Errmm. At 5 marriages you gotta start thinking maybe it's you and not necessarily the choices you're making.

From a person who has been divorced once, and seen other friends get divorced. it's not so much about choosing carefully, it's about communication when the relationship gets tough or boring (and ideally before you get there). Finding the right person is the easy part, staying in love and staying happy - that's the difficult part

If you can choose, why don't you choose?

Thats what my best friend did. Her ceremony was super gay and mega cute, I'm really happy I was able to go in spite of some medical issues making it complicated

well at least they can just tighten it up to regain the meaning

losing. loose is stuff that isn't tight. losing is to take away.

Yeah, that's what you get when you teach people to want a wedding. I've met lots of people like that, they don't care who they're marrying but just the fact that they're getting married. Why did we decide the partnering event is more important than whom you're getting partnered with?

First off, he's an excellent couple's counselor and, sure, all his friends went to him, but their divorces are not his fault!

Look, I touched the bride's butt once at the reception. Never living that down am I?

Vote the Golden God for district 37 comptroller!

Conclusion: kids are the cause of 60% of divorces.

They might not be the original cause but often they are part of the process. Some people seem to think that a child will fix their already strained relationship. The problem is that while children make it harder to split up, they usually don't fix the underlying reason why the relationship didn't work in the first place. In the end, they get a divorce anyway only now there is a small human who has to suffer from it.

Congratulations to the few where a child did fix a relationship but for everyone else, maybe sort out your problems before you add another innocent bystander into the mix.

I thought I was alone..

People like that think if they can do "better" than their peers, they're winning somehow with relationships.

They have a fundamental misunderstanding about what relationships are about.

Which is why theirs fail. They think it's a game and there's points and winners and losers.

They will never learn that it's about putting someone else's needs ahead of your own sometimes is what's best in life.

From personal experience on this, it ended terribly for me. I didnt really know the person I married and we were completely incompatible together. Mostly because I'm incompatible with being abused and she was incompatible with not abusing people.

I suggest cooling your jets and moving in together for a year. Maybe even two. Then propose if it goes well in that year or two. But not after 2 months...

A combination of both, really. We just..knew. And I'll be honest, it's taken work. A lot of it. Our main rules are honesty and communication. We also tell people marriage isn't 50/50. It's 100/100. If you're giving only 50%, you're holding back and it won't work.

Is there a reason not to wait until you've cooled off out of new relationship energy? Maybe it's not a bad idea, but being early in a relationship is a sort of being high on each other. The relationship will cool down as it matures, that's not to say it gets worse, when it's great it gets different but remains wonderful. But early on you're not in the long term stage and you don't truly know how you or your partner will be in that stage.

If there's a good reason, go for it, but it carries risk.

My husband and I knew within a few months that we were in love and we wanted to be together forever. We got engaged right away, but we waited a year after that to get married.

We were very young, but we've put in the work and we still take time to have fun together. We'll celebrate our 26th wedding anniversary next month.

conservative gays : but no, we don't need that, that's a straight institution. More boats in my throat please.

edit : boots , not boats, but fuck it, imma leave it in

That's where power of attorney comes into play?

There are, but there are also a lot of drawbacks to bring divorced multiple times. This also depends on how long and far the person is taking at the "getting to know each other" stage before marriage, etc as well

She puts money in trust to retire well and make sure her daughter is well taken care of.

If 260M isn't going to let you and the rest of your family retire in absolute comfort, you have some really expensive hobbies. That's a ridiculous amount of money.

Jesus, what a sad life. I pity her.

That's better than the leach who's gonna get married to a friend of mine. Refuses to work and is generally not a great person while thinking high of herself. Found out from a mutual friend that nobody in their friend circle likes her. Since he's got good money—nothing like the woman from your comment, but enough to live very well while being a sole earner—I really, really hope he isn't stupid and will do a prenup. Though knowing how emotionally manipulative she is, I'm not hopeful.

Give her it back