It's not always easy to be honest. But being honest is proper. You be you, and they will be who they are. It's best to live your best lives as who you truly are. If you're not compatible, you're not compatible. It's okay.

Let her know that you support her being who she is, it's just not your thing. You are entitled to your own preference. No hard feelings, hopefully.

Hey, I went through a similar situation so I'll share the advice I was given: just be honest. It might hurt her to some degree, but it'll be better than just holding in your feelings. Looks like you were already honest with her by the post message.

I hope your breakup goes smoothly and you remain good friends (I assume your relationship was good to start with). It's never easy to breakup, but rip that bandaid off as kindly as possible. She's not of your attracting gender and that's no one's fault. ✨Friendly after-midnight internet stranger thoughts to both of you.✨

You should probably bring this up sooner rather than later. The longer you leave it the harder it'll be. Maybe something about loving them as a person but no longer being attracted to them on a sexual level.

There's not really any way I can think of that won't hurt at least a little bit.

Many relationships don't make it through transition. Hopefully your friendship can

Be respectful but honest. Hopefully you can still be there to support her, but its not your responsibly to hide your sexuality for her, nor would it be right to lead her on when the relationship won't be successful.

Just try to keep in mind that she's likely in a vulnerable place right now, so while you shouldn't lie, try to be gentle. Prehaps emphasize that theres no blame, and make sure she knows you're proud of her.

You tell them just like to told us. How did it get this far without you telling them? Did you just keep trying to make it work but didn't want to hurt their feelings?

Breaking up is hard no matter if it's justified and moral, there's never an easy way to do it.

There’s no way to lay it on “nicely”.

How did it go?

I might be late to the party here, but I just wanted to chime in that my former husband and I went through this. He (now she) came out as MtF. I am not straight (bi), but I married them in part because I was attracted to their masculinity, which was now going away. I no longer found myself physically attracted to them. We went to marriage counseling, but ultimately decided to divorce. It was very hard, but it was ultimately for the best, for both of us. We remain friends and talk almost every day and it's been 7 years since the divorce.

If you truly love someone, you set them free.

You don't owe her a relationship. Break up with her.