You gotta do a little something, it helps.
Even if that’s making the bed or tidying up. It feels better.
You gotta do a little something, it helps.
Even if that’s making the bed or tidying up. It feels better.
You cannot rest when enemies are nearby.
But the door is closed and I just found sheep today to get enough wool to craft a bed 😭 let me sleep through the night!
You don't have enough spoons to carry over to the next day. Do some high visibility, low effort chores until you get enough energy to do bigger ones. Go for a walk. Get out of the place you spend all your time for a couple of hours during the time you'd normally spend there.
If that doesn't help, you might need assistance beyond what internet strangers can provide. Talk to people around you about you struggles, maybe consider therapy if that's a possibility.
Are you overwhelmed? Or are you properly whelmed by things that are overhappening?
Unresolved childhood trauma. The underlying strategy to heal yourself from this is to consciously step far outside your comfort zone from time to time so that you can perceive yourself more accurately to see what inside you is draining you whilst simultaneously recondition yourself out of these maladaptive patterns. The world traumatizes us all. We don't need to be caught in a warzone to be inflicted with just the right wound to cripple us in the most debilitating ways. The solution is to grow. Challenge yourself with a big mission that casts you out of what is familiar to find yourself better than you ever were before. And there is a smart way to do this, a lazy way to do this, and a reckless way of doing this. Balance is key.
Undiagnosed ADHD or autism or both, usually.
Anxiety is also possible.
I was diagnosed with ADHD at 40. It has made all the difference to finally treat it with medication.
Diagnosed but unmedicated because the system is rigged against many of us.
It's the end times. Your'e not supposed to feel good about it.
Now strap this to your belt, and help me board up all the windows......
You're overwhelmed because you don't do anything.
The journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step.
Progress > perfection
Not doing anything drains you in the same way not lifting anything makes you feel weak all the time. Go slow, add to your capacity, and get rest when done. High stress nothing is the most exhausting thing
I have playlists devoted to getting shit done.
I have one for early mornings called "Let's Get Stressed" that has really fast pace stressful music like 'Savages' by The Handsome Devil
Another for cleaning which is a bunch of Disney songs alongside songs like 'DO SOMETHING' by Akira the Don
There's nothing wrong with us - it's the rest of the world that's too severely fucked up to deal with. When you're not a control-freak bully, it's hard to be motivated in the face of all that hopelessness.
I mean, I get the sentiment. But after decades of dealing with it I'm pretty sure ADHD sucks any way and I'd like a refund. Nobody should have to deal with this crap.
Establishing a daily routine really helped me out. The power of will isn't reliable, but habits are strong - you are what you've used to do on daily basis. Ten push-ups are better than no push-ups at all, but in a while, it gonna be twenty and thirty. When I started to use time/task trackers (super-productivity in my case, since its FOSS and has features for ADHD), it gave the feeling of continuous progress: do a small thing, check the box, move to the next one, and you are doing well!
Establishing a daily routine really helped me out. The power of will isn't reliable, but habits are strong
Speaking from experience, this is so damn true.
Ten push-ups are better than no push-ups at all, but in a while, it gonna be twenty and thirty
Yup! I did pretty much exactly this with biking: I started off a couple years ago doing just a couple minutes a day on my exercise bike, then 5 then 10 etc.
Then eventually I got a better exercise bike and the Kinomap app and started to do variable speed videos from the real world.
10-20km flat routes at first, but eventually I got where I can do all the toughest Tour de France mountains and my longest route was a double century (over 200km).
I also got an outdoor bike in October, starting off doing just short shopping trips in addition to my exercise biking, gradually building up to where I do my exercise rides outdoors when the weather's good enough, use it as my primary mode of transportation, and have completed two outdoor centuries so far with many more to come 😁
Unfortunately, I crashed a few weeks ago and haven't been able to ride because of my injuries, so I'm pretty much back to most of my bad habits from before right now 😞
Its because you're under stimulated. If you dont do anything, you're body desires movement
But I'm simultaneously restless and don't want to do anything!
That's where you're wrong: my ADHD and anxiety combo means that my brain is always overstimulated by constant worries and distractions even when it looks from the outside like I'm doing nothing

Under stimulated by external stimuli that can keep internal processes occupied/satisfied. That lack of stimulation allows those internal processes, which crave stimulation, to begin stimulating themselves subconsciously which it begins to run rampant, as internal imagination has no bounds or limitations to prevent illogical feedback loops.
They aren't wrong.
Learning how to live with that helps more than victimizing yourself
I know. That's why I've been working on exactly that ever since I first got diagnosed with ADHD over two decades ago.
Just because I'm better at coping than I used to be doesn't mean that I don't still have to use many of my daily spoons just to get to where neurotypicals start.
doing things helps
Hard to do things when you don't have the means of doing them, and those means are locked behind the assumption you already have the means of being able to do things. Society is a giant catch-22.
well you certainly were able to respond. and i mean it. doing things is the only way to feel like you can do things. Even if you do them shittyly or badly, doing them is the only way your brain will learn it can do it.
Else, it learns it's helpless and useless.
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