[–] 3 points 5 months ago (1 child)

(Sorry for the off-topic, but this resonated with me a lot in a completely different context. If not wanted, please remove.)

My fiancee is chronically ill and you really notice the friends who "get it" and those who don't. I've had this feeling with some of them and your description hits the nail on the head. As an example: at the moment she really can't go to social gatherings, the people who get her illness still invite her so she can decide for herself, the ones who don't get it don't invite her because "she can't come anyway".

(This is not a white cis guy implying that transitioning is like an illness, just that that the behavior of other people to a change in social dynamics reminded me of it.)

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    My fiancee has had ME/CFS for a while now, and because she could not, for the longest time, look at books/screens/... we put a feeding tray in front of her window so she could watch all the birds going by. Here are some images we took over the last half-year.

    Hawfinch stretching to look into the room:

    Blue Tits and Great Tits come by the most. Sometimes we get Marsh Tits:

    A woodpecker:

    [–] 1 point 8 months ago (1 child)

    Many people follow something like this reading order, or just read by publication date. For the death series I'd argue it's not that important, others depend on each other a bit more. It's definitely not a problem to just go in a random order though, he always tried to make the books stand on their own. In some ways I would argue it's way more fun to go randomly, but if you are easily confused by timelines you might not like it 😊

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