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Place your bets: What do you think he did? /s (lemmy.world)
submitted 5 months ago by to c/4chan@lemmy.world
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[–] 38 points 5 months ago (5 children)

This is why I open up earlier. Not at the first date or something, but at most a few months in.

You will eventually open up, and if it grosses your partner out to the point of ruining your relationship, you better know now rather than later, when you've spent so much time together and have more to lose.

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  • [–] 7 points 5 months ago (2 children)

    Heck, start even earlier. Open a few months prior to the relationship!

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    • [–] 44 points 5 months ago (1 child)

    Anon fell victim to one of the classic blunders!

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    • [–] 8 points 5 months ago

    "as long as i live"

    sure, as long as your streaming

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    [–] 34 points 5 months ago (2 children)

    I've heard variations on this basic story in men's spaces online so, so many times. He made the classic mistake of opening up about his fears and vulnerabilities.

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  • [–] 39 points 5 months ago (1 child)

    If you open up to someone and they get weirded out this bad, they probably weren't worth having in your life anyway, or at least aren't right now.

    Granted, if you have actual past trauma, you should work on it with a therapist instead of your partner. And if your partner hasn't gone through something similar and can't relate at all, you shouldn't go into great detail about it. I disclose what the general trauma was about and leave it at that.

    Fuck all that "Gary Cooper" John Wayne build walls bullshit.

    https://youtu.be/psN1DORYYV0

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  • [–] -2 points 5 months ago*

    which is precisely why everyone is staying single. they are disgusted by each other's vulnerability and humanity.

    and people do not work on their trauma, they expect their partner to fix it for them. and they think you're an asshole if you don't make them magically happy and make up for all the shit their daddy/mommy didn't do for them. and they are totally clueless to the concept that... they can do that for themselves! they are no longer helpless children!

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    • [–] 14 points 5 months ago (1 child)

    What have you said ? What is you trauma ?

    Because trauma doesn't mean you are the victim.

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    • [–] 4 points 5 months ago

    The childhood trauma: The dumbest shit you ever heard

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    [–] 8 points 5 months ago

    Trauma-dumping everything at once seems like a bad strategy. Trickle out the crazy.

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