So by the logic of "beauty standards"...I should starve myself, curl my hair, get a tan, cut off both my feet to lose height and then remove all of my ribs to get an hourglass figure? You know...can't argue with that 🙃
Gladly...would
(except maybe the tan part, I really like being pale 😭)

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[–] 53 points 12 hours ago* (1 child)

It's about making women have low self esteem and always willing to change ourselves to meet expectations. It makes it easier to get us to submit in other ways.

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  • [–] 17 points 9 hours ago

    Being comfortable with one's self is attractive

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  • [–] 16 points 11 hours ago (1 child)

    Someone happy with who they are and what they have doesn't make as many purchases. In a capitalistic society, that's unacceptable.

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  • [–] 1 point 3 hours ago

    Conversely unhappy people who can't fix what's making them unhappy will go find people who can tell them something they can fix about themselves to make them happy in a different way.

    All potential solutions will be offered and the ones that resonate are the ones that target things we dislike about ourselves, call it out as a Big Solvable Problem, and offer you a solution at retail prices.

    So yes, everything on the right hand column is always being offered to everyone all the time, and the ones on the left hand column have enthusiastically self organized and sought their matching targeted self esteem exploit.

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  • [–] 25 points 12 hours ago

    I feel like that's some serious question?

    It is like that coz some wants profits.

    It is not enough to sell beauty products, as once achieved, income could drop - You need to pursuit another beauty. And poof, we have a fashion.

    Nah, it was still not enough, so, they started to make You feel ugly, so spend more. Follow all these photoshopped ai enhanced pictures from ads everywhere, unreachable standard. Spend.

    Fuck it, ignore standard, go get beauty in self from self (whatever that mean, rarely someone can judge self as "good enough" or "damn pretty enough").

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  • [–] 11 points 12 hours ago

    how else can we sell all these beauty products

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  • [–] 9 points 12 hours ago

    Beauty standards are driven by what sells the most products

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  • [–] 9 points 6 hours ago (1 child)

    Thank you. As a plus-sized girl, this is something that I really needed to see tonight. I've been feeling very ugly & disgusting because of my weight.

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  • [–] [S] 1 point 1 hour ago

    🫂

    Being plus-sized is not a flaw and I hate how badly society treats plus-sized people. That's disgusting, the shame and fatphobia society directs against plus-sized people...it's really extreme.

    You're neither ugly nor disgusting. I see you and appreciate you. I hope you are well 🩷

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  • [–] 17 points 12 hours ago (4 children)

    The logical conclusion of this is that only men are beautiful

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  • [–] 2 points 3 hours ago

    Kinda accurate tbh. British comedy sketch even did this.

    Women's advertising: everything is going wrong and its all your fault, you need to buy all of this shit

    Men's advertising: Shave and get drunk. Because your already brilliant.

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  • [–] 5 points 7 hours ago

    For some reason this reminded me of the foot binding stuff in the Benedict Wong Marco Polo series, which is legit some of the most uncomfortable scenes in TV ever.

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  • [–] 5 points 11 hours ago

    The only good thing my father taught me was to never have a type.

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  • [–] 5 points 4 hours ago

    Creating demand is a centerpiece of a Western world since about Edward Bernays.

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  • [–] 4 points 10 hours ago (1 child)

    I feel more like I got close to what I'd choose, just never quite to the point I couldn't do better, if that makes sense? I'm tall for a girl, 5'9" but would have liked to be one inch taller, in my legs. Thin but would like to be thinner. Pretty happy with my hair, actually, except for the color. Loose curls are what I'd choose, and are what I have. Never had a waist, and yes did want one, bone structure thing, but "elongated athletic" is a body type I like, I don't care that much.

    All my hangups relate to weight. I've been thinner but never actually felt like it wouldn't look better to be even thinner, which I realize makes no sense but is still how I feel.

    Agree a lot of it is created by commercial interests trying to sell things.

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  • [–] [S] 1 point 1 hour ago

    I'm tall for a girl, 5'9"

    Oof, feel you on that ;-;

    It sounds to me like you already got it tho. Like, I know this isn't any help, but damn am I jealous a bit. I have never seen you, but at least from your description...yes you're beautiful 🩷

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  • [–] 4 points 7 hours ago (1 child)

    A less interesting explanation is that everyone's comparing themselves to the mean. If any attribute is too different, it needs correcting. Weight, skin tone, number of fingers and toes, etc.

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  • [–] 9 points 6 hours ago

    It's the opposite, you're comparing yourself to what's exotic in your community and generally only achievable by the elites.

    In Scandinavia, being tanned has been a beauty standard for decades. As most people work indoors.

    In Asia being as pale as possible is the aim, as the peasants have been working outside. Being pale was the beauty standard in Europe throughout the mediaeval years, as peasants then worked outside.

    Anything that can make you appear well off tends to be a beauty standard, it's arguably the main reason some circles have obvious hideous plastic surgery as a beauty standard today, it proves you're able to afford such surgery

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  • [–] 7 points 12 hours ago

    Be who you are, everyone else is taken.

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  • [–] 3 points 4 hours ago

    If you take a mathematical average of all women or all men, you get someone out that is quite attractive. A few parameters are deemed more beautiful at the extremes, but if you are: neither overweight nor starving, have slightly wavy hair, are of medium height, have averaged away all illnesses... you're starting from a good place.

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  • [–] 3 points 4 hours ago (1 child)

    I am trans, and my goal is to look as trans as possible. Take that society!

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  • [–] 3 points 3 hours ago

    Women with brown/black hair are encouraged to dye their hair to look more "unique".

    Women with blonde hair are encouraged to dye their hair to avoid blonde jokes.

    Women with red hair are encouraged to dye their hair to avoid ginger jokes.

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    "You can never please
    Ever-y-body In This World!" The Shaggs

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