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Why does neuro divergent only mean Autistic and ADHD? in c/nostupidquestions@lemmy.world
[–] 2 points 8 hours ago* (1 child)

Look, I get what you're saying. This new trend of patholgizing everything annoys me too. It's one of the reasons I generally deny "neruodivergence", as I said.

But no, the way I've experienced emotions is not typical of most people. I struggled intensely during my childhood and in periods of my adulthood because of it. I nearly lost my job last year because of how powerful these emotions are. My friend almost had me committed to a hospital at one point. That is not typical. It is among the human variation, sure, but it is absolutely not common.

It took me actually seeing and recognizing that I am a little bit different than people and it does make me struggle harder than others in order to accept myself and work within my nature instead of against it. I can work with it instead of just trying to clam up and behave like society has always wanted me to.

I had a hell of a lot of therapy since then and I am in a much better place in life than I have ever been before. I also take a medication that I'm not if it is really doing much or not, but I'm afraid to stop taking it just yet.

There is some credence to recognizing that some people may struggle more in life in X way, and others may struggle more in life in Y way.

It's not in the name of patholgizing for the sake of patholgizing. It's instead for, as I see it, two reasons:

  1. Understanding what your roadblocks are and that they may differ from others. When you have a roadblock that someone else doesn't, obviously you then need to find a technique to handle said roadblock.

  2. Compassion and understanding for those who struggle with things that you don't. You may not be aware how significantly and deeply you are affecting someone simply because you do not even know their struggle exists.

I hope that makes sense.

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    • Why does neuro divergent only mean Autistic and ADHD? in c/nostupidquestions@lemmy.world
    [–] 2 points 15 hours ago* (4 children)

    Sometimes I feel as though I am a bit "neruodivergent" in that I am much more sensitive than others in a very significant and rather painful way....yet I do not have anything remotely like ADHD or autism, so I don't call myself it.

    No, I do not at all meet the criteria of HSP either. My sensitivity is specific to interpersonal relationships, but does NOT involve the five senses.

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    Mechanic said my brakes feel spongy but I CANNOT get any air to come out of the lines. Any help? in c/motorcycles@lemmy.world
    [–] [S] 1 point 1 week ago*

    It is interesting because I have both the owner's manual and the official factory service manual, and none of them mention brake hose swelling or it being a cause of sponginess. It tells me to look for cracking/deterioration, but that's it. There is a separate area with a zillion and one possible causes listed for spongy brakes, but interestingly degraded brake lines are not one of the listed causes.

    Here's a screenshot from this part of the service manual:

    But it is quite interesting to hear about braided steel cables. Seems a lot of people swear by them! I will definitely keep it in the back of my mind.

    I do have rubber and plastic components that have degraded on my bike. So I know what you mean that at the age of my bike, stuff can start to go bad. Especially because I suspect this has always been an outdoor bike. The gas tank cap seal was aftermarket, but was cracked and degraded. The plastic clips that held the battery in place were degraded, etc. The speedometer now let's in moisture. Etc. There isn't any obvious degraded fuel or brake lines that I can discern from only a visual inspection.

    I guess the problem I'm having with some of my issues (I have another one which is more of an annoyance than a huge issue) is that I can't readily discern the cause for them. I can keep pouring more and more money into the bike, but mechanical troubleshooting is so far beyond me that I'm afraid I'll end up making a money pit.

    I've learned a lot of basic maintenance stuff this year that I haven't before. And I'm grateful to be able to do so. But it seems that I'm only really able to do general maintenance rather than extensive troubleshooting.

    I only got my bike in the spring, but I'm contemplating trading it in for a new bike when 2027 models come out. Altho my big issue with that is I'm afraid of avoiding my warranty by doing my own maintenance. I'd rather do my maintenance myself. It's a tough call for me I guess.

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    • Mechanic said my brakes feel spongy but I CANNOT get any air to come out of the lines. Any help? in c/motorcycles@lemmy.world
    [–] [S] 1 point 1 week ago

    Ok I tested a couple of times and I seem to be able to lock up the rear fairly easily. But the tires were prob cold. Can you easily lock them up with air in the lines still?

    The front brake lever has some freeplay and then I hit a sudden wall of resistance, which to me seems fairly normal? I tried to do a bit of what you said but I am a bit nervous of being loud and potentially doing burnouts in my condo complex lol!!

    The rear pedal doesn't have the same feel as the front lever. Instead of hitting a wall, I just feel a gradual increase in resistance until I can't push it anymore. It doesn't feel sharp like the front does for me and the pedal can travel fairly far. However, I cannot bottom them out unless I am bleeding the brakes and opening the bleeder valve.

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    • Mechanic said my brakes feel spongy but I CANNOT get any air to come out of the lines. Any help? in c/motorcycles@lemmy.world
    Mechanic said my brakes feel spongy but I CANNOT get any air to come out of the lines. Any help? in c/motorcycles@lemmy.world
    [–] [S] 2 points 1 week ago* (1 child)

    What the actual fuck??? I've heard of air getting trapped in the ABS systems but I've never heard of it being paywalled. Fucking ridiculous.

    My bike is fairly low tech! Doesn't seem to have anything like that. Doesn't even have a tachometer or gear shift indicator (and yeah no ABS).

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    • Mechanic said my brakes feel spongy but I CANNOT get any air to come out of the lines. Any help? in c/motorcycles@lemmy.world
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    Mechanic said my brakes feel spongy but I CANNOT get any air to come out of the lines. Any help? (lemmy.world)
     

    HI have only been riding since the late spring. This is my first bike. It does NOT have ABS (I've heard air can get trapped in the ABS system...this is not my issue).

    Several months ago, I changed the brake fluid. I initially had air sucked into the front brake line, but it eventually came back out the other side. The rear brake caliper initially seemed to be "sticking" a bit after the fluid change, but now no longer sticks at all and I can freely rotate the wheel when cleaning the chain.

    I had a recall on something NOT brake related. While there, the mechanic told me my brakes needed work because they felt "spongy". They then quoted me a whopping $650 for an 8k mile service. I told them I'd think about it. They said they could knock off some items if I am doing things myself but still. I'd like to see if I can figure it out myself.

    I tried to re-bleed them for a while yesterday, but no air came out of the lines. The brakes feel the same. I tried tapping on the brake lines a bit as well. Still no bubbles come out.

    I do not have a pneumatic bleeder. Instead I do this method. 1. Pump brake a few times then hold down, 2. Open bleeder valve for a few seconds, 3. Close bleeder valve, 4. Release brake.

    The brake pads have plenty of meat left on them, also confirmed by the mechanic.

    However, a new thing that just developed after attempting to re-bleed is that the rear wheel now squeals when rolled backwards. Not sure if that has any relation.

    Since this is the only bike I've owned, I also don't really know how they are "supposed" to feel. This is how they've always felt ever since owning the bike before I even changed the fluid.

    Bike is from 2017. The fluid looked dirty when I initially got the bike in spring of 2026, so I don't know how old the fluid in the bike was.

    Any ideas? Would you mind explaining for someone not super well-versed in mechanical things? All of this bike maintenance stuff is new to me!

    Thanks all!

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    My comments are suddenly all being mass downvoted. Looking for some help. (lemmy.world)
     

    Hello. I've found that rather suddenly, all of my comments within the past week have exactly 3 downvotes. These are even on totally unassuming comments, like a comment I posted saying that French is used in a lot of African countries.

    I believe it might be possible that I am suddenly being harassed be a user with multiple accounts or something.

    Looking for some guidance.

    Thanks all.

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    Halloween edition unlocked (lemmy.world)
     

    I impulse bought an orange gas tank online. One of my many regrets in impulse buying my bike was that I wanted a brighter color lol. I really wanted the bright red, but only found dented ones for a reasonable price. Found this orange one instead and mashed the buy button lol.

    Some follow up questions:

    1. How do I get last bit of fuel out from the old tank? There is still quite a bit swishing around even after I took off the fuel cap and fuel pump and poured gas directly from the openings. At the moment, it is just turned upside down in a pan hoping the remainder will eventually dry out/evaporate.

    2. How can I help prevent the old tank from rusting in storage? I'm not necessarily planning to use it again, but just in case.

    3. How the fuck do I get fuel to pour out of this gas can with a "safety spout"? Basically you push on the spout to get it to pour, but it only barely dribbles out that way. The red tab I think needs to be depressed or moved somehow but it won't budge. Any ideas? I just ended up removing the spout and pouring it directly out of the can via funnel

    Bonus: Looking for some ideas to temporarily decorate the bike for Halloween! The bike is kept outside tho so it would need to be somewhat weather proof lol.

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    I've been having a sort of "midlife crisis" and I don't know where to go from here. I don't know what I want in life. Would appreciate some perspective/advice. (lemmy.world)
     

    I'm in my early 30s, so not necessarily "mid-life", but I think what I have been experiencing can be described this way. I went through a lot this past year, and it has both left some large scars as well as healed some other aspects and caused new ways of thinking in others. I've tried new things and enjoyed the things that I've tried.

    But I feel like I need something "more", but I have no idea what that is. I keep getting caught on the horrifying realization of life being fleeting and I want to do something to make it more whole. But I can't outrun death so I don't know that anything is left to be done. But I feel like I need something to fill that space. I may in fact be chasing something that doesn't exist idk.

    I guess I just feel a bit lost and would appreciate some direction.

    More about me that may or may not influence your advice: I've always been a loner and the sort of "terminally online" type. I don't experience sexual attraction, so it sort of puts most options of relationships out the window. Asexual "dating" is not as prevalent or simple as you'd think. My career is very solid and I'm paid very well, so I'm not interested in switching careers. My career was a huge source of my trauma this past year, but I have made a lot of progress since and it's really not something I can easily change. I have discovered new and healthier forms of self-expression and have done new things. I own where I live and would not be able to sell it for as much as I paid for it either, which is another reason I'd be against moving. I am physically close-ish to family and visit every couple of weeks.

    Thanks all for listening.

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    ... (lemmy.world)
     

    Hi all. Noob here back again. I got the screws out of the front master cylinder, but I have been having a different problem.

    When under higher RPMs, the bike gives off a VERY strong fuel smell. It's still noticeable at lower RPMs, but not as bad. It didn't do this initially when I got it a few months ago, but I didn't ride it much initially.

    Bike is a 2017 Honda Rebel 300. Fuel injected. No carb.

    I noticed that the gasket to the gas cap was a bit cracked and distorted so I got a new gas cap. Didn't resolve the issue.

    There are no visible leaks anywhere that I can tell.

    The smell is very strong around the gas cap and engine, not so much the tailpipe. The bike seems to run great otherwise.

    Unfortunately, googling seems to show this as a very nonspecific issue, so I'm a bit lost as to where to begin. I'm a huge noob when it comes to mechanical things.

    Thanks!

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    Hello. I'm a new rider who recently purchased a ten year old bike. I have ZERO mechanical know how, but decided that I wanted to learn.

    So far I managed to take both the front and rear wheels off to get the tires changed and I managed to change the oil. Since I am unskilled, it took a LOT of fumbling through these to get things going...including breaking some nuts (rear axle nut was stuck and I originally only had a 12 point socket) and bolts (overtorqued an oil filter cover bolt despite using a torque wrench) and buying replacement ones.

    Since the bike is 10 years old, I know that all of the fluids need to be changed. I feel comfortable attempting the actual change for the brake fluid from my research EXCEPT I don't want to irreparably damage this area. The front brake works fine, but the sight glass is totally clouded and opaque, so I cannot visually check the condition or level of the fluid.

    These are JIS screws and I have purchased replacement screws. Any advice here? Please consider my novice skill level lol.

    I bought some screw extractor bits but do not have an impact driver. I have some JIS screwdrivers, a hammer, a regular drill, penetrating oil, and replacement JIS screws.

    Thanks!

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    How the hell do you asses whether or not your psych meds are doing anything beneficial for you? (lemmy.world)
     

    It's now my one year "anniversary" of my psych med "journey". I just feel so frustrated.

    The providers always ask me how I'm doing and if I think X drug we are trying right now helps. I always have no fucking clue.

    I keep a mood log and everything, but I cannot for the life of me discern any sort of pattern for any of these. One month will be fantastic and the next month will be so horrible and painful it's like someone is boring a hole through my body with a branding iron.

    My provider is having me take the GeneSight test to figure out if there is a particular option I should be trying. But I am just so exhausted with this that I'm considering the next med to be my final straw.

    I do NOT have bipolar disorder. I do NOT have chronic low mood. I do NOT have lack of emotions. I do NOT have PTSD. I have periods of extreme, unbearable intensity with periods of normal in between. I have relational trauma. Since my issues are intermittent, I cannot for the life of me tell if I am ever helped by anything.

    I am currently in an intensive DBT program. While it has been a lifesaver when I have "simple" problems, it does not touch the intense pain of others.

    Some research I do seems to indicate my problem cannot be even minimally helped by meds, which is incredibly frustrating. I want even just a little bit of something to help reduce my pain. :(

    How can I figure this out?

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