That chart is missing the 35% I understood what you were saying after the first nine words and now I'm getting awfully bored.
(of course sometimes I understood them wrong and make an ass out of myself 🫣)
That chart is missing the 35% I understood what you were saying after the first nine words and now I'm getting awfully bored.
(of course sometimes I understood them wrong and make an ass out of myself 🫣)
i just accept that i can’t say what I want to say and forget about it
Don't forget: you already know what they are saying based off context and they are struggling to remember a word and you blurt it out for them because the conversation gap is painful
yea I am horrible at verbally explaining things but people who express a single sentence using ten feel like grating me like a carrot
I'll do you one better: you know the entire point they're trying to make two sentences ahead of where they are.
It can also backfire when you think you know what they want to say but it's something different. ADHDers favorite sport: jumping to conclusions
This makes it sound like 95% of the time, the interruption is deliberate.
Unrelated to the meme itself but I fucking hate the term "neurospicy". It reeks of TikTokers trying to posit themselves as "quirky" in their bio and has the same problematic downplaying of actual issues that "it's not a disability, it's a superpower" does.
My take: It’s only a disability within our society, with its made up mores and expectations.
Point is, play the game but don’t feel bad about yourself.
Hot take: it's not a disability. But that might just be my misunderstanding.
A disability doesn't improve with medicine. Stimulants are undeniably effective in controlling ADHD. A disability would be dyslexia, dyscalcula(sp?). My ex wife had all three. When she took her meds, like me, she'd calm way down and be able to focus on what she chose. However, despite decades of work, she still struggles reading and doing basic math.
Edit: ok, fine those are good points. But y'all don't get it. That would mean I have a disability, and while, objectively, yes, that makes sense, it would mean that I am not capable of perfection, which can't be true as everyone expects perfection of me, and if I can't be perfect undisabled I'm certainly not perfect disabled. I can't be disabled. If I'm disabled that makes me a target for persecution and I like not being persecuted a lot
Edit 2: holy shit I just realized the downvotes mean I was right about it being a hot take lol
So if there is a solution that is somewhat effective at medicating a disability it isn't a disability ?

Stimulants are effective but they don't make ADHD disappear
I'm already knee deep in this shit, so why not -
She still can't stairs
I still can't keep my focus while reading. Like it's to the point where I got through college while reading maybe a sum total of 30 pages between all the books I was supposed to read in all my classes, between literature and textbooks and published papers. It was nearly fucking impossible and it literally almost killed me a couple of times, but reading through the books was actually impossible for me. I couldn't do it. I really tried with everything I had. No matter how much I read the words, my brain could not bring the ideas from page to concept, I could not stay present. I probably technically read the words of hundreds of pages while in college, but they were nothing more than markings on the page with associated sounds.
For me it is a disability. There are things that I am unable to do. I can still accomplish things, but I am not always able to do it the same way as someone else, and in that way it is a disability. Medication helps, but the problem is always there for me.
Medication is a privilege that many with ADHD can't access. It also doesn't work for everyone. Are those people not disabled?
Also, ADHD is more than struggling to focus, or to sit still. Many of us struggle to start tasks, manage money, keep things tidy, or manage time. These issues can cause so many problems in life, ranging from inability to hold a job to relationship issues. Once the medication wears off, these symptoms rise back to the surface; because ADHD medication isn't a cure, it's symptom management.
I wish i could start literally anything at all. I cant even enjoy video games half the time, ill just sit there with steam open and watch youtube or anime.
You can start YouTube or anime, though?
Do you really not get how actively playing a video game requires more executive functioning than hitting a video play button?
Sure, I guess so. But here you are saying "I wish I could start literally anything at all", and then you immediately talk about literally starting something. You clearly can start some things. I don't think that watching anime and YouTube is time wasted.
I’m not the original commenter, I’m just skeptical that someone can’t see the difference in cognitive effort required for the two things.
Washing the dishes and running a marathon are both starting things, so if you can do one you should clearly be able to do the other, right?
A disability doesn't improve with medicine.
I think I understand what you're saying, but disabilities can absolutely improve with meds. Not all of them, and not all the time, but it sounds like that's what your ex-wife's experience was. She had disabling conditions, but it was more manageable when she took her meds. Despite this, there are aspects of her disability which were (are?) still challenging.
To me, THAT'S the experience which defines disability: you've got a condition which, despite yours and your doctor's best efforts, continues to express itself. And even then, I can see a lot of potential issues using that definition in terms of government support. It's compicated.
If your ex-wife found herself in a situation where she had to go without her meds she'd certainly struggle a lot harder than with her meds. How is that any less a disability than a PTSD victim needing antidepressants to quell their unending anxieties, or someone hard of hearing needing electronic hearing aids in order to hear better?
ADHD is objectively a disability. Medicine to make it easier to deal with doesn't make the disability stop existing. Hell, there's a number of people for whom stimulants don't work, or who need unreasonably high doses in order for it to work. The existence of medicine doesn't make their disability less disabling.
This is a pretty deep question, and there's a lot of debate about it. I'm still on the fence, myself.
Goodness, there's a lot of hardcore denial in your edit. I suffer from a similar level of "society/people expect utter perfection of myself" so I understand why your instinct is to deny the possibility of having a disability.
I won't disagree with that denialism.
My parents were successful seemingly effortlessly. My dad has dyslexia, but is a retired math professor. He reads a lot, if not a lot slower than the rest of my family. My mom an engineer.
I'm an engineer. I can't connect the possibility of being disabled to my career. It's not acceptable socially, or professionally. There are no real safety nets. No drugs will make my day any easier. I can't undo psychological damage done to me. But I need to survive. I need to make sure my kid survives. Disability is not an option. It's just not, not for me.
If the rest of you want to be disabled fine. But don't include me.
Totally fair, my friend. You do you, but know that from the outside looking in, it seems like you're putting a lot of additional pressure on yourself to reach "perfection". Only you can know if this approach is working for you, regardless of the various labels society is trying on at this time.
I saw you got a lot of downvotes, but to me you are asking the same questions as the rest of us. If your experience is downvoted, don't worry about it. These things are totally subjective, nuanced to talk about, and there isn't 1 single "correct" universal answer. I personally benefitted from listening to the Anxious Overachiever podcast, which helped me realise that people in positions I percieve to be successful are struggling as hard as I do sometimes.
I appreciate you sharing your experience and broadening the discussion 🙂
How do people know whose turn it is, no matter how large the group is everyone else talks one at a time like they just know
"I thought it was my turn" is more like 45%
The rest shrink proportionally to their current ratio to each other
I have literally taken notes on my phone in real-time to resolve some of this. Both to track whatever firehose is aimed at my ear-holes, and to recall points I wanted to make 10 minutes ago, because I couldn't get a word in edgewise.
When asked what I was doing, I simply reply "I have to take notes - there's too much information here." It goes over surprisingly well.
You may have better friends than me. I've had people say that it's "disrespectful" because I must be focusing more on what they said vs what they're now saying or something stupid IDK.
Yeah I get walked over in conversations specifically because I 100% stop talking when someone else is, even when they're the ones interrupting... Until I hit a breaking point and snap on them or walk away and then somehow I'M the bad one. I don't do this with my son, I just disassociate, and I know that's not good for him either, I just don't know what to do when it comes to conversations with him. Although usually it's him just talking at me.
What artist made this?
20% "I just finishing processing the last thing you said and will now respond to that"
I'm starting to suspect that maybe there aren't really turns. Maybe it's just people interrupting each other's monologues.
Depending on the people involved? Actually, yes. There are familial and regional differences - let's chalk it up to culture - where you either wait politely, or interrupt the fuck out of everyone else constantly. Clashes between these two groups are never pretty.
I'm also autistic next to suspected AD(H)D and I sometimes have the annoying tendency to just talk over people when they take way too long to say something when I already know what they're going to say. It's not a great thing to do but sometimes people just talk so slowly. I wish people would just speak a bit faster so my mind doesn't constantly ping-pong everywhere in the second half of their sentences
Shut up and let me talk! Im sorry I talked over you, but now I have something to say, and you're going to hear it!
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