Also, what behavior/value etc almost stuck (that you were on a dangerous trajectory to perpetuating) but that you were able to develop the healthier antithetical to whether consciously or unconsciously

Personally, one thing I've noticed from childhood and work is that I cant tolerate people forcing me to respond or act while theres an expectation of time pressure or immediate perfect response.

I now generally enforce that I have time to make space and choose how to respond to thingsand thats actually much better for everyone involved even if the person or group doesnt end up getting what they want because at least there will be a more socially acceptable rejection of what I have determined to be something I need to say no to. A cornered wasp is a dangerous thing and I have rejected the necessity for that to ever be the case, no question or request is so important that I need to foreclose thinking and working my way to a coherent decision that responds appropriately to the originating stimulis