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What aspects of your childhood as embodied by your parents' choices, behaviors, and values did you find painful and later reject in your adult life? How did you implement your rejection of their stuff (lemmy.world)
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Also, what behavior/value etc almost stuck (that you were on a dangerous trajectory to perpetuating) but that you were able to develop the healthier antithetical to whether consciously or unconsciously

Personally, one thing I've noticed from childhood and work is that I cant tolerate people forcing me to respond or act while theres an expectation of time pressure or immediate perfect response.

I now generally enforce that I have time to make space and choose how to respond to thingsand thats actually much better for everyone involved even if the person or group doesnt end up getting what they want because at least there will be a more socially acceptable rejection of what I have determined to be something I need to say no to. A cornered wasp is a dangerous thing and I have rejected the necessity for that to ever be the case, no question or request is so important that I need to foreclose thinking and working my way to a coherent decision that responds appropriately to the originating stimulis

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[โ€“] 2 points 1 month ago (1 child)

My father is an alcoholic (kind of an occupational disease for this kind of work), which nearly broke my family.
He realized it at some point, and attended a therapy, which thankfully stuck and kept him dry.
So I feel with you and hope for the best for you also.

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  • [โ€“] [S] 1 point 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

    I did well with the sinclair method using naltrexone to extinction the dependancy, turned out I had more of a use disorder rathrr than a pure dependancy that would be charactetized by big A Alcoholism

    Ironically, A fridge full of cold beers in the throes of cold-turkey withdrawl never had or would have interested me, it was all higher-percentage use-specific troubles.

    I'm much better now, occasionally enjoy a bottle of wine but its a totally different experience from my vodka-shot downing days.

    I do recommend that approach (opioid-antagonist medication therapy like naltrexone or nalmefene for Europeans i think) to anyone struggling with it but I understand its a controversial method and philosophy. Its a dangerous substance, alcohol is. That is for sure, its annoying how much culture gives it a pass just because its normalized and the elites realize its value in keeping people down and accepting bullshit conditions

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