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[–] 5 points 2 days ago (8 children)

Real question: are there nonverbal safewords? Not for like if you're gagged, but like if you've gone nonverbal? That point where pleasure and pain are good, but maybe a bit too much and you can tell it's gonna go the wrong way, but you're in a headspace where the top or dom won't exactly notice you're going from agghhaaaaaffffhhhuhhjjfgghhh to asrrrrfgggffffiuuuggjjjlkkkkmkggjkk

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  • [–] 4 points 2 days ago

    A specific tap pattern works but tbh it often just ends up being frantic taps anyway by that point. A big thing is just gaining the ability to differentiate agghhaaaaaffffhhhuhhjjfgghhh from asrrrrfgggffffiuuuggjjjlkkkkmkggjkk in he first place.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 day ago (3 children)

    I mean just a squishy duck is a good idea. Produces false positives but that is better then false negative

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  • [–] 2 points 1 day ago (2 children)

    Lmao like a yellow rubber duckie? That's actually hilarious and clever... As long as you can grab it 😈

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  • [–] 3 points 2 days ago

    Some people in bondage play will also have the bottom hold something like bells or something clunky, and if they drop it that's taken as a signal.

    Now, that relies on you being able to continue to hold that thing while in the good headspace, and it requires you to be in a situation where a released object would fall and contract a hard surface, so not getting stuffed into a bed, for example.

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