I'm not really into trans people, so I only date cis men. Not trans men, not nonbinary people, and not women of any kind. However, my former boyfriend is now my girlfriend, and IDK how to tell her I don't like women without her taking it the wrong way.

I wrote:

Hey, L,

I know you're probably asleep, but I kind of needed to talk about something. I want you to know that I fully support you coming out as trans. I think it's good that you're finally your true self. However, I wanted to say that I'm straight. I'm, unfortunately, not that into women, which you are. I'm sorry, it's just my preference. Know, please, that we can still be friends and I can support your true womanly self along the way, but I'm not interested in women and I can't keep dating someone and lying about how I feel.

I hope you understand, E 🙂

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[–] 12 points 1 year ago (5 children)

You tell them just like to told us. How did it get this far without you telling them? Did you just keep trying to make it work but didn't want to hurt their feelings?

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  • [–] [S] 10 points 1 year ago (4 children)

    Yeah, I didn't want to be rude

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  • [–] 8 points 1 year ago (3 children)

    Also kinda surprised she didn't bring it up either? Like, "btw I'm transitioning, what does that mean for us?"

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  • [–] [S] 7 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    I told her I would still love her and try to be there, she kinda hinted when she said "would you still love me if I was a woman" but I realized I don't like women romantically much

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