I've known people who believed their partner was consenting, but were told much later that they committed rape. I knew the ppl well enough to believe they wouldn't intentionally hurt someone and the accuser didn't file charges. Maybe one or both, or neither partners in the two couples were lying? But in both cases the accuser + accused remained friends afterward. Should that really be in the same category as violent sexual assault?

Rape is certainly serious but it's much easier to quantify murder -- victim is dead or alive-- than how much of a rape was this rape.