I'm all over my partner like a cat in fucking heat! What the fuck?

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[–] 22 points 6 months ago

It may pass, it may just be your new normal, but hormones work differently on everyone. I am envious though, because my libido, which was already not very high, was absolutely decimated when I started on E.

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  • [–] 11 points 6 months ago (1 child)

    Yeah it had same effect on me. My libido skyrocket way past it what it ever was before and it was high before too.

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  • [–] [S] 6 points 6 months ago

    It's weird. I've been doing daily "maintenance" which is honestly a lot of work, but a couple of minutes in my partner's company and it's very much business as usual. Which is frustrating because opportunities don't often present themselves. So I'm doomed to wander round the house yowling.

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  • [–] 8 points 6 months ago (1 child)

    for the first few months my libido was gone, but now its back but very different. estrogen horny is very different from testosterone horny and I think I get like that more because I love how it feels so much

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  • [–] 7 points 6 months ago (1 child)

    you doing progesterone with that estrogen? That being said estrogen may decrease libido but it's not guaranteed to.

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  • [–] 7 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

    Honestly, my libido decreased a lot. But there was a lot of external factors. Today with well romantic feelings and finding myself again, (and the start of progesterone - Maybe it changed something too) it is more than before hrt.

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  • [–] 6 points 6 months ago

    From what I hear it’s different for everyone. In my case I’ve become extremely affectionate while my desire for penetrative intercourse (in any direction) has become super selective. I’ve also gained the ability to turn arousal on and off at will. Tho predominantly I just wanna rub my cheeks and cuddle everything.

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  • [–] 3 points 6 months ago (1 child)

    When I started HRT my libido went away almost instantly. I took the E sublingually, with spiro to suppress the T. The levels dropped unexpectedly quickly, at the 3 months checkup my T levels were at the bottom of the healthy range for women.

    My libido has returned since both starting progesterone and reducing the blocker. Two changes in treatment, can't be sure which is responsible. Thankfully its manageable.

    T suppression, especially from monotherapy takes time to ramp up. My guess is this is probably the result of you having high levels of both E and T, simultaneously, and will reduce in time.

    Enjoy the libido for now if you're into that sort of thing!

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  • [–] [S] 3 points 6 months ago

    It could also just be a mental thing. I've always been rabidly sex positive and don't suffer from bottom dysphoria and not much physical dysphoria generally. Testosterone horny made orgasms feel like a biological imperative or an addiction kind of like smoking cigarettes. They feel great when you have them, but going without feels life threatening (that feeling is gone). Whereas now it's more of an actual desire for emotional contact with another human. Not a need so much as a desire, but a powerful one.

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  • [–] 2 points 6 months ago

    I'm so desperate for mine to return

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  • yeah it's same for me.

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  • [–] 4 points 6 months ago (7 children)

    I started E 8 months ago and I've had zero libido since then

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  • [–] [S] 6 points 6 months ago (6 children)

    So if I'm not actually in the same room as my partner I don't notice it, but it's an all consuming hunger when she's there.

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  • [–] 2 points 6 months ago (5 children)

    I dont have a partner so maybe that plays a part

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  • [–] 1 point 6 months ago (1 child)

    Ah, ok, so, if it's ok and you wanna answer, I'd like to ask, did you have libido before the HRT? And did it actively stop when starting?

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  • [–] 3 points 6 months ago

    Yeah, not a lot, but I definitely had some libido. even before I knew what trans was, it has always bothered me to a fundamental level. I always hated it. And did not know why. it was just a nuisance

    Basically immediately after starting HRT, my libido went to literally nothing and so far it is probably my favorite change

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