Religion.

Not only my parents, but most everyone who seemed to take it seriously as a thing to be a part of paradoxically were some of the worst people ignoring the lessons on how to not be a shitstain of a person. More about control and shame and not just... being good people.

My parents were both yellers so I set pretty firm boundaries around it in my relationship which resulted in my partner not being a yeller anymore either.

Well, my parents earned their income by producing a bunch of mid- to high-percentage alcoholic beverages.

Realized in my late teens that alcohol and the whole alcohol-centric cultural environment my parents were embedded in, really, really sucked.

Still honour my parents, though, as they didn't have much choice but to go this way (and made the best out of it).

Honestly, my folks were pretty damn good at not forcing their values on me. So I ended up being able to build my world view as freely as it gets.

That being said, every adult in my life had been victim to the "if you work hard enough, you'll succeed" fallacy that was made possible by the post ww2 economic boom in the US.

By my generation, that shit was long gone, and what dregs remained were trickling down the sewer to be sucked up by the 1%ers. But, because I saw people with minimal backgrounds having great jobs and steadily increasing their income via hard work, I got suckered in too. I mean, nobody in my family really had a useful degree other than one aunt, and everyone was doing okay. Homes, vehicles in good working order, bills paid, vacations, the typical idea of what a middle class life is like.

So why would I doubt it?

That lie fucked me before I could figure out it was bullshit, and thus I got trapped as a wage slave until my body broke, and now I'm a third class citizen only able to get by because there's three fixed incomes in the home. By myself, I'm under the poverty line, and have zero ways to get above it.

blindly accepting religion