Toxic positivity is so different than just freely allowing people to be complete bigoted assholes I have to assume you’re missing it this much on purpose

Misgendering, deadnaming, and broadly "it's just bullying get over it" type speech leads to suicides particularly by younger people. The problem has multiple fronts: people need support to get them through the toughest times, thick skin to keep the day to day manageable, and social spaces need some degree of checks to keep from going full toxic

Personally I don't mind being deadname or misgendered I think it's funny. I'm a survivor bias though I've made it to my thirties being unphased. Other people who used to be around me who couldn't handle the aggressions did not make it to their thirties. One of my oldest friends attempted suicide four times that I know of over this type of speech being directed at them. They're only alive right now because they were lucky enough to keep being pulled back from death until they could grow that thicker skin you're talking about

Friends calling each other names is not the same

You are just a bad person.

You can be in favor of people have a thick skin and that people shouldn't be allowed to be assholes.

It is a bit like self-defense. It is probably for the better if people knew self-defense but that is no reason to excuse violent aggressors.

Honestly, you should be ashamed of that opinion and keep it to yourself.

I almost agree with you, but here's where I don't.

Trans rights are based and cool and Misgendering and Deadnaming are definitely hatespeech.

It's like telling a black man to go pick cotton. You're saying they aren't valid beyond the roles society deemed appropriate for them in ye olden days.

because I've been on the internet since I was 14 and have had to deal with the worst of it since day 1.

“The internet made me who I am.” I’m going to help grow the fuck up and take responsibility for your actions, little one. From the moment you discovered the internet, you could’ve decided at any time to stop being on it. Congratulations, you’re the result of your own decisions.

I think that's a bit far. "Fat" can cause eating disorders. "Ugly" can cause low self esteem. Dunno if "gay" makes people LGBTQ. Deadnaming is essentially doxxing, although can cause distress if that old name is related to trauma.

Pretty rubbish take IMO.