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As someone polyamorous, there's definitely something to this. If I already have one partner, I feel more confident in approaching new potential partners. Knowing somebody already cares about you and supports you can go far.

What I don't understand is the cheater mindset - the idea of going after someone behind your partner's back. Especially these days, where people know about polyamory. If your partner's not into it, then you have to make a choice - do you want to be their one and only? Then stick to that promise. If not, then the honorable thing would be to be honest and accept the break up.

What are you, the jorking connoisseur?

That gives me a great idea for a username...

"I opt out of modern social media. I don't like it"

Later

"I don't understand this modern social media shorthand"

He's the one asking the question ig

I'm pretty sure that's just Snapchat.

There is something to this that is more about social behaviors and filters than 'interested because someone else is interested' as your comment implies.

Dating someone is a sign that the person is able to handle a relationship. Itbisn't a reliable sign, but it is kind of like popularity being contagious. When someone is visibly getting along with people they are more approachable. Same concept.

The other thing is that people in relationships are generally not pursuing new relationships and that is less intimidating for a lot of people. I always had more attention from strangers when I wasn't looking for a relationship whether or not I was in one at the time. Being in a relationship guaranteed I was in that mindset since I prefer monogamy.

So it isn't that they want what others have, but that people are generally more approachable and give off better vibes when in a relationship. Not always of course, but it is a trend.

Lies, misogynistic bullshit, and shitting on both yourself and women. Go sit in the corner, think about what you've done.