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[–] 3 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Goodness, there's a lot of hardcore denial in your edit. I suffer from a similar level of "society/people expect utter perfection of myself" so I understand why your instinct is to deny the possibility of having a disability.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    I won't disagree with that denialism.

    My parents were successful seemingly effortlessly. My dad has dyslexia, but is a retired math professor. He reads a lot, if not a lot slower than the rest of my family. My mom an engineer.

    I'm an engineer. I can't connect the possibility of being disabled to my career. It's not acceptable socially, or professionally. There are no real safety nets. No drugs will make my day any easier. I can't undo psychological damage done to me. But I need to survive. I need to make sure my kid survives. Disability is not an option. It's just not, not for me.

    If the rest of you want to be disabled fine. But don't include me.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    Totally fair, my friend. You do you, but know that from the outside looking in, it seems like you're putting a lot of additional pressure on yourself to reach "perfection". Only you can know if this approach is working for you, regardless of the various labels society is trying on at this time.

    I saw you got a lot of downvotes, but to me you are asking the same questions as the rest of us. If your experience is downvoted, don't worry about it. These things are totally subjective, nuanced to talk about, and there isn't 1 single "correct" universal answer. I personally benefitted from listening to the Anxious Overachiever podcast, which helped me realise that people in positions I percieve to be successful are struggling as hard as I do sometimes.

    I appreciate you sharing your experience and broadening the discussion 🙂

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