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[–] 23 points 1 month ago (17 children)

It's a joke and I get it, but that period can be so taxing that moms fall asleep and then roll into their child, suffocating them. It's devastating. Yes, baby will want to be held but you can train them over time. Don't give up.

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  • [+] -12 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (16 children)

    Not true, where do you have your info from? Pretty much everyone I know including myself has co-slept with their babies. I've never heard of a single problem with that, not from them and not in the news. However, if it gets taxing to the point of passing out, have the dead and some aunties step in and let the mom take time off!

    Edit: no, you should not let the dead care for your baby! Maybe ask the dad first.

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  • [+] 11 points 1 month ago (3 children)
  • [–] 4 points 1 month ago*

    I agree. Unless we're drugged, we're far more aware of our surroundings when asleep than most people realize. It's very unlikely that an undrugged person would roll over onto a baby and suffocate it.

    Are you unconscious when you sleep?
    The short answer

    No, you are not unconscious when you sleep. You are in a state of reduced consciousness that is fundamentally different from medical unconsciousness. A review in Nature Reviews Neuroscience described sleep as a "reversible behavioral state of perceptual disengagement from the environment." That is a critical distinction: you are disengaged, not disconnected.

    Your brain can still process external stimuli during sleep. A parent wakes to their baby's cry but sleeps through louder ambient noise. You respond to your own name spoken softly but ignore a stranger's name at the same volume. These selective responses are impossible in true unconsciousness.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    Someone posted a link from 2013, so some of this info is outdated. Some of it might be different approaches in different cultures and countries. And people just love being right, don't they, and they love getting angry when it's for the 'protection of children'. Especially when they think the opponent is a 'dirty hippie' following any kind of non-mainstream woo-woo ideas. I'm just sorry for their kids. A baby is a small mammal and their sense of safety directly derives from closeness with the caretaker. Babies who feel safe are more likely to turn into adults who feel safe.

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  • [–] 5 points 1 month ago

    Oh, well if you didn’t personally experience it I’m sure it’s fine! Those stupid scientists with their…studying the observed causes of death of infants are just stupid boring losers, right? Are they even mothers?

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  • [–] 2 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    I am sure that the risk of killing your child while co-sleeping is very low, but what parent would accept a small chance of committing negligent homicide against their baby?

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  • [–] 1 point 1 month ago

    Because a baby is a small mammal seeking the warmth and heartbeat of its caretaker. This is of utmost importance for its wellbeing and proper development. Taking that away to avoid a tiny chance of death? It's up to you. I chose the small risk. I chose many small risks throughout my kid's life because I believed taking them all away and coddling them from every danger would make for a very reduced learning experience and a lot less love and fun.

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  • [–] -1 points 1 month ago (4 children)

    Western theory says co-sleeping is the most evil thing since the devil.

    This is done to ensure maximum pain for parents.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 month ago

    Crying strengthens the lungs! /s

    I believe in most Western countries these theories are outdated by now. Nobody criticized my cosleeping in the early 2000s, it was already debunked as a cause of SIDS. Maybe that's different in the US?

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