Can we just normalize 'come lay down somewhere and relax?' That would be great. Thanks.
No chairs. No standing. Nothing weird. Just lay there and chill together. That is a social life I can participate in.
Can we just normalize 'come lay down somewhere and relax?' That would be great. Thanks.
No chairs. No standing. Nothing weird. Just lay there and chill together. That is a social life I can participate in.
oh yeah spend 250 dollars instead of 85
I think the person is not implying that by going with the person doing an errand you also have to spend money. You are going as a companion.
Yeah, but that $250 is a bunch of food, some books, and tacos instead of one ok meal and some mimosas.
Only one of those is an errand though.
Yeah, tacos will never be considered an errand.
When you can no longer afford to buy things, including furniture, at stores, thrifting as a habit become an errand. Not one that takes long enough to meet up with a friend, I agree, but it is a slightly different headspace than going shopping.
I support thrifting 100% though. Buy stuff from real people, stuff that’s good quality that somebody no longer needs, and avoid buying newly manufactured disposable junk.
I've been thrifting for decades and realized a while ago that I have a totally different idea of what things cost than the average person. I went with a friend to the mall once and watched them drop $100+ on ONE sweater like it was totally normal.
Meanwhile I'm at the thrift store going, "They want 25 bucks for these jeans!? Who are they kidding!"
I love this type of bonding with friends and used to do it a lot. The problem is you have to live or be kinda close by, but I guess that is true for any less formal meetup. I guess the furthest away you are the more "a thing" the meetup must be and the duration longer.
In any case I love do errands with friends and even go help out with something. Even though I don't have time and energy for my stuff I feel like energy for hanging out with friends doing errands como from a different bucket.
It's because it feels great doing something while also procrastinating your own stuff to do
It's also far easier to do if you live in a walkable, bikeable city. I used to live somewhere where even the nearest grocery store was a 10 minute drive away, and I barely ever saw anyone. Now I'm a 5-10 minute bike ride from pretty much everything I need and I spend so much more time with friends.
I feel like doing stuff like that would make our bond stronger instead of only sitting in a coffee bar or a restaurant.
I have suggested a firepit by the beach but it doesn't seem to get people interested. Despite costing almost nothing beyond maybe a few marshmallows.
Some of us don't have beaches. And if you place a fire in a park...
What is wrong with a fire in the park? That would have been another suggestion. Or just go somewhere out of town for it.
In my country you get heavy fine because of wildfires...
Don't start a wildfire then, do they also ban camping stoves?
Let's create a community for that. An app like Tinder, but instead of Netflix and chill, there's just socializing and having a good time.
"Friends without benefits"
Somewhere inbetween. I had a friend who was a cook and I didn't know shit about cooking. He would come over, then we would go to the supermarket and smell the different produce, and look at the meats and come up with something to cook. We would buy it, go back and chef it up. Learned a whole lot about cooking and flavor profiles etc. Some of the best times I've ever had.
I'm a groomsman in his wedding in November. For the bachelor party we are renting a cabin with some people. We are going to dream up a menu, go shopping, and chef it up again. I can't wait.
A great idea, killed by coordination overhead.
It works if you're like 22 and have few responsibilities and much free time.
If you're 44, fuck that noise, I got a routine to keep or everything will fall apart.
Oh cool so that's normal...
Yeah, I think it works that way for most people. I'm an introvert and I could deal with it, probably even enjoy it while it's going on and swear that we would do it again. And then schedule it and dread it the day before going I just don't have the energy for this.
I think it first, life gets in the way and then like an atrophied muscle. We lose the social stamina.
Dine on the free samples at Costco and you can skip the tacos
With something clear-ish to focus on I will not only more easily plan my day & be there, but also be able to enjoy the time together, even retain more memories.
I do feel bad for making people paying hundreds to come visit, not to eat at least some local restaurants.
But for more frequent hangouts it would be nice to hangout informally.
I wish I had the time to get all my own errands done, let alone helping a friend with theirs.
Maybe it's just me, but I need shit in my calendar at least a couple of weeks prior if I'm gonna be able to make it, and the only kinds of chores people really plan that far ahead is going to be moving stuff (which I funnily do actually end up doing a lot with friends)
100% let's just put a meal in the calendar, doesn't have to be expensive and I'll actually be able to focus on the conversation rather than some task.
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