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[–] 78 points 1 year ago (4 children)

Panic also works if anger isn’t available.

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  • [–] 31 points 1 year ago* (3 children)

    Okay but could we tone down the panic back to a more manageable level, like 9/10, instead of usual 28/10?

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  • [–] 61 points 1 year ago (7 children)

    Lots of caffeine to bring you up during the day and alcohol to slow the racing thoughts at night. It's no way to live.

    Every once in a while I still encounter parents who are hesitant to get their ADHD kid on meds. I try to explain to them that it's not really about performance in school even if that's where it was first noticed.

    It's about keeping them from killing themselves or engaging in incredibly self destructive behavior.

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  • [–] 15 points 1 year ago (5 children)

    I got to experience that a couple of days ago. I should probably get diagnosed...

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  • [–] 6 points 1 year ago (3 children)

    Please do, it's very helpful in just the knowing aspect and being told explicitly how it can and does affect you. Can help you manage it better even when you're not on meds

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  • [–] 4 points 1 year ago

    It has helped me mentally to understand. Medicine doesn't do much except allow me to get things I just fucking don't care about, done at work.

    If I want to be able to enjoy things in my free time I'll have to be up all night, or drink myself asleep.

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  • [–] 9 points 1 year ago

    I find doing CrossFit multiple times a week helps at night. Turns out if you are sufficiently physically exhausted the thoughts tend to slow down. But if they don't that's fine because you are liable to pass out as soon as you stop moving.

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  • [–] 37 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (13 children)

    Wait, the anger is a thing related to adhd?

    I always felt like somewhat of a nutcase for getting pissed off at stuff not working/going my way (shout at the pc until you figure out how to get the driver working again).

    Jogging/biking: get pissed, the burning anger gets you through.

    In an odd way anger manages to focus me but it’s just not a healthy way to live :/

    Edit/Disclaimer: I never said I shout at people.

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  • [–] 12 points 1 year ago

    Anger is a natural result of discovering that your natural abilities are routinely exploited and taken for granted but your needs that are a direct result of those same abilities will not be met.

    My emotions are very well regulated, thank you. It is normal to feel anger when gaslit into thinking your normal human variation is a disorder.

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  • [–] 8 points 1 year ago

    Yeah. Do some therapy and you will find out lots of things you "just do" are adaptations to compensate for ADHD. Shifting to healthier ways of doing things can be tough. It's hard to let go of habits that have "worked so far".

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  • [–] 7 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    I have been frustrated and angry easily for far too much of my life and I brought it up, among other issues to a psychiatrist and he said its also a symptom of bipolar type 2 as well as adhd.

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  • [–] 7 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    There's poor emotional regulation but adrenalin is also self-medication. So screaming at other people gets your adrenaline up which helps you focus and feel good. Obviously unhealthy and sucks for everybody around you. Very toxic.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago (6 children)

    Nah. It affects impulse control.

    Its good if you don't yell at your computer, healthy if you think that is a bit nuts. It makes people and yourself feel bad.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago (5 children)

    Again, I never said I shout at other people.

    Why does everyone immediately draw that conclusion? I do that shit in private like any other decent nutcase thank you very much.

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    Well you kinda imply it by saying it makes people feel bad. Unless you mean people feel bad when they shout themselves. But that feels like a weird way of stating that.

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    Ok, what did you mean by “ it makes =>people<= and yourself feel bad” then? (You know, clarifying a statement goes a long way…)

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago

    When you shout at a computer, several things happen that makes people (including yourself) feel badly: For instance, people that are nearby can get scared and become wary. In addition, screaming can go through several walls or reach anyone passing by outside and they may not assume that you are shouting at a machine which can be very threatening and for certain people. I don't think I need to go on, but I'll add this as it seems it may be of help; your frustration is carried with you if you don't let it out, but a good way to make sure that you carry it around your neck much longer, is to scream and act out on what's nearby. Impulse control is a form of processing even if it feels great to give in to anger. Was definitely not obvious to me at least

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  • [–] 30 points 1 year ago (3 children)

    Just gonna keep ignoring these increasingly relevant memes and move on, fuck you very much.

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  • [–] 9 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    Real question: what kind of content do you expect from this community?

    At its core, ADHD is just a vague, flexible list of symptom checkboxes that are part of the neurodivergent spectrum. Tick enough of the boxes, and you are considered ADHD. Tick enough of some other boxes, and you are considered autistic. Tick enough ADHD and autism boxes, and you're AuDHD.

    The vast majority of people will tick at least one box from the neurodivergent list, this is what people mistakenly refer to as "everyone is a little bit autistic", and is why these memes can apply to a lot of people, or not apply to you at all as someone with an ADHD diagnosis.

    Anyway, thanks for coming to my Ted Talk.

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  • [–] 20 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    Me, a Neurodivergent: i don't need any of this pesky chemical stimulant stuff to get through life.

    Also me: Addicted to both caffeine and sugar.

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  • [–] 17 points 1 year ago

    If you microdose a breakdown by crying in a closet afterwards you get extra cooldown reduction.

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  • [–] 13 points 1 year ago

    Just raw dogging reality

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  • [–] 13 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    You forgot spite. Spite is more effective than anger because it's less distracting and lasts longer.

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  • [–] 7 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    I always feel like my brain and my body are out of sync. When I used to smoke, it was like the gears suddenly synced up, and everything was running smoothly.

    But in the past year or so, it suddenly became ANXIETY: Full steam ahead!

    Brains are dumb

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago

    I've found sativa in particular can amplify any anxiety I'm having. Used to love it too lol, don't know what happened.

    My adhd also goes off the wall though so it's always fascinated me that people use it to manage theirs.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    Can I get that without the addiction thank you very much

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    Have you experienced addiction with THC? I personally haven't and I've used a lot of it. Maybe habitual, nothing like withdrawal symptoms, but I have a specific time of day that using it is even an option. Every body is different though so I'm genuinely curious.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago

    Yeah I have, on multiple occasions.

    Been consuming since the age of ~19, sometimes more, sometimes less. When I do consume more, I tend to seclude myself and leave the apartment as little as possible. I just don't feel like socializing and don't have the energy for it. I usually recognize the actual addiction whenever I feel the strong urge to smoke weed, even though I don't really want to in that moment.

    The withdrawal symptoms I experience are more like cravings and a grumpy mood, both of which subside rather quickly (few days). But the cravings are tough.

    Most time of the year my consumption is within reasonable limits and does not negatively impact my life. I don't even smoke anymore, I've got my vaporizer for that. Weed has always has been my best bet for coping with ADHD symptoms. Shame that it just doesn't play well with my anxiety.

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    [–] 20 points 1 year ago

    For overachievers there's also the fear of being seen as a fraud >.<

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  • [–] 10 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    i thought i could do this since i stopped taking Ritalin around 10/11. huge mistake, massive lol. i am now in a PHP for psychiatric intervention. i have fucked up oh boy.

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  • [–] 10 points 1 year ago (3 children)

    Replace caffeine with weed and yes.

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  • [–] 15 points 1 year ago (4 children)

    Caffeine, anger, and anxiety…

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  • [–] 7 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    Caffeine leads to anxiety

    Anxiety leads to anger

    Anger leads to the Dark Side

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  • [–] 3 points 1 year ago

    I've had so many people be surprised when I tell them caffeine gives me major anxiety...I thought it was common knowledge that it did that but apparently it's not. Glad to see some organic outside confirmation lol.

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  • [–] 12 points 1 year ago (5 children)

    Haven't any of y'all tried being incompetent?

    I try to avoid caffeine, so I just am unhelpful instead.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago (4 children)

    Ok so you mean it affects your life negatively?

    (The criteria for a disorder)

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago (3 children)

    What is "it"? I can't trace that back to my comment.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago (2 children)

    It is the adhd we are relating about

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago (1 child)

    Oh, I'm not diagnosed (I have a host of other things I would spend my nonexistant healthcare fund on first) but I have suspicions. It's not debilitating, because I've been doing it for a couple decades now, but it sure isn't ideal.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago

    Augh, my condolences. Medication can be like a little renneissance but it's so hard to hear it costs money.. it sounds awful to have to think about health like that. For what it's worth, maybe the cost of self medication could be another thing you get free from. But when it's not debilitating, it's not a diagnosis. Mine sure was when I didn't think so for what that is worth

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  • [–] 6 points 1 year ago

    Yeah it sucks when ADHD meds are illegal in my country. Caffeine isn’t as effective as it used to be

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  • That's about the size of it.

    You don't know the power of the dark side

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  • [–] 6 points 1 year ago (5 children)

    Why is Mac wearing a hardhat?

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  • [–] 7 points 1 year ago (4 children)

    Because the meme can work a lot of construction workers also.

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  • [–] 4 points 1 year ago* (3 children)

    It was originally for some kind of electricians iirc

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    I think a lot of people in general feel this and think it's specific to their job, mental disorder, what have you

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago (1 child)

    Also, lets be real, tradesman is a pretty neurodiverse job choice.

    If you're neurodiverse and good at school, you go into engineering. If you're neurodiverse and better with your hands, you go into a trade. And there's even some mobility between the two to make my point.

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  • I had a lovely conversation with another unmedicated parent. It's the first time in a while that the mask came off a bit in that circle. It was nice.

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  • [–] 4 points 1 year ago

    I stopped taking my prescription two weeks ago because some of its side effects felt very unpleasant. The first couple of days went great (with help from coffee and weed) but I'm already in doubt whether this was a good idea.

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    Why caffeine? I have an ADHD assessment and for the first appointment that was one of the questions, if I drank caffeine and how much if so.

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  • [–] 10 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 child)

    Most people who seek professional help have at one time attempted to self-medicate to resolve their issues.

    Stimulants are what you would self-medicate with for ADHD. Caffeine is a simulant.

    Source: I used to drink up to 3 energy drinks per day to stay on task at work. It was literally killing me

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  • [–] 3 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    I stick to concerta, thank you.

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  • [–] 5 points 1 year ago (3 children)

    Caffeine does pretty much nothing for me

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago

    Life is taking me raw and tbh staying OFF of caffeine has helped me. Sleep is hella important for my insomniac ass.

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  • Just saving shit like this to show my brother how much he relates

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago

    I am 50 and was just recently diagnosed and started taking meds.

    The difference has been night and day. I still struggle to take my pull in the morning sometimes

    I look back on my life and wonder what I could have accomplished if I had been diagnosed and treated earlier.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago

    It’s true. I went to an NHS ADHD clinic and they turned me away without testing anything, after a year on the waiting list, as I didn’t look mental enough (though they told me there was definitely something up). Ever since I have survived on caffeine and rage.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago

    Hell, I am medicated and still go hard with caffeine and rage.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago

    Been living that since I quit school

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