I used to dye my hair a different colour every month. Can confirm, it repells the kind of people I don't want to sleep with. My ex got mad because I'm a natural blonde and "why would I ruin that."
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God. Having to date cis men sounds fucking exhausting.
It can be rough, but when a good one shows up it’s really amazing. Men can be so interesting and kind and sweet.
Luckily they aren’t generally the ones to be offended by women choosing how they want to present :)
Please share with us all how to find the good ones.
Every good one I've found in my life was found through shared activities that had nothing to do with dating or romance until later. The absolute worst ones in my life were blind date setups.
I found my husband by playing tabletop rpgs! I did not play to find a husband! That's important. I played and had fun and found a smart interesting human!
I say this both bitterly sardonic of they way people handle relationships and oozing almost Hallmark levels of radiant positivity as it is where I found my spouse: check the friend zone.
I am attempting to put myself out there more but I've been having mixed results. Really, really mixed results. Responding right now because the person I've been spending a lot of time with recently and considering just turned out to have some values that are just incompatible with mine. I really didn't expect that from them given who they are, who we met through and so on.
I also feel like I'm going to have to settle sometimes and I'd just sooner be alone than do that.
I also feel like I'm going to have to settle sometimes and I'd just sooner be alone than do that.
Don't settle! Relationships don't have to last forever to be considered successful in my opinion. You can enjoy sharing your time with someone and appreciate it for what it was when it's over and that's still totally ok.
There's billions of people in the world. It's very hard to find another person who is compatible enough to share your life with, but there's fun and experiences to be had on the journey looking for them.
There is always something lacking in a major way and the odds just aren't that good anyway. The stats for men in my age range being conservative is like 70% or more.
This guy that I was just spending time with. Black, well educated aaaaaaaaand conservative, voting red. Our shared hobbies never indicated this either because all of them seemed more like hobbies that those types would avoid. Just what are the odds here?
I feel so unlucky right now. All I'm asking is for someone who is well educated, takes care of themselves, pulls their weight and has humane views. I'm going to fucking cry because apparently that's asking for a lot.
I dated. A lot. Went on so, so many dates after my divorce and met lots and lots of different people.
When meeting people through apps, I would text quite a bit first AND set up a video-call as a sort of test date. If they still seemed cool, I would go on an in-person date.
It helps weed out the assholes a lot, but it's time and labor intensive.
Haha bigotry is so funny 😂
One of the things I love about my husband: he might prefer me with long blond hair but I don't know because sometimes I decide to cut it off short or dye it black or purple and for the last 35 years he has just said, I see you got your hair done.
I was really nervous to bring up to my boyfriend that I wanted to shave the side of my head. My ex husband would have blown a gasket.
I shaved it and it’s not a problem at all because he doesn’t love my hair, he loves me :)
Kudos to finding a love that let’s you be you!
The correct answer whenever you see your beautiful wife has had her hair done is "wow your hair looks beautiful my love"
Sure, Steve. I guess wearing shades and clothes while moving inside an iron box propelled by the combustion of a liquid extracted from the remains of millions of years old beings is completely natural, Steve. You see a lot of animals doing it aside humans, right Steve?
Smh... Imagine being scared of a woman's hair color... Steve's ego must be really fragile, huh?
yet maga loves them bleached blonde
I love it when they tell on themselves!
I've always been a huge fan of these colourful looks. I wish I could get something like a gradient/ombré but I'm scared of damaging my sparse and very thin hair too much.
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What was it? OP pussied out and deleted the comment.
He “pussied out” because he realized he was breaking the rules of this community.
Also gross use of language.
And I bet there is a cuntload tonne of rules in this fuckass community.
I will see myself out without deleting my comment.
Get moist a little hitting that down arrow or perhaps make you queef getting an eternal ban.
Just from the "pussied out" I'm going to guess that you are not, in fact, following the rules of this community.
Conservatives have the dumbest hangups. I can’t imagine being so upset over dyed hair.
I happen to love unnatural rainbow colored hair. Some women can really pull it off well, it looks amazing.
Are you certain you're following the rules of this group?
This is a women’s only community. Just checking if you’re following the rules :)
I don't know if you did or didn't. That's why I asked instead of reporting.
This is a women's only community, as velma said. There's was enough of a question mark that I thought I'd ask, is all.
We don’t shit on other people’s choices in here.
I love my grey hair and I don’t give care if it’s aging or if men like it.
Ma1ybe had a clever comeback but she conveniently ignored the "poisonous & toxic lethality" part Steve mentioned about animals in nature. Ok but for humans it doesn't correlate with poison or toxicity. It's just art & fun & self-expression.
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