard for me to wrap my head around why it's so easy for certain extremely online guys to hate women so much and so easily

same reasons people hate on immigrants etc

easy to blame others for your own inadequacies. Many years ago I spent a little time in /r/mgtow and was eventually banned. I'd sub'd in good faith and naively assumeed it was about betterment, and while their was a little of that, mostly jist blaming women.