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[–] 168 points 5 months ago (46 children)

The existence of the G-spot as a distinct structure has not been proven, nor has the source of female ejaculation.[4][5] Although it has been studied since the 1940s,[2] disagreement persists over its definition and location.[4][6][7] The G-spot may be an extension of the clitoris, which may be the actual cause of vaginal orgasms.[7][8][9] Sexologists and other researchers are concerned that women may consider themselves to be dysfunctional if they do not experience G-spot stimulation, and emphasize that not experiencing it is normal.[5]

The lack of study of women's anatomy is abysmal.

The clitoris wasn't fully anatomically described until 2005.

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  • [–] 54 points 5 months ago (23 children)

    I always forget this fact because it’s so incredulous. Then I re-learn it every time. I’m not looking forward to Alzheimer's

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  • [–] 28 points 5 months ago (22 children)

    I carry this factoid with me out of pure rage and spite.

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  • [–] 20 points 5 months ago (18 children)

    We also use male dummies in most tests so try not to need your seat belt or ever need cpr if you are a woman

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  • [–] 13 points 5 months ago (4 children)

    Yep and that's still true to this day

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  • [–] 12 points 5 months ago (3 children)

    I remember reading an article a few months ago that they finally made female crash test dummies.

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  • [–] 5 points 5 months ago (12 children)
  • [–] 19 points 5 months ago (11 children)

    People can hesitate because… boobs. And that hesitation can be deadly.

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  • [–] 10 points 5 months ago (3 children)

    It's common enough that The Pitt even had this happen to a patient.

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  • [–] 2 points 5 months ago (6 children)

    How do dummies with boobs help people concerned about touching unconscious women's chests

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  • [–] 1 point 5 months ago

    I assume by helping normalize them into the mental model of "CPR patient" which overrides all other aspects of social propriety. "Don't touch boobs without permission" is a big rule so plenty of people are going to have to manually override it in the decision making if you haven't been desensitized to the fact that some CPR patients have them.

    I also suspect that the awkwardness of what to do with them while doing chest compressions is helpful, especially ones big enough to move around as you do them.

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  • [–] 1 point 5 months ago (4 children)

    I declined Heimlich practice because my training partner was a particularly large chested female. I was about 23 and her crew leader. She was prob 22.

    Nope!

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  • [–] 2 points 5 months ago (3 children)

    Why? You don't even touch their boobs or chest?

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  • [–] 1 point 5 months ago (2 children)

    It would have been difficult not to in this case. And it was in front of a whole bunch of people. I was young and uncomfortable with it. She was too.

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  • [–] 4 points 5 months ago* (1 child)

    Well, here's another fun little fact for you to carry around then (that I learned recently and gained mild rage for):

    Factoid

    Invented claim or trivial fact

    A factoid was originally defined to mean a false statement presented as a fact. In colloquial speech, it is often used to mean a true but brief or trivial item of news or information.

    • Wikipedia
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  • [–] 32 points 5 months ago (8 children)

    If I remember correctly Sexologist Dr. Lindsey Doe has a story from her time as a student where she was in a lecture where a dude was talking about there being no evidence of a G-Spot, and joking about squirting as a concept being a made up porn gag, and she's sitting in the auditorium being like "but I experience G-Spot orgasms and squirt, like... often" 😅

    Now, to be fair to the field at least a little bit, I understand why maybe she didn't want to stand up and shout "I routinely hammer my G-Spot and squirt all over the place" in front of her peers, and even in a clinical environment I could imagine it's not the most orgasm-conducive setting to have a bunch of electrodes and cameras and stuff setup and then to be like "okay, now please show us all what it's like at home. Anytime. We're all ready to watch"

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  • [–] 8 points 5 months ago (5 children)

    Before I met her, my wife went to an anatomy course in which the teacher apparently said women couldn't have kinks (though I believe the word used was "philia").

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  • [–] 10 points 5 months ago (2 children)

    I wonder how many of these teachers telling others that women don't like sex were just in denial about their own dead bedroom at home. "Oh honey, nono, it's not you, it's that women just aren't interested in sex in general! Now go off and earn your paycheck, I need to give some special instructions to the pool boy. You know how particular I am about the state of our pool!"

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  • [–] 2 points 4 months ago*

    i feel like it's a good default assumption for any "negative" sex-related thing. See also "of course being gay is a choice! I only give in to my depraved urges to throat 15 feet of sailor dick a couple of times per year!"

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  • [–] 19 points 5 months ago (1 child)

    That's because 99% of it is inside the body, surrounding the vaginal area. I'm surprised at the wiki stating it "might" be the source of vaginal orgasms. It's a huge mass of nerves around the area... yeah, it might be what's doing it.

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  • [–] 8 points 5 months ago (2 children)

    Unfortunately there surrounds a whole lot of stigma around studying the female sex of humans. We know more about how one of horses or cows function, because if someone is seeking funding to study the human female sex there is an immediate opinion you're just a perv.

    I read a few interviews about this quite a while ago, I'll try to find them...

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  • [–] 6 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (3 children)

    https://open.substack.com/pub/saraszalmd/p/the-female-body-was-not-designed

    Heterosexual men report orgasm during partnered sex 95 percent of the time. Heterosexual women: 65 percent. Lesbian women: 86 percent, a rate comparable to heterosexual men. A 2024 scoping review of the full body of evidence concluded that the orgasm gap is largely driven by social dynamics rather than biological mechanisms.

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  • [–] 6 points 5 months ago (2 children)

    A 2024 scoping review of the full body of evidence concluded that the orgasm gap is largely driven by social dynamics rather than biological mechanisms.

    I'm shocked! Shocked, I tell you! /s

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  • [–] 95 points 5 months ago (19 children)

    Why did I just open lemmy to this dude posting like 30 post about vaginas and penis

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  • [–] 80 points 5 months ago (7 children)

    I don't know, but it's better than most of the doom and gloom news, clickbait and borderline advertisements normally in my feed, so I'll take it!

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  • [–] 34 points 5 months ago (6 children)

    Don't be so sure, this is clearly astroturf marketing for penises and vaginas.

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  • [–] 18 points 5 months ago (6 children)

    I always welcome interesting and educational info on genitals in my Lemmy feed :)

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  • [–] 15 points 5 months ago (5 children)

    Speaking of that, there's a fact or factoid that just came to me, and it's that (IIRC) we all started out as girls in the womb in terms of genitals, only later in the case of males shifting towards the usual arrangement before eventually being born.

    So I have this dumb idea when some he-man type is being overly sexist of reminding him that he used to be a girl. :D Then back it up with facts & science as necessary.

    Probably a good way to get punched in the face, or something like that. 😅

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  • [–] 15 points 5 months ago (4 children)

    We do all start out as girls in the womb!

    The other sex factoid that pisses off dumb men is that its the sperm that determines if the fetus will be male or female at birth.

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  • [–] 11 points 5 months ago

    Ah yes, and then you have Henry VIII and other power-figures wrongly blaming their wives for not producing a suitable heir.

    Reading the book Sapiens has helped open my eyes about a certain amount of this patriarchal bullshit...

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  • [–] 29 points 5 months ago

    It used to be on the front wall, but we've redecorated.

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  • [–] 25 points 5 months ago (11 children)

    In my experience, it's about behind where the clit is. If you make your thumb and index/middle finger into the shape of a tuning fork, insert the fingers, you can rub both at the same time. Some women enjoy this, though get permission before you try!

    Also, don't stimulate with your finger tip, as it's very easy to unintentionally involve your finger nail. Use the pad of your finger, and yes, it'll be a bit less comfortable for you, but way more comfortable for her. If you automatically switch to easier movements when you get tired, keep your nails trimmed and try to keep the contact closer to the pad than the tip (I know that nothing sucks more than getting your partner close but also getting too tired to keep up the movement to finish her, don't scratch her in that moment).

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  • [–] 19 points 5 months ago (1 child)

    Pro tip! Scratch your tongue with your fingernail, if you can feel the ridge, so can she.

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  • [–] 10 points 5 months ago

    Yeah, the closest a male body has to inside a vagina is your gums and the area inside your asshole (at least out of the relatively easy places to reach).

    Also, women tend to have skin that isn't as tough, so something feeling fine on your own skin doesn't mean she'll be ok with it. And friction causes wear (including from your tongue), so try to not focus overly on the same areas, take breaks, and use lube. If you aren't using condoms or toys, oil-based lube is better than water-based lube in that it lasts longer.

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  • [–] 9 points 5 months ago (1 child)

    Or just be a G and round out the edges of your fingernails daily.

    I'm always ready to not scratch the inside of my wife.

    Another pro tip, don't use your index finger. Use your middle finger first, then add your ring finger if necessary. The two fingers are more or less linked together, and it's much easier to curl them to hit the spot.

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  • [–] 5 points 5 months ago (5 children)

    as it's very easy to unintentionally involve your finger nail

    I bite my nails so no worries about that.

    If you make your thumb and index/middle finger into the shape of a tuning fork,

    I don't think I am imagining this correctly?

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  • [–] 3 points 5 months ago (4 children)

    Or make a duck bill/shadow puppet mouth. Main thing is to make your fingers and thumb parallel and also line up their ends so you can move your hand and rub the outside and inside of the vaginal wall right where the clit is. Tuning fork was the first thing I thought of looking at my own hand in that position lol.

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  • [–] 4 points 5 months ago (3 children)
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    Yeah, pretty much. Line up the two fingers so they are side by side (also, as another comment mentioned, middle and ring can work better than index and middle, but use both to help with endurance), and move your thumb forward and fingers back to that their tips all line up.

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  • [–] 3 points 5 months ago (1 child)

    Yeah the middle and ring finger are aligned

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  • [–] 1 point 5 months ago

    It's more the thumb and fingers that need to be aligned to hit both spots at once.

    Oh also, instead of just hammering away at rubbing them, vary your actions. Like move your thumb and fingers as if you're manipulating a ball, move from side to side, switch to your tongue on the clit for a bit, pull your fingers out and rub her whole labia with your palm, alternatively tease and satisfy, have your other hand roam her body (and not just the fun parts, but arms, shoulders, legs, neck, head, belly, back, sides, hands). Try to think of all the ways you can show physical affection and do them (just don't race through the list, it's about having a variety of behaviours to keep things interesting, not checking things off a list).

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  • [–] 2 points 5 months ago

    Can confirm, wife likes this. Though I didn't ask permission, been together for long enough we can just try stuff on each other and tell each other off when stuff doesn't work 😆 Know each other well enough that most often stuff goes well though.

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  • [–] 24 points 5 months ago (1 child)

    Uhhh yeah, that’s why you hook your fingers.

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  • [–] 35 points 5 months ago* (5 children)

    3.342294e-13 to 5.34767e-13 AU.

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  • [–] 9 points 5 months ago (4 children)

    Oh I should have been precise. Not astronaut units, American units. Apologies.

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  • [–] 7 points 5 months ago* (2 children)

    Stick your middle or pointer finger in with your hand supenated, curl it to the wall, and feel around with the pad of your finger until she gets loud

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  • [–] 19 points 5 months ago

    “Why are you putting measurement markings on that dildo?”

    “Uh… don’t worry about it.”

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  • [–] 15 points 5 months ago

    FYI: It feels like a raspberry.

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