Mine:

  1. Learn a second language and keep up with the language your parents speak. You will regret being a brat about not wanting to speak this language especially as your family members pass.
  2. The only opinions about you that really matter are from the people you respect and who respect you back
  3. Being a kind humble person, who leads their political convictions with curiosity and not self righteousness is important. As that one person said: "I am no hero and neither are you."
  4. Don't throw out your old media (mix cds, tapes, records, photos, zinee, etc) because you think they're embarrassing. They either will not be embarrassing later or they will become expensive and you can tell them for mad bucks.

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[–] 30 points 8 months ago* (3 children)

Keep learning new things.
Learn cursive and develop your own handwriting.
Writing down things physically makes learning way easier. And keeps your brain young - because, there is a reason why dementia is hitting some people in their 40s.

Edit: brush your teeth and floss every day. If you don't like to floss every day get a water flosser for those days.

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  • [–] 7 points 8 months ago (2 children)

    Cursive as a primary concern and dental hygiene as an afterthought? Hot take...

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  • [–] 30 points 8 months ago

    Be willing to burn bridges. Some people really do need to be told to fuck off.

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  • [–] 25 points 8 months ago

    Never, ever stop asking why

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  • [–] 20 points 8 months ago

    Wear Sunscreen

    If I could offer you only one tip for the future, Sunscreen would be it

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  • [–] 19 points 8 months ago

    It's way easier getting in shape young. Don't put it off.

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  • [–] 16 points 8 months ago (2 children)

    Start saving for old age now. It might seem like a long way off, and you might not have much money right now to begin with, but being young and poor is way better than being old and poor.

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  • [–] 15 points 8 months ago

    but as much effort as you can into math. There is the common trope about it being useless and that is I think due to peoples misunderstanding of it. Math is mental abstraction. Math problems are like excersise. No on complains push ups have not real world value. Its understood that doing them gets your body in better shape to do physical things. Similarly math helps your mind be in better shape to do mental things. Unfortunately you don't really do it after you are no longer in school so its not bad to try and use it whenever you can. Add your purchases up in your head and try and figure out price per quantity and compare products. do suduko. Also grab elementary logic if you can as it gives a math like framework for reason.

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  • [–] 13 points 8 months ago

    Wear sunscreen

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  • [–] 23 points 8 months ago (4 children)

    Stretch, hydrate, learn. Continuously.

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  • [–] 17 points 8 months ago (3 children)

    I’ll add: take care of your teeth cuz they’re expensive, and learn to cook before you move out.

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  • [–] 22 points 8 months ago (2 children)

    don't listen to your elders, they're the dipshits that have the planet in this mess politically and particularly ecologically, they don't know shit.

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  • [–] [S] 6 points 8 months ago

    Okay youngins make sure you do the opposite of what everyone says in this threat!

    I agree with you but I'm also just being silly . Maybe the better argument is be selective as to which elders you listen to.

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  • As someone raised by a very ignorant silent generation grandfather, there is a middleish ground. Listen to the stories. The lesson you may take may not be the intended but can be instructive. What is important to remember is their world no longer exists so take the advice with a grain of salt. While I am just as mad as anyone else with the mess we have been left, close personal older family and friends can still provide useful advice. Just... Weigh it out with your lived experience. Use what serves you. Edit: spelling

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  • [–] 11 points 8 months ago

    Don't make trends your identity.

    You don't want to look back on your life and all the photos you have of yourself, just to realize every fashion choice, purchase, event you went to, and way you talked was all because it was seen as cool, trendy, or "normal."

    Live your life in a way that feels right and true to who you are, and what your values are, not what anybody else things is "right" for you to do.

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  • [–] 10 points 8 months ago

    Educate yourself, and question everything. No one is worth following blindly. If you don't understand the "why" of something, keep digging until you do. Critically thinking is the most valuable skill you can have, so develop it as much as you can.

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  • [–] 10 points 8 months ago (3 children)

    KILL YOUR MASTERS

    If you fear dying you're already dead. Always for love, never from fear. A better world is possible. Coconut oil is a 1:1 butter substitute that's both cheaper and better for you

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  • [–] 3 points 8 months ago* (2 children)

    Other plant oils are even better yet, if you don't insist on the consistency. Except peanut, maybe? I forget.

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  • [–] 10 points 8 months ago (1 child)
    • People are the most suspicious of the behavior they are most guilty of. The guy who thinks everyone is stealing from him, is probably stealing from everybody else. If it's your boss, keep an eye on your paycheck. The person who always thinks their person is cheating on them, is probably a cheater. People do this because they're trying to excuse they're own behavior - "I only do it because everyone else is doing it to me," even if they aren't.

    • Commit to doing something difficult, even if it's just a hobby, like running, working out, playing a musical instrument, writing, painting, learning a language, cooking, reading classic novels, birdwatching, etc. Having something that's important to you, and investing deeply into it, will fulfill your soul, and give you something good to hang onto when times get tough. And they will get tough. And don't tolerate people around you who dismiss or are disrespectful about it. It's important to YOU, that's all that matters. Their validation is irrelevant.

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  • [–] 53 points 8 months ago (17 children)

    This life has no meaning. Absolutely none. Do what you enjoy. You don't need a "purpose," grind culture is toxic and will only lead to burnout. Slow down and listen to the birds sing.

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  • [–] 27 points 8 months ago (3 children)

    What’s your advice for younger folks? Nihilism!

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  • [–] 15 points 8 months ago

    Optimistic Nihilism, is quite a good philosophical framework.

    But I would recommend a mixture of optimistic nihilism and stoicism.

    If nothing has any inherent meaning, the things you chose to be meaningful are as valid as any other choice.

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  • [–] [S] 6 points 8 months ago (12 children)

    do you think that you should do what you enjoy at the expense of another person? like (in an extreme example) to harm/assault/ hurt someone because you enjoy it?

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  • [–] 15 points 8 months ago (2 children)

    I think hedonism is important, but it comes at a cost. The candle the burns twice as bright and all that. At the same time if you never fuck around, you'll never find out.

    I think far too often young people go through life thinking they already know who they are, instead of treating life as an opportunity to find out who they are. They become calcified, ossified in their beliefs about their own identity, a constant and repeated telling themselves of who they are in an effort to believe these things.

    An alternative approach is to try to break down who you are, repeatedly and continuously. To try new things, to change the situation. Leave a city without warning and move somewhere you don't know the language. Abandon your belongings, your phone, your identity and start over. Change the situation entirely. Begin to understand what is you and what is the world. If you move from place to place, and you find yourself always confronted by the same types of people, maybe you are seeing a reflection of something you are bringing with you from place to place.

    There is a very western identity of "knowing" who you are while simultaneously having done no exploration of who that person might be. I find it very curious.

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  • In regard to the second paragraph, I am very much a metaphoric horse who will not even be led to water, let alone drink. This has, unsurprisingly led to a great many humbling moments in my life. In regards to those who "know themselves", those who are most sure are those least humbled. Even if misfortune never visits you, always question yourself, your actions, and your intentions. You will find insights by doing this as a mindful part of your life.

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  • [–] 4 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (8 children)

    I don't know why you are being downvoted. This is an excellent question. Personally, no, but that's because I feel empathy towards other people and enjoy cooperation/community.

    However, imagine if you were born without empathy or even enjoyed hurting others. Does that make you a bad person? Our society would certainly see it that way. You would be ostracized/incarcerated for not being the same as others because you enjoy hurting people. But does that make your existence wrong? I don't think so. To be honest I don't think there is such a thing as wrong and right, just selfish and selfless behaviors.

    All this to say, I would say no and certainly don't condone it, but if you ask someone else they may say yes. Who is to say that either one of us is right?

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  • [–] 1 point 8 months ago (4 children)

    But who defines them? If there is no god to determine that then that belief is entirely subjective. What one person views as good will be bad to another. How do you determine who is right?

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  • Civilization and cooperation are intrinsic. The rules of human cooperation dictate rules of behaving. You do not require a god to establish murder and hording of resources and sexual violence as bad. They are defined as malum in sae for reason, in law.

    Community sets the rules, adjudication, and punishment regardless of the inspiration of the rule. A god can provide a framework but people can do it too.

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  • [–] 8 points 8 months ago* (2 children)

    Learn a second language and keep up with the language your parents speak. You will regret being a brat about not wanting to speak this language especially as your family members pass.

    Languages are the one thing that gets harder as you get older. Kinda why immersion schooling seems like a decent idea, even if it delays other skills a bit.

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  • [–] 8 points 8 months ago

    Do your best. Make the best choice you can and consciously decide against second-guessing yourself later. Feel free to learn about yourself from any inclination to second-guess, it could be your morals chaffing against your actions.

    Be kind. To those you love and those you don’t. Give yourself some grace when imperfections monopolize your focus.

    Learn about yourself. It’s going to be a lot easier to make decisions when you know yourself.

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  • [–] 7 points 8 months ago* (1 child)

    Dont do any drugs harder then psychedelics. But especially dont do opiates and benzos. I would rate opiates, besides, and alcohol as the worst drugs to use.

    Yes I am an alcoholic, but I avoided the other two. Honestly wish i had access to clean cocaine because id probably prefer that over drinking. Saving opiates for my elder years because im sure I will be hurting alot by then and will need them.

    However, its your body. You choose. Heck the rules. Isn't it obvious the rules never mattered? Some think it is a recent phenomenon, but we are only being publicly informed. it has always been true. Oh the slaves are free? Guess they are prisoners now (slaves).

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  • [–] 7 points 8 months ago* (3 children)

    Learn how to micro dose acid, lift weights and eat right, don't sell your soul to some corporation

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  • [–] 6 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

    There's usually more than 1 way to do something.

    Sometimes people get caught up on wanting to do it the best way, and then they just dont do it at all.

    If there's an easier, less ideal, maybe slightly more wasteful way to do something, and its the difference between doing it or not, just do it that way and dont get hung up on perfection if the alternative is not getting it done.

    If its something that needs to be built into a habit, it might be enough to get you started, and then maybe you can move on to the better way in the future.

    Edit: just to clarify, often times the outcome is the same but people get caught up on the how vs just getting it done. Don't get caught up on the best how if there's another way that'll also work that you will find easier to do.

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  • [–] 5 points 8 months ago (3 children)

    My advice would be not to listen to advice people on the internet give you.

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  • [–] [S] 3 points 8 months ago (2 children)

    Which would include your advice you're posting right now so then that means that they should listen to the advice people on the internet give you ?

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  • [–] 5 points 8 months ago (4 children)

    Does anyone have advice specific to adhd or neurodivergence in general? Things you found helped you that took time to realise?

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  • [–] 5 points 8 months ago* (1 child)

    It seems obvious now, but it took me too long to realize I don't have issues focusing on things, I just have a hard time focusing on things I'm not interested in. I was a terrible student in grade school and took some time off after I graduated before going to university. That time away allowed me to mature and gain the discipline I needed to get through the stuff I wasn't interested in. I then breezed through my major because I loved it.

    Don't spend as much energy on trying to improve the things that you're bad at. Figure out your strengths and lean into them.

    If you have ADHD, get medicated. While it's no replacement for good habits, it makes starting those good habits SO much easier. I wish I had started taking it 15 years sooner.

    If you also have ASD, a lot of people aren't going to understand you. The way you view the world is different. Be kind and be true to yourself and you'll meet lots of people who appreciate your difference.

    Spending time being doing nothing actually helps your focus later, boredom is good for you and actually promotes creativity.

    Don't multitask, you'll just end up half-assing every task.

    If you have the means, see a psychologist who specializes working with people who are neurodivergent. It will greatly improve your communication skills. If you're in a serious relationship, get couples counseling even if things are going great. This will help you break down any communication barriers before they have the opportunity to become resentment.

    I could keep adding to this list, but having an exercise routine is probably one of the best things I did to improve my focus. Plus I also get the long term health benefits of strength training.

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  • [–] [S] 2 points 8 months ago

    Be honest with yourself about your social battery. If a friend wants to watch a movie I try and tell them if I'm Down to hang and watch a movie so long as it's okay that I don't give it my undivided attention (aka are we gonna watch a slapstick comedy where I can check my phone or draw while watching or are we putting on Schindler's list).

    Being honest with my friends and partner as to where my focusing levels are at has saved a lot of conflict and has made people feel more respected (from what they've told me!)

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    Don't let your curiosity fade

    Maintain open minded compassion for those different from you

    Never be fully convinced you understand the best way to do anything

    In disputes between the affected and the unaffected give added weight to the most affected

    Learn to recognize a moral panic, and even if you have concerns related to it don't join in. It's the group dynamic equivalent of spiraling and catastrophizing.

    Don't drink your calories unless you want to gain weight

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  • [–] 3 points 8 months ago

    Don't buy your wife a wide vase. Just get her a normal sized one. Otherwise you'll have to buy twice as many flowers for the rest of your marriage.

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    I don't know about number four my friend. I was going through some of my old CD cases of that long ago and there's more than a few that I deeply regret.

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  • [–] 5 points 8 months ago

    My advice:

    1. Don't trust the advice of generations that have left a world worse that they were born into.

    2. molotov coktail instructions

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  • [–] 1 point 8 months ago

    Don't get too attached to anything.

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