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[–] 24 points 2 days ago

I prefer "meatloaf" as a safe word.

"I would do anything for love, but I won't do that"

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  • [–] 20 points 2 days ago (4 children)

    Red is fine, but i really like a personal safeword. Something with a shared meaning with my partner. My current word is the name of a fish.

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  • [–] [S] 3 points 2 days ago

    That's totally fair. I'm pretty pro stoplight system, especially for at community events because it makes life really easy for the dungeon monitor as well as making pickup play faster. But with an established partner if doing your own thing is your thing have fun with it

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  • [–] 15 points 2 days ago (2 children)

    I once gave a sub an insult as a safe word.

    The sub liked its safe word.

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  • [–] [S] 3 points 2 days ago (1 child)

    Oh that wouldn't work for me. I love calling dommes "sadistic bitch" in scene

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  • [–] 2 points 1 day ago

    That safe word was an ugly insult of a distinct psychical feature of the sub.

    Bitching on your domme is like ordering the very hot sauce on your meal. If you like it you've gotta swallow it. That's up to you.

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  • [–] 14 points 2 days ago (1 child)

    Good ol reliable streetlight 🟢🟡🔴

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  • [–] 9 points 2 days ago (1 child)

    I've always thought just saying "safeword" would be a pretty good safeword. It's unambiguous, impossible to forget, and it doesn't interfere with any sexual scenario unless you like really meta dirty talk.

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  • I like to be gagged during play so I need to just escape my bondage like a bad girl instead

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  • [–] 5 points 2 days ago (8 children)

    Real question: are there nonverbal safewords? Not for like if you're gagged, but like if you've gone nonverbal? That point where pleasure and pain are good, but maybe a bit too much and you can tell it's gonna go the wrong way, but you're in a headspace where the top or dom won't exactly notice you're going from agghhaaaaaffffhhhuhhjjfgghhh to asrrrrfgggffffiuuuggjjjlkkkkmkggjkk

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  • [–] 4 points 2 days ago

    A specific tap pattern works but tbh it often just ends up being frantic taps anyway by that point. A big thing is just gaining the ability to differentiate agghhaaaaaffffhhhuhhjjfgghhh from asrrrrfgggffffiuuuggjjjlkkkkmkggjkk in he first place.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 day ago (3 children)

    I mean just a squishy duck is a good idea. Produces false positives but that is better then false negative

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  • [–] 2 points 1 day ago (2 children)

    Lmao like a yellow rubber duckie? That's actually hilarious and clever... As long as you can grab it 😈

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  • [–] 3 points 2 days ago

    Some people in bondage play will also have the bottom hold something like bells or something clunky, and if they drop it that's taken as a signal.

    Now, that relies on you being able to continue to hold that thing while in the good headspace, and it requires you to be in a situation where a released object would fall and contract a hard surface, so not getting stuffed into a bed, for example.

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  • [–] 3 points 2 days ago

    My safeword is "eject the warp core".

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    [–] 2 points 2 days ago (2 children)

    thata the same thing tho, no?

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  • [–] [S] 1 point 2 days ago (1 child)

    Kinda, but it's the difference between several sentences discussing safewords and "'You good with the stoplight system?' 'Yeah'". If even that, it's so common that while one should have the conversation irl, it doesn't really need to be in erotica any more than wiping down shared furniture after a scene or pre scene negotiations do. Hell, even in scenes where safewords aren't negotiated (and thus stop means stop), such as demos, I still default to it instead of stop

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