I prefer "meatloaf" as a safe word.
"I would do anything for love, but I won't do that"
I prefer "meatloaf" as a safe word.
"I would do anything for love, but I won't do that"
Red is fine, but i really like a personal safeword. Something with a shared meaning with my partner. My current word is the name of a fish.
I once gave a sub an insult as a safe word.
The sub liked its safe word.
Oh that wouldn't work for me. I love calling dommes "sadistic bitch" in scene
Good ol reliable streetlight 🟢🟡🔴
I've always thought just saying "safeword" would be a pretty good safeword. It's unambiguous, impossible to forget, and it doesn't interfere with any sexual scenario unless you like really meta dirty talk.
I like to be gagged during play so I need to just escape my bondage like a bad girl instead
Real question: are there nonverbal safewords? Not for like if you're gagged, but like if you've gone nonverbal? That point where pleasure and pain are good, but maybe a bit too much and you can tell it's gonna go the wrong way, but you're in a headspace where the top or dom won't exactly notice you're going from agghhaaaaaffffhhhuhhjjfgghhh to asrrrrfgggffffiuuuggjjjlkkkkmkggjkk
Yea you can.use taps dubble tap to stop w whatbis happening now repeated taps to stop entirely :)
Double taps are common, but so are the fingerspelling signs for R/Y/G to correlate to the stoplight system
A specific tap pattern works but tbh it often just ends up being frantic taps anyway by that point. A big thing is just gaining the ability to differentiate agghhaaaaaffffhhhuhhjjfgghhh from asrrrrfgggffffiuuuggjjjlkkkkmkggjkk in he first place.
I mean just a squishy duck is a good idea. Produces false positives but that is better then false negative
Lmao like a yellow rubber duckie? That's actually hilarious and clever... As long as you can grab it 😈
Some people in bondage play will also have the bottom hold something like bells or something clunky, and if they drop it that's taken as a signal.
Now, that relies on you being able to continue to hold that thing while in the good headspace, and it requires you to be in a situation where a released object would fall and contract a hard surface, so not getting stuffed into a bed, for example.
thata the same thing tho, no?
Kinda, but it's the difference between several sentences discussing safewords and "'You good with the stoplight system?' 'Yeah'". If even that, it's so common that while one should have the conversation irl, it doesn't really need to be in erotica any more than wiping down shared furniture after a scene or pre scene negotiations do. Hell, even in scenes where safewords aren't negotiated (and thus stop means stop), such as demos, I still default to it instead of stop
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