I've mentioned that I like to just sit back in my easy chair, put headphones on and just listen to music without doing anything else. People say this is weird and say they would fall asleep or go crazy from not doing anything. Am I weird for doing this?

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[–] 32 points 6 months ago (3 children)

I wouldn't say weird. You can enjoy your music however you want.

Personally i wouldn't be able to do it, having ADHD and sitting still doesn't really go together.

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  • [–] 4 points 6 months ago (1 child)

    If you have adhd I suggest getting a good quality IEM or headphones. I can sit still and just listen to music if it’s layered and lush and have myself fully stimulated trying to piece everything.

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  • [–] 1 point 6 months ago

    I already have decent earphones, Marshall major IV. Just the hyperactivity part is generally too strong, neither do i have that much free time to spend it on just listening music. I can do that while working, combining multiple activities.

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    [–] 17 points 6 months ago (3 children)

    Does vaping weed count as "doing something else"?

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  • [–] 13 points 6 months ago (1 child)

    I think everyone should try to only listen, at least sometimes. We've been trained to need input constantly and we're not built for it. People can't just watch TV any more either, need more screens!

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  • [–] 2 points 6 months ago

    I agree. Music is as diverse as people. It's a good thing that sometimes I can use music to relax, and sometimes it gets me to looking into myself for some introspective. It lets me process my emotions, problems, and try to come out with a solution or just for cope.

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  • [–] 13 points 6 months ago

    One of my earliest memories of listening to music was in exactly this style.

    Our family inherited a mobile trailer that was parked in our front yard for a while. I was a young kid and would use the trailer as “my house”.

    I distinctly remember plopping down a boombox on the “kitchen table”, which was just a fold out table with a chair on either side.

    I popped in Dr. Dre’s Da Chronic into the cassette deck of the boombox and hit play. Listening to the whole album while sitting on the chair.

    Fun times. Stop worrying about how other people consume entertainment and just do what feels good to you.

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  • [–] 8 points 6 months ago (1 child)

    ...you've made me realise I actually havent done this in so long

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  • [–] 8 points 6 months ago

    As many others have already said, you are definitely not weird for it. If thats what you enjoy, don't let others take it from you just because they might consider it weird.

    For me personally, I do both. Sometimes I listen to background music while doing other things. As someone said above, its like elevator music. However, for me it improves the mood for some tasks.
    On the other hand, I sit down maybe three times a week just for listening to music. I fully follow the emotions and story of a song or album.
    The music is quite different between these two modes. For the background music I just need some good tunes. When listening fully, the song must have a text I like or be a really good instrumental song. Then I also need the right song and order of songs depending on mood. Mostly it's a curated list from which i select song by song. If I hear a great song in background listening I add it to the list. Later I listen to a more songs of the album or artist with full attention and add the ones I enjoy to my list. Funnily there are songs which then have so much meaning for me, I cannot listen to them in background anymore. Either I skip them or i put my full attention to them.

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  • [–] 7 points 6 months ago

    No I do this also

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  • For me listening to music and dancing are a joint experience. Setting still while listening feels offensive somehow. My body just kinda moves on is own.

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  • [–] 6 points 6 months ago

    I do, but not with headphones. If it's headphones, it's second to something else. If the activity is specifically listening to music, I'm doing it on the good speakers.

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  • [–] 6 points 6 months ago

    Sometimes but never in headphones. In the living room right in the stereo spot on the couch. Mostly I listen and do, but sometimes just listen.

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  • [–] 5 points 6 months ago

    reading this thread made me realize why music visualizers were so popular

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  • [–] 5 points 6 months ago

    Doing something as in having a coffee or not doing anything at all ? I'll have a coffee or a drink and listen, at most eat a light meal.

    I'm weird in that I can't listen to music and do something else because I can't.. listen I mean, it's just noise in the background, like elevator music, so why bother? and listening while running, walking or cycling is beyond me as there's so much going on and you need so much situational awareness when engaged in those avtivities.

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  • [–] 4 points 6 months ago

    I do the same, but with my turntable

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  • [–] 4 points 6 months ago

    Both. The distinction being when working I listen to albums or a stream, when listening only, it's by the song.

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  • [–] 4 points 6 months ago

    I quite rarely listen to music but sometimes I just want to hear one or two songs and then I often just sit and listen.

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  • [–] [S] 4 points 6 months ago

    Thanks for the replies, all. It's nice to know that I'm not the only one who does this! I find it very therapeutic, and I enjoy being able to really focus on the lyrics and the music itself. My high school band teacher taught us that music is not a spectator sport - if you're only hearing sounds, you're missing out on half the experience. :)

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  • [–] 4 points 6 months ago

    Both actually. BUT the type of music I listen to changes drastically depending on my activity.

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  • [–] 3 points 6 months ago

    All the time. Its wonderful.

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  • [–] 3 points 6 months ago

    I can't, because of adhd. If I want to listen to a whole album I put it on headphones and go for a walk.

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  • [–] 3 points 6 months ago* (1 child)

    I can't. Music just doesn't interact with enough senses to be a standalone activity for me.

    My brother though, could spend the whole day doing nothing but listening to music.

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  • [–] 3 points 6 months ago

    depends. I have music on like 90% of the time. Sometimes I like to put headphones or quality speakers on and close my eyes and really pay attention to the music. Otherwise it's daily activities or kareoke

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  • [–] 3 points 6 months ago

    That’s not weird at all. It’s very enjoyable.

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  • [–] 3 points 6 months ago

    I do this sometimes, especially when I am stressed out and just need time to relax and forget everything for a while by immersing myself in whatever I'm listening to. Same with just sitting on public transport. Sometimes, I just stare out the window, and everything I hear is just sound because I'm just in the moment. I'd otherwise be on my phone like everyone else.

    No, you're not weird.

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  • [–] 3 points 6 months ago*

    I do both but I'm usually doing something because of ADHD. Sometimes it's something mindless. My favorite time to listen to music is while walking around the city

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  • [–] 3 points 6 months ago*

    I do it sometimes, but mainly for music I really enjoy or have a keen interest in. Technically I also did it for a music competition a few months ago but that probably doesn't count...

    There is research on this btw! I had to dig a bit, but this is a 2011 research article (might be paywalled, I can try & help if anyone is really interested in) on why people (psych undergrads, but still) listen to music. They identified 6 mostly independent factors, one of which ("personal identity") may be more linked to ppl listening just for enjoyment; one of their experiments showed that 75.66% of participants listen to music as "background noise". So music as primary activity is probably relatively uncommon (but not non-existent). Funnily enough I rarely use music as background distraction these days

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  • [–] 3 points 6 months ago*

    Have to do something else. I mostly listen to new albums when doing cardio at the gym, or when playing multiplayer vidya.

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  • [–] 3 points 6 months ago*

    I need something to engage my hands and eyes. If I want to just sit and listen to music, or an audiobook, or podcast I usually play Tetris. It's a really low engagement task that keeps me from zoning out. Starting to get tired it though so I'm open to recommendations for similar games.

    edit: typos

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  • [–] 2 points 6 months ago

    I do it. I miss having linear, defined "playlists" we used to call listening to an album. So, duh, you can still do it. I play curated playlists when I'm driving. If something catches my attention, I go to that song's album (please don't be a single, please don't be a single). If the album plays through well, I'll probably give it a go at home.

    Granted, sitting still is not my strong suit, so it's not all that common. Video games are my main TV/couch thing if solo. I always have some other chore or project nagging me. But damn, is it relaxing to lightly hit a thc vape and play deadmau5

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  • [–] 2 points 6 months ago

    If I'm just a passenger in a vehicle, I don't mind sitting back and just listening to music. Otherwise, I'm so used to doing something else while listening that it feels kinda weird to not have it as background when I'm working, when appropriate.

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  • [–] 2 points 6 months ago

    I “metaltate” several times a week. Dark room, closed eyes, focus on breathing, and headphones with black metal.

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  • [–] 2 points 6 months ago

    The Offspring recommended this method for listening to Smash

    Ah, it's time to relax You know what that means A glass of wine, your favorite easy chair And of course, this compact disc Playing on your home stereo So, go on, and indulge yourself That's right, kick off your shoes Put your feet up Lean back and just enjoy the melodies After all, music soothes even the savage beast

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  • [–] 2 points 6 months ago

    I used to do that all the time in my teenage years. I would buy a CD Album, go home, play it on my stereo, listen through the entire album while reading the lyrics or Look at the art in that little Booklet that came with the album.

    Or i would just play an album, lie on my bed and just listen.

    Nowadays i mostly listen to music while working or driving. I dont have a stereo and no space to have one. I would like to have a "music corner" it like Rob in High fidelity.

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  • [–] 2 points 6 months ago

    I have an over-active imagination and music stimulates it. There’s almost no time in which I’m listening to music and not imagining some emotion-stirring scenario in my head.

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  • [–] 2 points 6 months ago

    Depends. If it's "normal" music, I'm doing something else while it plays in the background. If it's some avante garde prog concept album, I can just sit and focus on the music and experience the complex subtleties.

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  • [–] 2 points 6 months ago

    Very rarely do I just listen to music, typically only when I'm driving.

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  • [–] 2 points 6 months ago*

    I do, since I have a dedicated listening setup, always have, even in small apartments.

    Sometimes I read while listening. Usually I'm more engaged in the music.

    Having an engaging stereo setup definitely helps. Am i sitting doing nothing listening on crappy airpods? Definitely not.

    Also people saying its werid must be zoomers or alphas. This is literally how we have enjoyed music for the past century. Do they know what a typewriter is? Or even a desktop computer nowadays I suppose. Man.

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  • [–] 2 points 6 months ago

    I think it's not as common as it used to be. Now there are endless forms of distractions through small screens, and I think most use music as background entertainment while doing something else.
    I can listen to music while doing other things, but I prefer to actually listen while not distracted so I can fully take in the phonics and arrangements. Otherwise it's merely hearing and not listening. I find that this distinction is more common with musically inclined people.

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  • [–] 2 points 6 months ago

    Most people I know that enjoy music do it this way. Taking time to just relax, listen to music, maybe have a drink along with it.

    I can't sit and listen to music like that for long periods of time (like, maybe 2 songs), but I always figured I was the weird one for it.

    You're perfectly fine. Do what makes you happy and enjoy music however you want!

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  • [–] 2 points 6 months ago

    If its on a bus or train I like to ponder while listening to music. I should probably be doing something better with my time, but I like it.

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  • [–] 2 points 6 months ago

    I like to take my Bluetooth speaker outside and lounge in the hammock while I build playlists.

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  • I dance and/or sing while listening to music because I'm not dead. 👍

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  • [–] 2 points 6 months ago

    I love music so much I have it on almost all of the time, but I admit, I'm almost always doing something else too.

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  • [–] 2 points 6 months ago

    It's the best way to analyze a track or just let my brain juices flow and just think or plan or just drift into the aether.

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  • [–] 2 points 6 months ago

    I do this if I get sleepy but it's too early to go to bed. Put my noice cancelling headphones on, close my eyes, and usually nod off.

    I wish I could just meditate like you, but my mind is always racing if I'm not sleeping or focused on something.

    I just think you're lucky to be able to tune everything out, not weird.

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  • [–] 3 points 6 months ago (1 child)

    People experience music differently. If I'm going to listen to music, I have to sit there and actively listen to it. If music is playing when I'm trying to work on something, I have to turn it off, it's too distracting.

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  • [–] 2 points 6 months ago

    Same. For me, listening to music is an active experience that takes up my brain slot. I can't do something else while listening to music. Eg, many people study better with music, or do coding with music. That's impossible for me. Exceptions are when I'm driving with the radio on, or walking to the train station with my earphones in.

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  • [–] 1 point 6 months ago

    Depends how stoned I am

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  • [–] 1 point 6 months ago

    I like to play games while I listen to music

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  • [–] 1 point 6 months ago

    I wish I could do this, but I need something for my eyes and/or hands to be doing. and eyes usually means reading, which requires attention and language processing, so it has to be instrumental music, otherwise the lyrics get distracting

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  • [–] 1 point 6 months ago

    1000% Not weird at all. The ones judging you for it are the weird ones. Love kicking back and listening to good music. I'm actually laying back on the couch right now after a tiring day and the only reason I'm on Lemmy right now is because I didn't have my headphones.

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  • [–] 1 point 6 months ago

    It definitely depends, but sometimes! Especially if it's a fairly musically complicated thing or if I'm trying to learn to play a song. When the new Sleep Token album came out (and the new Angine de Poitrine album) I just put them on, alone, straight through

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  • [–] 1 point 6 months ago

    I listen to a lot of music while I'm doing things as background, but when I get a moment for it focused listening is a great experience. I don't listen to the same type of music for both, though there's definitely some overlap. But I'm not listening to funeral doom at work or Lightning Bolt sitting in bed before I go to sleep. I think both experiences are equally valid ways to enjoy and appreciate music.

    The gym has given me an interesting middle ground as it is something that requires some planning and thinking at times, but at some point my body knows the movements well enough to do it more or less on its own. So the music I listen to ends up being the most diverse. It can either fade into the background while I'm setting up, making notes, etc. or be the main thing I'm focusing on toward the last reps of a movement I know well.

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  • Yes, our main floor living room doesn't have a TV. Instead we have a piano, guitar, and high end speakers hooked up to a vinyl player with a collection that I'm constantly growing (probably to my wife's chagrin). It's my way of putting my phone out of reach and disconnecting for a minute while The Armed yells at me.

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  • [–] 1 point 6 months ago

    I don't think its wierd to do that but I rarely even watch video as a stand alone activity.

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  • I love doing that from time to time. It's not something I'll do daily, but probably once or twice in a week, especially if I've found a new song or artist that I really like.

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  • [–] 1 point 6 months ago

    Honestly, people judging how you consume anything is weird. Personally, i do the same as you, and i lay down to.listen to some music, and honestly, i've had the best musical experiences that way. Laid down, eyes closed. That way your imagination can go wild and sometimes (sometimes) cook you up some wild stuff xD But all in all? Extremely normal if you ask me.

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  • [–] 1 point 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

    I mostly listen to music whilst walking the doggy, and sometimes when doing chores around the house

    Occasionally I have a random moment though of "it's music time" and just focus listen to a whole album in one sitting

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