cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/30147790

does anybody else go casually chat, go on a few dates, learn everything about each other go, show each other our favorite shows, binge then together, have tons of unprotected sex, learn new kinks, act like a married couple for a few months, then slowly fall out of love, start having poor communication and broken routines, paranoia and self insecurity sabotaging every opportunity to fix it, then just stop talking and become strangers, no, just me? okay. I'm fine.

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ain't got any plans for the day, hit me up

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  • [–] 28 points 1 year ago (4 children)
  • [–] 4 points 1 year ago

    As someone who had a few contradictory opininions from different doctors, one of which being BPD, it does sound a bit like something similar to what I sometimes experience, both easily getting to obsess over someone and to "forget" and to have to force myself to care later

    I would recommend professional help to OP, even tho I am somewhat skeptical of psychiatry myself (in the "its a new science and not rigorously measurable way"). It's not your friend's/partner's/etc. job to fix ya, and I myself ended up wanting to punish people for caring about me, that shit can break ya really suddenly, don't ignore early signs

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  • [–] 3 points 1 year ago

    Looking forward to better diagnostic tools for Relational 'TSDs than sorting pink blankets into Borderline and blue blankets into anger issues/not needing healthcare. The academics are working but we'll have to chemo the fascism to get grant money going to human services again lol

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  • [–] 26 points 1 year ago

    You had me in the first half

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  • [–] 20 points 1 year ago

    Reminds me of comedian, James Acaster saying that dating is just learning more about a person and slowly realizing that you don’t like them as much as you hoped you would.

    “I should have warned you, some of the jokes are sad.”

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  • [–] 19 points 1 year ago (1 child)
  • [–] 18 points 1 year ago* (1 child)

    When the mental illnesses sync up like how the planets align: the moment is rare, beautiful, frightening, exciting, and fleeting

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  • [–] 10 points 1 year ago

    Why the fuck would you out me like this

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  • [–] 12 points 1 year ago (3 children)

    I'm not sure about the unprotected sex

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  • [–] 6 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    If you're exclusive and both have no STDs, why not?

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  • [–] 8 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    if you're both cis, surprise baby

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  • [–] 5 points 1 year ago

    Oh right, straight sex. Duh. I suppose there are reversible surgical options to prevent conception, but I imagine most people don't do that. Completely slipped my mind that sex can result in children because of how that has never affected me, despite my wife and I joking about trying to get each other pregnant all the time.

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  • [–] 6 points 1 year ago

    🫠 im so in

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  • [–] 6 points 1 year ago

    Sounds good! 🥰 good new experiences

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  • [–] 5 points 1 year ago

    Pass. We could be friends, though.

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  • [+] 4 points 1 year ago* (7 children)
  • [–] 5 points 1 year ago (6 children)

    This is probably due to my personality but why would people go into a relationship just to end up abusing each other!?

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  • [–] 4 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    If you want something to remember her by and to also get her to remember you, the passwords

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  • [–] 5 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    For a serious answer, bad mental wellbeing

    Many people don't know how relationships are supposed to work, they only have had bad experiences and lack perspective, they had bad parents which thus weren't good role models, or they have mental health issues such as low self-esteem, or anxiety, or maybe even paranoia, and so on

    There's a whole host of reasons, but none of those reasons are rational. They're broken results from struggling people. It's important to try to be self-aware and figure out one's issues to avoid things end up like this

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago

    Sounds fun.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago

    are you me?

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago

    I can fix you.

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