The difference is that communities themselves on ml have problematic moderation, with the admins (who don't even moderate the community) removing/banning users for silly reasons.
Also, didn't we consolidate !growthefediverse@slrpnk.net with !fedibridge@lemmy.dbzer0.com ?
Growthefediverse was dead, even the moderator himself admitted it. I don't see the contradiction here tbh