I lack the photoshop skills, but uh

The 'plap plap GET PREGNANT' meme, but with a therapist shouting:

'accept what you can't change'

'don't blame yourself for things out of your control'

'oh, the copay is $125'

'you missed the last appointment so we charged you for not canceling in advance'

'im worried you're not taking our sessions seriously'

sorry psych professionals, there is no ethical therapy under capitalism

100%

But also, go to therapy

Agreed. It’s more like “people would rather be lost at sea than live in a modern society”.

29 days away from reality is therapy.

There's a tiny town in northern California called Downieville that my wife and I love to visit. It's maybe 200 people, sits on the convergence of two decent sized rivers, and there is pretty much no cell service. Even just a week of sitting by that river is enough to fully recharge me and not want to break everything for at least 4 months.

Society hasn't become that bad. It's becoming that bad again, and almost none of us are used to it.

Being lost at sea is reality. Society is the dream

I have a great therapist these days who has helped me a lot. I still hate therapy. I did finally figure out why, though. Because, with the exception of therapy and a couple of really great people, everyone I've ever been vulnerable in front of has weaponized it against me. So even though I know my therapist wouldn't actually do that I'm still waiting on it to come back and bite me.

Probably not what you want to hear, it really sucks to be in that spot, but it is possible to find good ones! I went through 3 therapists over the course of a couple of years before finding one that helped me.

Not to mention it just doesn't work as well for men as it does for women.

My therapist is taking two weeks off for their own mental health, been hearing the same woes from everyone and it’s weighing

Totally get where you're coming from. If you’re staring down the barrel of something massive like trauma, abuse, an entire system that's completely fucked and seems way bigger than you and the others fighting it are or ever will be, it feels like no matter how much "self care" you do, the external crap stays the same, right?? It's fucking maddening.

But idk, to me, therapy (actual, good therapy with a non-shitty therapist) isn’t about giving us power over the root cause, not always anyways because like you said, sometimes it's impossible. Imo, a lot of times it’s about helping people stop handing more power to "it" (whatever it may be) than "it" already has. We don’t get to choose what happens to us sometimes, but we do get to choose how we respond to it, how we carry it, how we let it affect us, how we pass our pain onto others. Realizing that can be a super uncomfortable, yet extremely liberating, paradox. Like, okay, I might not be able to slay the dragon here (sorry, nerd here), but I can sure as hell stop feeding it in whatever way I was (constant unhealthy thought patterns, my own actions or the lack thereof, etc).

Therapy doesn't fix the world for sure, but it can help us decide which parts of the suffering are necessary, or which parts we might be unconsciously choosing to carry longer than we need to. Idk, that’s where our power really is, imo.

Edit: fixed some typos

I'm considering hard getting "lost" forever.

I felt this comment.

Thanks, I hate it.

Isn’t that called vacation? Just don’t bring any communications device ;)

If I could drop out of everything for 29 days, I wouldn't come back at all.

I'm getting major surgery in two weeks and I'll be on short term disability for an entire month afterwards. I'm honestly really looking forward to the time off, even if it'll be full of physical suffering. My burnout outweighs the physical trauma of having nearly all of my reproductive organs removed.

That's about 1 standard stint in rehab where I'm from

i was a camp host for a summer and it was possibly the best summer of my life. no power, no water, no internet, minimal contact with people, cleaning toilets, and spending half of my day in a kayak.

Damn, that is well said. This sentence in particular:

We are losing our respect for the profound, our empathy for the other, and our curiosity for the unknown.

is the kind of thing that sounds like an empty platitude when your mind/life is in a bad state, but after a few years of progress and healing I read that line and wish I could adequately express the years of reflection and learning that can be distilled down to such a short statement.

the unexamined life is not worth living

Just get a project car. It costs money too, but you have a getaway from life, just go to your garage. And the end result is a cool car.

I ask myself spicier questions than the therapist ever will anyway. I haven't gotten a project car though, that's too much therapy. My mind already wanders far enough in any situation.

But the ocean wants to kill you... (can't blame oceans for wanting to kill humans but it is not your fault..). Therapy can be obtained in many different ways. I think maybe going to a therapist is for people who need motivation to care for themselves, need help starting to be healthy, compassionate and forgiving to themselves and get some coaching to find good ways to get there. We sometimes are in a place too low to help ourselves and need some help, a hand... guidance, encouragement and reinforcement that we are worth the trouble and energy.

I watch some trash reality TV and always find it kind of funny how contestants spend a long amount of time internalizing the stress of the situation the show they agreed to be on is putting on them.

Half of Love Island is “Why did you kiss them?” “Why did you go on a date with that person?” “Why did you break up with me?” Guys it’s a SHOW. The SHOW is making you go through these completely unnatural circumstances!

And then I think about real life and it’s like “why don’t I have energy? why am I so depressed? why can’t I be more productive?” …guys it’s CAPITALISM/SOCIETY. SOCIETY is making you go through these completely unnatural circumstances!

…except of course I didn’t agree to be on this show.

When I was deployed it was nice, I didn't have bullshit to worry about. I did my job, I ate, I took shits, and I slept.

There's a community here on lemmy to counter that.

To be fair it's also men doing this to other men mostly. Women participate in toxic masculinity too, but really, men give each other a lot of shit with very little support.

Ill still sign up. Rafty and Flare Gunny sound like great new friends and we would have all sorts of adventures.