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[–] 6 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

I assume Trans Women got socialized as men in their formative years of childhood, so no matter how much they might have not fit in they certainly got an underlying message of being capable, they didn't get corrected for being "bossy" or loud or demanding and probably got discouraged from being "submissive" in any way.

Even people who don't believe in gendernorms will enforce them subconciously on kids and male socialization is just so much more likely to produce people who ask and fight for leadership roles.

I am not questioning their womanhood in any way, just to be clear.

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  • [–] 5 points 18 hours ago (1 child)

    The downvotes are wild. Children are socialized differently based on the gender they were assigned at birth - that's a fact.

    Growing up being called "bossy" does hell on one's ability to speak out for one's self. That shit turned me into a doormat in my teens, and enabled people to take advantage of me both in my personal life and professional life well through my 20s. Society worked hard to try to make me small and quiet, to put up with crap instead of speaking out when things were wrong. It's a mess that I'm still in the process of untangling, and I have little doubt many AFAB have gone through the same thing.

    Though with all that said, I'd like to hear directly from transmen about their experiences in this regard.

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  • [–] 2 points 12 hours ago*

    "Male socialization" is very controversial and it's used to justify some bad stuff (and everything you said applies much more to me than to my cis sister, but that's anecdotal). I won't deny that trans men (two words) have a different upbringing than cis men but please focus on that rather than trans women.

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