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[–] 68 points 11 months ago (4 children)

This internet as it was meant to be.

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  • [–] 39 points 11 months ago (7 children)
  • [–] 11 points 11 months ago (3 children)

    If this isn't real, it should be

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  • [–] 21 points 11 months ago (1 child)

    I miss walmart.horse

    (The site was just a picture of a Walmart with a horse in front of it)

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  • [–] 50 points 11 months ago (29 children)

    I don't know if penis.gay exists, but it should. Think about it. If you're a gay dude, and you're out and proud, what better way to find other gay dudes who are also out and proud?

    I don't know how social interaction works with finding other like minded gay guys, but do you know how thrilled straight men would be if women had a horny.drippingpussy instance that they used when they wanted sex?

    I think part of the problem with guys trying to find sex, is chasing it from people who are in no way interested. So if Tom flirts with Sally, but Sally is asexual, then Tom has a 0% succsess potential if he hits on her at the bar. But he doesn't know that. So after he gets rejected, now he feels bad about himself. Nobody likes getting rejected.

    But if Tom went on nsfwlemmy, and found Tina@horny.drippingpussy then he would know that she's just like a Buffalo NY city street in December. Ready to be plowed.

    And for gay guys, penis.gay would let them identify to each other that they're all like minded, and judgement free.

    Although as I think about this, at least in America, it may not be the best idea, because now ICE is essentially becoming the S.S. and using social media activity to track "undesirables". And I don't trust the republicans to be open minded and empathetic. We all know what the nazis did with gay people in the 30s/40s.

    So I guess it would be one of those things that would be great in a perfect world...but because we live in this reality, we can't have nice things.

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  • [–] 23 points 11 months ago (3 children)

    It’s not an instance, and that is one hell of a landing page.

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  • [–] 13 points 11 months ago (2 children)

    I just checked, and penis.gay is currently taken. However, penis.world and penis.fit are both available, albeit expensive.

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  • [–] 6 points 11 months ago (2 children)

    From what I've heard, hooking up is already pretty easy for gay guys. Basically “u want sum fuk?”

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  • [–] 3 points 11 months ago (12 children)

    I think part of the problem with guys trying to find sex, is chasing it from people who are in no way interested. So if Tom flirts with Sally, but Sally is asexual, then Tom has a 0% succsess potential if he hits on her at the bar. But he doesn’t know that. So after he gets rejected, now he feels bad about himself. Nobody likes getting rejected.

    But if Tom went on nsfwlemmy, and found Tina@horny.drippingpussy then he would know that she’s just like a Buffalo NY city street in December. Ready to be plowed.

    Idk, that sounds like the type of username some aces I know would use. Granted, they're also the type who'd love to be spitroasted...

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  • [–] 10 points 11 months ago (9 children)

    I am extremely uneducated about this point, but how are "asexual" and "love to be spitroasted" compatible things in the same person?

    Feel free to tell me to just search this on my own, but I am hella confused and if you can spare the time, that would help me greatly.

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  • [–] 4 points 11 months ago (6 children)

    A lot if horny people like the idea of joining the LGBT club and ironically found the Asexual label the easiest one to morph to their desires.

    So now a lot of people online will say asexuals are still very much sexual, and help that be a self-fulfilling prophecy by not caring that it makes people looking for others who are naturally not sexual very uncomfortable to be considered under the same label.

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  • [–] 2 points 11 months ago (5 children)

    No, that's bigoted nonsense. Trans people had to suffer well meaning cis people crying about "transtrenders" in the 10s and I guess aces have to deal with this too now.

    Asexuality is lack of sexual attraction. Attraction is like hunger. Some people like to eat sweets even when they're not hungry, some people don't. The words for that are "sex positive ace" and "sex repulsed ace".

    Asexuality is also an umbrella. There's demisexuals, grey aces, and others under the umbrella.

    Also also, there's aces who are into kink, but not genitals.

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  • [–] 2 points 11 months ago (4 children)

    "and help that be a self-fulfilling prophecy by not caring that it makes people looking for others who are naturally not sexual very uncomfortable to be considered under the same label."

    Thanks for being among them. This is why I don't use that descriptor online anymore, nor go to online asexual communities.

    There's a lot of people whose sexuality is NO, and being forced to share "safe" spaces online for their shared lack of sexuality with people who also say they're asexual but their sexuality is YES is awkward, uncomfortable, and off-putting.

    AKA no longer safe spaces (or a safe to use label) for those whose sexuality is NO.

    Currently, thankfully, people offline still seem to understand "I'm asexual" means "No, I do not want to fuck. Not anyone, not ever."

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  • [–] 0 points 11 months ago (3 children)

    So you want to exclude sex positive aces from the community because sharing the label makes you feel yucky?

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  • [–] 2 points 11 months ago (2 children)

    I would appreciate it if the two had separate labels so that they could enjoy their own commonalities, rather than being lumped into one despite being very, very different. Incompatibly different.

    It feels like the equivalent of a lot of guys going into a space for gay guys, saying "I'm totally gay, but I really prefer sex with women and if you say a guy having sex with women ain't gay then you're just homophobic".

    Then on every single post about guys with guys, you get comments saying "Guys like girls too! Don't forget about us!"

    Like, Bisexual and Heterosexual are right there. Why go into a Homosexual space and change it instead?

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  • [–] 1 point 11 months ago (1 child)

    You do have separate labels. You're sex repulsed and they're sex positive. If you don't want to talk to them, all you have to do is be specific. Make yourself a sex repulsed support group.

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  • [–] 1 point 11 months ago

    If I need a support group to feel comfortable and safe under "my" own label, there's something wrong.

    It's been better on my mental health to just stay far away from communities that want to simultaneously say I belong and yet also call me an acephobic bigot for the sin of not wanting sex-yes shoved down my throat in what I hoped was a community of fellow sex-no's.

    No thanks. Don't need that. I lucked out and landed both romance-no AND sex-no, so I have the easier option of just dodging that entire scene.

    And that's why I instead offer my condolences to the romance-yes, sex-no people out there who now have to seek partners in very sex-yes filled spaces when they were JUST starting to get some sex-no spaces.

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  • [–] 1 point 11 months ago

    Ace refers to who you are attracted to sexually, not what acts you find enjoyable. You can just enjoy the physical stimulation (also some aces enjoy sex with partners as a part of a romantic relationship, but not sure if that applies to what I said.

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  • [–] 32 points 11 months ago (7 children)

    I tried getting in on yiffit.net, but they weren't taking new users at the time. Kinda sad about that.

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  • [–] 29 points 11 months ago

    I almost chose Lemmygrad for my first account because it's an excellent pun and I didn't know that it was for ACTUAL tankies before reading closer.

    I'm not sure my enthusiasm for the project would have survived making that mistake at the very beginning lol

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  • [–] [S] 17 points 11 months ago (5 children)

    dw you still got bark.lgbt/ , woof.group, chitter.xyz , kinkycats.org , thicc.horse , furry.energy , pawb.fun , tiggi.es , ...

    there is so so many furry mastodon instances

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  • [–] 14 points 11 months ago (6 children)

    Could someone explain the joke? I don't get what Tom Scott is doing here.

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  • [–] 34 points 11 months ago (3 children)

    I'm guessing it's because Tom Scott goes to plenty of places and some Fediverse users use plenty of instances

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  • [–] 8 points 11 months ago

    I was on mastodon.social (too big) mastodon.world (still big) mas.to (Cloudflare 💩) mstdn.social (too busy) infosec.exchange (Threads 💩) sharkey.world (currently)

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  • [–] 8 points 11 months ago (5 children)

    Why would you want multiple accounts on the same software? Having a Mastodon, a Misskey/Sharkey, a Lemmy, a Mbin, a Wafrn, etc., that makes sense - each one of those have different tech and very different communities. But why would you want more than one Lemmy?

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  • [–] 12 points 11 months ago

    I asked this question to someone I saw frequently instance hopping and they said it was related to instance federation and the spread of posted content, as well as their desire to advertise lesser known instances. I think it's a little disorienting and creates the opportunity for dopplegangers but it was a much more satisfying motivation than avoiding bans.

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  • [–] 6 points 11 months ago

    Literally every single Lemmy instance I've ever joined (and then some) has suffered significant long-term outages or degradation of service on a semi-regular basis. I don't use any other social media. So, when I'm looking for my "fix", I don't have time to bullshit around and wait for penis.gay to get to the bottom of their their issues. I want my engagement and I want it now. So off to lemmy.wtf I go if it's up.

    But also, some of us have serious accounts geared towards specific topics/hobbies, accounts where we might share information that could be publicly identifiable, and farting around shit post accounts all separated out. Easier to keep the creeps away.

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  • [–] 3 points 11 months ago*
    • Insurance. Some big instances have closed down, others regularly go into maintenance, you never know when one might decide to enshittify itself. Federation gives us the ability to use a different instance if needed, and it costs nothing to have some accounts ready to use should you be unable to use your main one.
    • Compartmentation. Wouldn't want to open the account where I'm subscribed mainly to porn on the bus or at work.
    • Access. Not all instances federate with the same set of instances. Having accounts on instances with different federation policies lets you access more of the fediverse.
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    I was on blahaj.zone until they decided they didn't like it when you call out admin abuse

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  • [–] 7 points 11 months ago (4 children)

    Inconsistent application of instance/community rules

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  • [–] 3 points 11 months ago* (2 children)

    Ah, bummer. Good thing there are other instances and platforms! Mbin is my favorite so far.

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  • [–] 0 points 11 months ago (1 child)

    Some instance admins respond to report abuse and intentional troll brigading differently than Reddit would have. You can probably surmise what a 'blahaj' instance has to deal with.

    Ultimately there being many instances and platforms for people to migrate to over, even on a whim is, in fact, a good thing. That sense of mobility and independence is valuable to the Fediverse.

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