When I was younger I defined myself by the things I liked, and others similarly, you just start to see more depth and wisdom the more years you're lucky enough to kick around, in this planet, I think. And then you start to see, mostly the stuff people like is just funneled coping mechanisms. I can now tell you what peoples traumas are, by what they like. (lol)

I wouldn't say "more broken". There's a lot of diversity across the ADHD community, especially when we account for how other life circumstances intersect with ADHD. For me, for example, I find that the vast majority of what I typically consider to be "ADHD-related brokenness" is actually probably more linked to past trauma.

I think it's important to recognise that there is no universal ADHD experience because in many respects, we're still figuring out what the hell ADHD actually is ("we" here meaning humanity); Science plays a big part in increasing our understanding of ADHD, but so does community knowledge (which includes memes)