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[–] 62 points 1 month ago (3 children)

You gotta do a little something, it helps.

Even if that’s making the bed or tidying up. It feels better.

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  • [–] 25 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    Unless you have a broken reward system and it doesn't...

    But what does often help, and I find myself having the same struggle, is just having some food, water and literally touching grass.

    A bit of nutrients, sun and nature is surprisingly helpful when you're in this state.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 month ago

    You can “fix” your reward system. You just gotta internalize and accept that you aren’t able to achieve what others do or ever you might Want to do. Then you’ll start noticing the little things you do and grow some self esteem. You should only compare yourself from yesterday, never others or what you maybe once was able to do way back or what you hope to be able in the future.

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  • [–] 32 points 1 month ago (2 children)

    You cannot rest when enemies are nearby.

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  • [–] 27 points 1 month ago

    You don't have enough spoons to carry over to the next day. Do some high visibility, low effort chores until you get enough energy to do bigger ones. Go for a walk. Get out of the place you spend all your time for a couple of hours during the time you'd normally spend there.

    If that doesn't help, you might need assistance beyond what internet strangers can provide. Talk to people around you about you struggles, maybe consider therapy if that's a possibility.

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  • [–] 26 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    Are you overwhelmed? Or are you properly whelmed by things that are overhappening?

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  • [–] 21 points 1 month ago

    Unresolved childhood trauma. The underlying strategy to heal yourself from this is to consciously step far outside your comfort zone from time to time so that you can perceive yourself more accurately to see what inside you is draining you whilst simultaneously recondition yourself out of these maladaptive patterns. The world traumatizes us all. We don't need to be caught in a warzone to be inflicted with just the right wound to cripple us in the most debilitating ways. The solution is to grow. Challenge yourself with a big mission that casts you out of what is familiar to find yourself better than you ever were before. And there is a smart way to do this, a lazy way to do this, and a reckless way of doing this. Balance is key.

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  • [–] 33 points 1 month ago (6 children)

    Undiagnosed ADHD or autism or both, usually.

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    It's the end times. Your'e not supposed to feel good about it.

    Now strap this to your belt, and help me board up all the windows......

    https://www.coldsteel.com/gladius-machete/

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  • [–] 6 points 1 month ago

    Damn you. Just damn you. /s love your content

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  • [–] 6 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    You're overwhelmed because you don't do anything.

    The journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step.

    Progress > perfection

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  • [–] 2 points 1 month ago

    Not doing anything drains you in the same way not lifting anything makes you feel weak all the time. Go slow, add to your capacity, and get rest when done. High stress nothing is the most exhausting thing

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    [–] 16 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    I have playlists devoted to getting shit done.

    I have one for early mornings called "Let's Get Stressed" that has really fast pace stressful music like 'Savages' by The Handsome Devil

    Another for cleaning which is a bunch of Disney songs alongside songs like 'DO SOMETHING' by Akira the Don

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  • [–] 32 points 1 month ago (2 children)

    There's nothing wrong with us - it's the rest of the world that's too severely fucked up to deal with. When you're not a control-freak bully, it's hard to be motivated in the face of all that hopelessness.

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  • [–] 28 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    I mean, I get the sentiment. But after decades of dealing with it I'm pretty sure ADHD sucks any way and I'd like a refund. Nobody should have to deal with this crap.

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  • [–] 12 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 child)

    Establishing a daily routine really helped me out. The power of will isn't reliable, but habits are strong - you are what you've used to do on daily basis. Ten push-ups are better than no push-ups at all, but in a while, it gonna be twenty and thirty. When I started to use time/task trackers (super-productivity in my case, since its FOSS and has features for ADHD), it gave the feeling of continuous progress: do a small thing, check the box, move to the next one, and you are doing well!

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  • [–] [S] 13 points 1 month ago*

    Establishing a daily routine really helped me out. The power of will isn't reliable, but habits are strong

    Speaking from experience, this is so damn true.

    Ten push-ups are better than no push-ups at all, but in a while, it gonna be twenty and thirty

    Yup! I did pretty much exactly this with biking: I started off a couple years ago doing just a couple minutes a day on my exercise bike, then 5 then 10 etc.

    Then eventually I got a better exercise bike and the Kinomap app and started to do variable speed videos from the real world.

    10-20km flat routes at first, but eventually I got where I can do all the toughest Tour de France mountains and my longest route was a double century (over 200km).

    I also got an outdoor bike in October, starting off doing just short shopping trips in addition to my exercise biking, gradually building up to where I do my exercise rides outdoors when the weather's good enough, use it as my primary mode of transportation, and have completed two outdoor centuries so far with many more to come 😁

    Unfortunately, I crashed a few weeks ago and haven't been able to ride because of my injuries, so I'm pretty much back to most of my bad habits from before right now 😞

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  • [–] 13 points 1 month ago (6 children)

    Its because you're under stimulated. If you dont do anything, you're body desires movement

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  • [–] [S] 3 points 1 month ago (3 children)

    That's where you're wrong: my ADHD and anxiety combo means that my brain is always overstimulated by constant worries and distractions even when it looks from the outside like I'm doing nothing

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  • [–] 4 points 1 month ago

    Under stimulated by external stimuli that can keep internal processes occupied/satisfied. That lack of stimulation allows those internal processes, which crave stimulation, to begin stimulating themselves subconsciously which it begins to run rampant, as internal imagination has no bounds or limitations to prevent illogical feedback loops.

    They aren't wrong.

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  • [–] -4 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    Learning how to live with that helps more than victimizing yourself

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    Hard to do things when you don't have the means of doing them, and those means are locked behind the assumption you already have the means of being able to do things. Society is a giant catch-22.

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  • [–] -3 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    well you certainly were able to respond. and i mean it. doing things is the only way to feel like you can do things. Even if you do them shittyly or badly, doing them is the only way your brain will learn it can do it.

    Else, it learns it's helpless and useless.

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