Cry me a river. Being treated badly isn't a good or valid reason to treat others badly.
You could say the same to women who use their trauma as an excuse to berate men.
And you're definitely not doing the same thing to women (blaming them as a generalized, abstract category) when you speak like this, got it, sure, sure.
Maybe there are some who don't act like that, but at least online they seem ubiquitous. Hence the famous "man or bear" question, and basically every thread that's ever existed in a feminist space online. I'm simply reporting the evidence of my eyes and ears.
At the very least, if women give themselves a free pass to make sweeping generalizations about men, then I don't want to hear any grandstanding about how I'm supposedly generalizing about them when I say it's a common occurrence.
But seriously, you really need to learn to let go of that pain and try to not blame the opposite gender at large for what you see as perceived failures on their part.
If a woman chooses to date abusive men, that's a failure on her part. Acknowledging that they have a responsibility in that decision isn't "blaming the opposite gender at large," and the fact that it's so taboo to even point this out is problematic.
If you have only ever experienced women saying your intergenerational trauma is your own problem... you might be just as guilty of the "sin" of choosing to pursue the wrong type of person as you claim women are.
I don't pursue anyone anymore, because women have made it clear that they don't want to be pursued. The only guys left pursuing women are the ones who don't respect boundaries, and what that means for natural selection is fairly easy to guess. Assholes will reproduce, and "losers" like me will perish. You'll get the day you asked for when all the "nice guys" are gone.
Even if I did choose to only pursue women who don't blame me for the sins of all men everywhere, her friends and the rest of society would just say I chose her because I picked her out as "an easy target" who "doesn't stand up for herself," because they'll always assume my intentions are predatory and never simply "wow, she's an introvert just like me. She likes books, I like books. She doesn't like parties, I don't like parties. We could really work together!"
I personally have had loads of supportive and loving women in my life, so it's hard for me to wrap my mind around this mindset.
Well, look at you! You must be well-adjusted, maybe conventionally attractive, certainly in possession of social skills. You might have a good sense of humor, a charming personality. In any case, you're probably generally likeable. You probably had plenty of women in your life growing up, and some positive male role models as well. Likely plenty of opportunities to interact with your peers and develop socially in an organic way.
What about someone who was homeschooled and isolated growing up, kept in a conservative bubble and fed lies about "evil liberals," sheltered, brainwashed, and gaslit about what's true or false? No opportunities to interact with peers, to develop social skills in an organic way the way most people do during the formative years of their development.
What if the only women in one's life was one's own mother, and the occasional visit from an aunt or two, all conservative? What if the only male role models were narcissists with exploding tempers, and an older brother with abusive tendencies?
What about when that person finally enters the world and attempts to socialize, with no basic social skills to go off of, and is immediately singled out, ostracized, bullied, and universally disliked?
And then that person goes on to become an adult. Do you think they'll just magically develop social skills and become well-adjusted, simply because they're legally an adult now and are expected to have a minimum level of "maturity," or what the general consensus dubs "maturity"?
Go on, and blame me for having no friends. Go ahead and blame more for having no healthy relationships, no supportive women in my life, no positive role models to look up to and emulate.
Go ahead and fucking blame me, I don't care. It's just fucking typical. I've been putting up with that my whole life. It comes as no surprise.