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[+] 38 points 1 year ago (1 child)
  • [–] 28 points 1 year ago (10 children)

    Random question but how the hell do people choose a name. If it were me, not sure that I'd be able to choose. Too many options. Good ones, even. Choosing just one feels like it'd be hard. Deciding on a final answer

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  • [–] 18 points 1 year ago*

    Write down 5 of your major personality descriptors, at least two positive and at least one negative. Go on a writer's forum and ask for help coming up with names for your "character". Do it like three times with different genres of writers. Choose the one you liked the best, or the most common one across all tests. Ez pz. I've had one acquaintance that swears by this method and she pushes it on anyone she knows thinking of transitioning. Good luck.

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  • [–] 13 points 1 year ago

    Disclaimer, I am cis.

    Friend 1 chose a name, but later switched to a variation of her middle name.

    Friend 2 chose a masc name when they were first experimenting with their new identity. Switched between they/he/they over about 6 mo. Finally seems to have settled on a gender neutral name and pronouns.

    Friend 3 chose a variation of their given name and then eventually a different name entirely.

    Friend 4 I didn't know until after he was already comfortable in his identity. He uses a variation of his given name.

    Coworker 1 uses a word that isnt traditionally a name.

    All that to say, from what I've seen there's a lot of options, and none of them are wrong. You might find that your initial choice doesn't fit quite right, and it's okay to experiment.

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  • [–] 7 points 1 year ago

    Also, you don't want to have the name of someone you already know. If you do a job that's client-facing you don't want a name similar to someone else who does the same job in the area.

    Disclaimer: I am an actual cis man (seriously, not like the character in the op), but I have a 2 month old child and picking a name for them was one of the most difficult things we ever did.

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  • [–] 4 points 1 year ago

    I spent months at a deadlock with a temp name that was just kind of fine. Asked a few cis people how they felt about their name and got a resounding set of "meh!"

    Went with my temporary placeholder name. It doesn't have to be great. It just doesn't have to hurt.

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  • [–] 18 points 1 year ago (3 children)

    I just bought some HRT, still cis tho.

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  • [–] 11 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    Im not saying cis men cannot take hrt but the hrt femboy to Alice pipeline is real

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  • [–] 11 points 1 year ago

    My excuse is I'm just too lazy

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  • [–] 11 points 1 year ago

    How do you know someone is trans?

    • they'll tell you , but damn.
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  • [–] 7 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    If that list was a checklist, I would be ticking basically every box :3.

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  • [–] 6 points 1 year ago

    This is a moment of chasing them with a frying pan until they transition

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  • [–] 6 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    Do I dare ask what forcefem fetish is?

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  • [–] [S] 12 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    Being forcibly feminized by some outside force. Think being magically changed or medically transitioned against ones will. Many transfem eggs have such kinks because it allows them to fantasize about what they really desire without the responsibility of needing to do it to themselves.

    It's a similar motivation behind...many rape kinks. They get to fantasize about having rough, casual sex without needing the responsibility of them voluntarily seeking it out. It gets done to you without you having a say, so you don't need to tackle the fact that you really want the sex.

    Having the kink does not mean a person actually wants it; in fact that's rarely the case.

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  • [–] 6 points 1 year ago

    "I am not trans I just like the aesthetic"

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  • [–] 2 points 1 month ago

    Thanks, I hate the last part.

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