My parents are getting older and I think about their mortality daily.. it's crushing. I wonder if there are things I'll regret not talking to them about while I had the chance.

What in the blue applesauce fuck were you thinking marrying this deficient human being and then dying young and leaving me with them. Dad, not cool bro.

What did I do to make you not like me? You liked my sibling.

Why was everything I did worthy of your contempt?

Why did you make my transition to adulthood so much harder than it should have been?

Why did you move me to a car-dependent area, make it so it was impossible for me to get a car, and use the fact I was useless against me?

I should probably ask my dad more about 9/11 while he's still alive. He was there and escaped.

But he never seemed like he wanted to talk about it, and I never asked.

Do you get to spend much time with them?

I still have my parents, luckily, but I can only imagine when they're gone I'll regret not just being around them more while they're here, rather than regretting not asking them something in particular...

They're still alive, but I really hate talking to them. I wanna ask about what China was like when they grew up, like a sort of documentary interview type of thing and I write down the answers so I have first hand account of it. Because I didn't have much memories of it, I was only a kid at the time when we left for the US.

But asking questions like that really feels awkward since they'd start saying shit like "Look how much we sacrificed for you" and all that shit, so nah I'm good, I heard enough when they were talking to each other in the living room and through their phone calls with friends and relatives, I get the gist of it, they suffered a lot so therefore they think its okay to get "strict" with kids (aka: neglect and emotional abuse and manipulation), I don't need to ask for specifics I've heard enough.

Dad,

What was your favorite DnD character you played growing up?

What was your favorite video game?

What was the name of that 90’s hentai vhs you offered that I didn’t take?

What were you running from by drinking?

I want to inject some positivity into this thread. My dad, who is turning 79 in a week, will be visiting soon. We're going to present him with the most bedazzled outrageous and frankly disgusting hat I've ever heard of or seen or thought of. It's shockingly pink, covered in rhinestones and spells out his name in another language that he'll immediately recognize.

I also got him a cool ass travel mug for his coffee.

I won't have any questions for him. We have a great relationship. I'll miss him when he's gone.

Why were you such absolute shit parents?

(I already know the answer)

Edit: I had no idea my parents were on Lemmy… Obviously, they would downvote… why anyone would agree with being shit parents, I can’t imagine, but your kids will be here to talk all about it, and very soon

To all the shitty parents out there: fuck you. You will get yours.

What did I do to deserve your hate

Why wereyou such a vitriolic nasty piece of shit?

But there is really no need. I already know the answer to that question.

Who are all these people in the photographs you inherited from your own parents, then I did from you? How were they related to me?

Nah, I'm good. Their advice has always been more about how I should live my life to please them. They would never give me advice that would improve MY life, only theirs.